Inde, chikondi cha tchuthi sichiri cha inu. Simumatsika kwambiri. Koma iwe ukugona pa gombe, ndipo munthu wokondweretsa akuyang'ana pa iwe. Ndipo simukudzimvetsa nokha: chifukwa chiyani mtima wanu umayamba kumenya kwambiri? Ndiye mukukumbukira: "Mulungu wanga! Nchifukwa chiyani ndikufunikira izi? Ndili ndi banja lomwelo! ". Pita ukapite mwamsanga. Koma mtima, wopusa, umapitirizabe kumenya ... Kodi chikuchitika ndi chiyani? Kodi mungagwirizane bwanji ndi izi? Ndipo kodi bukuli ndi lotani kwenikweni - ndi mlandu kapena chiwawa? Tiyeni tiwone izo.
KODI NDANI WOFUNIKA KUCHITA?
Azimayi onse amagawidwa m'magulu awiri - omwe ali "a" chikondi cha tchuthi, ndi omwe ali "otsutsana". Ndipo omwe ali "kwa", musati mudzipangire nokha! Ambiri, ngakhalenso ambiri, angakonde kukhala ndi "ulendo wapanyanja". Koma iwo samachita mantha. Kapena zinthu sizikukondwera. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amafotokoza kuti mkazi amakopeka ndi maukwati a tchuthi momveka bwino: m'menemo aliyense amakhala ndi chidwi chofunika kwambiri chokhala ndi chidwi cha wina. Kutamanda. Kuwoneka. Pofika pamapeto pake, iye amavekedwa, atavekedwa. Pezani munthu yemwe wapeza zosowa zofunikira kwambiri (chabwino, kupatulapo kuti amuna ena ali ndi chikhalidwe). Dziko la psyche lachimuna ndi losiyana kwambiri ndi lachikazi. Mwamuna akhoza kuyima yekha pamphepete mwa thanthwe, kuyang'ana nyanja, utsi, kubisa ndudu mu chikhwangwa kuchokera mphepo, ndipo iye adzakhala bwino. Chifukwa chiyani ali wabwino? Kodi akuganiza chiyani? Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji dziko lino? Mayi akhoza kuyima yekha pamphepete mwa thanthwe - koma kodi angakhale bwino? Mmodzi? Mwachidziwitso, amayembekeza kuti mwamuna adzawona momwe amakonzera kukongola kwa mlengalenga, adzamuyandikira, akukumbatira. Ndiyeno iwo palimodzi adzagonjetsa dziko lino.
Apa, kwenikweni, kusiyana konse. Mzimayi amamasula, pokhala mderali wa chidwi cha mwamuna. Mwachinsinsi, iye akulota dzanja lake atayika pa phewa lake. Pokhala yekha, amawoneka kuti akutha - amayamba kukhala wosadzikondweretsa yekha, zofunkha zake (ngakhale kuti molimba mtima adzitsimikizira kuti sakusowa aliyense ndipo iyeyo ndi wokondwa). Fotokozani izi monga mumakonda, mwachibadwa, zopanda pake, zofooka. Ndipo amafotokozedwa bwino mwa chirengedwe.
Inde, pofika ku nyanja, mukhoza kupaka, kusamba, kuyala tsitsi lanu monga choncho. Ndipotu, zambiri kuposa nyumba, nthawi imodzi, mumakhala "pagulu." Ndipo ngati anthu omwewa samayamikira kuyesayesa kwanu, mumadwala. Kodi mumajambula ndani? Mudzawonongedwa pa holide yonseyi. Mkazi, wokongoletsedwa, wadziwitsidwa, nthawizonse - mosadziwa, mosadzizindikira yekha - amachita zimenezi kwa mwamuna. Mwachidziwikire, sizilibe kanthu. Kapena sichoncho? Tiyeni tizimvetsera kwa amayi, othandizira maganizo osiyana. "Ndikufuna kufunsa zomwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amaganiza zokhudzana ndi maulendo a tchuthi ," Valeria K. akulemba. " Wokondedwa wanga amadzipeza yekha bwenzi la nyanja chaka chilichonse ndi amene amathera nthawi (osati pabedi!). Ndiyeno miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yomwe imanena. Ndikuwona kuti ali wonyada chifukwa amatha "kunyamula" mwamuna. Ndipo kwa ine ndekha, "kusaka" uku kumawoneka kochititsa manyazi. Zili ngati kukumbukira khalidwe la mahule. Ngati munthu akusowa, aloleni athamangire ine. Ndikusangalala ndi kusungulumwa, ndimayamikira chilengedwe, ndimawerenga mabuku, sindikusowa aliyense. Monga bwenzi langa, monga ine ndimanyoza. Amakhulupirira kuti "sitingathe" kukhala ndi chidwi ndi munthu. "
Zomwe zimawonekera. Valeria ali momwemo. Pali mtundu wina wa mpumulo wa mpumulo, "chithunzi" chotere, chomwe chimaphatikizapo nyanja, nyanjayi, maulendo akutali patali ndikuyenda ndi wachikondi pamtunda wamadzulo (dzifunseni nokha). "Zithunzi" timapatsidwa kwa ife ndi mafilimu, mapepala, malonda. Ndipo pali nyimbo zambiri za izo! Komabe, kodi mungapeze kuti "munthu wokonda" m'nthawi yathu ino? Chifukwa chake ambiri amakhutitsidwa ndi "munthu". Chilichonse. Ndipo nthawi zambiri m'madera amenewa mukuvutika maganizo kwambiri. Izi zikuwonekera ndi Sophia P: "Kawirikawiri ku Russia pali chithunzi cholakwika cha ulemu ndi khalidwe la mkazi. Mkazi, pafupi ndi kumene kulibe munthu, akutaya kale mtengo wake. Iye siye! Ziribe kanthu kuti munthu uyu ndi chidakwa, womanizer kapena nyama chabe. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho "kulowetsa." Mchemwali wanga ali m'kalasi yachisanu ndi chinayi. Kumeneko, cholinga chawo sichiri pa iwo omwe amaphunzira bwino (monga amanyoza), koma omwe amakhala pambali pazosi ndi ogonana. Amaonedwa ngati apamwamba. Ndipo ngati ndinu wophunzira wabwino kwambiri, mulibe chibwenzi, ndiye palibe, ndinu woyenera kuwamvera chisoni! Kodi mungakhale bwanji mumtundu umenewu? Chaka chino ndimapitanso ku nyanja limodzi ndi anzanga. Sitikufuna kukhala ndi maulendo a tchuthi, amuna akudwala ndi ife! Chifukwa chiyani ndi omwe amafunikira mabuku awa (samatanthauza chisangalalo chathupi)? Pamene mkazi sali wophunzira kwambiri, wopanda kanthu, akusowa chikondi choposa! Si choncho? "
KUKHALA "SWEET DREAM" SIKUDZIWA.
Lekani, tiyeni tigawanye malingaliro awiri - chosowa cha mkazi kwa munthuyo, chimene tachimayankhula pachiyambi, ndi "mafashoni." Ndi chinthu chimodzi - ngati muli ndi malingaliro awoeni, wina - ngati mupita ku tchuthi ndi kuika pazomwe mukufunikira kuti "mutenge munthu." Maganizo amadza okha, ndipo makonzedwe amapanga mafashoni. Onse awiri Valeria ndi Sophia ali olondola pamene akukamba za "mafashoni a maukwati a tchuthi". Chakumapeto kwa chilimwe amalemba pafupifupi magazini onse ndi nyuzipepala. Komabe - chidwi! - Malingana ndi ziwerengero za kumadzulo, chirichonse chiri chosiyana (mu Russia, mwatsoka, ziwerengero zoterezi sizikupezeka). Azimayi atatu pa atatu alionse amavomerezana kuti ali ndi chikondi cha tchuthi kwa zaka zisanu zapitazo. Ndipo mmodzi yekha pa asanu ndi awiri anayamba bukuli chaka chirichonse. Ndipo chibwenzi chokhalira pachibwenzi chinatha mwa akazi 12%! Choncho, kambiranani za ufulu wa makhalidwe abwino. Chinthu china ndi chakuti mafashoni ndi mafashoni. Akazi ambiri amayesa kukongoletsa malo awo panyanja. Azimayi ena amangotulukira nkhani zokhudzana ndi chikondi pamphepete mwa surf. Gawo linanso limatcha "buku" maulendo angapo madzulo pabanjapo ndi mnzako m'nyumba yogona. Koma Sophia akulakwitsa pamene akunena kuti chilakolako chokopa chidwi cha munthu chimatsimikizira "zachabechabe" za mkazi. M'mbuyomu, atsikana amakopanso chidwi, koma m'njira zina. Mwachidule iwo anauzidwa kukhala "malo". Zinali zosatheka kuyankhulana ndi mwamuna poyamba, kuti avomereze pomwepo pamsonkhano, ngakhale kuti palibe choyipa, ndi kukhalabe yekha ndi iye zinali zomveka kwambiri! Kuchokera kwa malingaliro a katswiri wamaganizo, khalidwe la amayi pa tchuthi kuyesera kukopa chidwi cha amuna ndilochibadwa. Kotero mwa mkazi chikhalidwe chake chimalankhula. Chikhalidwe chimapangidwira kuti mayi akhale mayi, kubala. Ndipo kuti tibereke, tikusowa munthu. Kotero, iwe uyenera kukopa munthu uyu mwiniwake. Momwe izo zimachitikira zimadalira chikhalidwe, poleredwa. Pano pali chidziwitso chomwe chimatsimikizira khalidwe la amayi (ngakhale kuti sichidzabereka, chibadwa chimawapangitsa iwo kukonda, kumvetsetsa, kupita kukaonana ndi mwamuna). Zingowonjezereka kuti zina mwazinthu izi zimatchulidwa, zina sizinthu, ndipo chachitatu ndizosautsika. Mowopsa kwambiri ndi momwe mungaperekere nzeru ku chifuniro, ndi kuchiletsa! Ndipo musadzipusitse nokha.
Pano pali nkhani yotsutsa. Catherine D. anapita kwa Sochi yekha. Mwamuna wanga anagwira ntchito, anawo adakhala ndi agogo aakazi mumudzi. Pa nyanja ya Catherine, ankaona kuti ndi wachinyamata komanso womasuka. Pa tsiku lachiwiri anakumana ndi woyandikana naye patebulo, ndipo patapita masiku awiri anali pabedi lake. Malingaliro ake, iye amatcha "kugona mokoma." Umenewu ndiye woyamba kumupereka kwa mwamuna wake kwa zaka zambiri. M'chilimwe chotsatira, Catherine anabwerezanso zomwe anakumana nazo. Palibe amene akanakhoza kulingalira pa chirichonse. Ndipo iye anasowa chidziwitso ndipo amadziwa za ngozi. Chimene chinachitika m'chilimwe pa malowa chinkawonekera kwa mtundu wina wa zofanana, filimu yomwe iye anali ndi gawo lalikulu. Zinali ngati kusangalatsa, osati m'moyo weniweni, sikunagwirizane ndi wamba. Pa chilimwe chachitatu, munthu wina wolimba mtima dzina lake Catherine ali ndi matenda aakulu, amene adamupatsira mwamuna wake. Panali chisokonezo, potsatira chisudzulo.
MUSALANDIZE ZOLINGA ZOPHUNZITSIRA.
Komabe, tisamawopseze owerenga okondedwa athu. Sizinthu zophweka komanso zosavuta. Zonse zimadalira mkhalidwe wanu komanso pa chisankho chanu! Ndipotu, ngati nthawi zonse mumadziletsa kuti musankhe mwachindunji, ndiye kuti simukudwala nthawi yaitali. Zingawoneke matenda, komanso mavuto a psyche, omwe akuphatikizidwa ndi kuphwanya kwa mahomoni. Izi zikuwonekera makamaka pa nkhani ya "atsikana akale". Choposa zonse, pochoka panyanja, musakhale ndi zolinga zilizonse. Ndizosamveka kudzipangira lingaliro la kukondana, komabe ndizosamveka kudziuza nokha mmene Sophia amachitira: "Palibe mabuku owerenga!" Dzikhulupirire nokha - malangizo abwino omwe angaperekedwe. Mlandu uliwonse ndi wapadera. Choncho bukuli limatchedwa spa, yomwe siimatha nthawi yaitali. Amatumikira zosangalatsa, akulimbana ndi malo osokoneza bongo. Choncho nthawi zambiri amakhumudwitsidwa ndi amayi omwe akuyembekezera kupeza mwamuna panyanja. Mavuto sali okwanira kwa iwo. Momwe Miraslav S akufotokozera buku lake: "Ndinapita ndi munthu uyu mu cafe, kupita ku disco, atangondiitanira kukwera mu bwato. Tinaperekeza dzuwa pa mlatho. Iwo anangoyenda pambali pa nyanja, ankanyamula zitsulo zamadzi. Ife tinali bwino osati osokonezeka palimodzi. Sindinadziwe ngati ndikufuna kuti andipsompsone kuti tidzakhale pamodzi. Ndinkachita mantha kuti mtundu wina wa chikondi chachisawawa udzatha. Mnyamatayo sanali wamanyazi. Kapena mwinamwake nayenso ankaopa kupasula chilichonse ndi chisangalalo cha miniti? Ndine woyamikira kwa iye. Ndinakhala chaka chonse ndikukumbukira masiku amenewo, kukambirana kwathu pa mlatho. Ndipo mwanjira ina ine sindikufuna kumutcha iye, kumayang'ana iye. Sindikudziwa nkomwe: mwinamwake iye wakwatira kale ... " .
Bukuli, lomwe liribe platonic, ndilofala. Amapangitsa munthu kukhala wokondwa. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo, amachititsa pafupifupi ntchito zonse zomwe wapatsidwa: mumathera nthawi, mukambirane mwachidwi, simuli nokha, koma ndi munthu, maganizo abwino amabadwa mwa inu. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri - musapweteke kusiya chifukwa ubale wanu sunayende kwambiri!
Nchifukwa chiyani mumasowa mwamuna panyanja?
Sankhani yankho lanu ndi kusankha ngati mukufunadi. Mwinamwake mukufuna zina?
• kuti zisakhale zosangalatsa;
• kukhala ndi chinachake choyenera kukumbukira;
• Kuti wina ateteze (ndizoopsa kuyenda yekha pa gombe usiku wina);
• Kuti wina atembenukire kukapempha thandizo, ngati kuli kofunikira (fungulo lololedwa, lotsegula botolo);
• Kuti mudziwe zambiri ndi munthu, ndibwino kudzidziwa nokha;
• Kukhala womasuka, wokondweretsa, kotero kuti zikhale za munthu wojambula ndi kuvala;
• kupeza chisangalalo;
• Ndikungofuna mwamuna ...