Komabe, tidzayesa kumvetsetsa zomwe zimakhudza maubwenzi mwanjira yabwino, ndi zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi onse omwe akufuna, popanda chiletso.
Kuonetsetsa kuti ubale ndi mwamuna sukhazikika, koma ukhoza kukhalapo kwanthawizonse, pali zifukwa zambiri zofunikira. Lero tikambirana zokhazokha, monga: chikondi, ulemu, kuleza mtima ndi nthawi. Tiyeni tione mfundo iliyonse mwatsatanetsatane.
Chikondi
Zokhumudwitsa ngati zikumveka, chikondi sichipezeka nthawi zonse mu chikondi chiyanjano. Ambiri aife tikuyesera kumanga mgwirizano pa "kupirira - kukondana", koma osati mfundo zonsezi zimathandiza. Mfundoyi, yotchulidwa ndi Omar Khayyam: "Ndi bwino kukhala ndekha kusiyana ndi wina aliyense," - nthawi zina zimatitsogolera ku chimwemwe, osati kuyesera kuti tiyanjane ndi munthu wosasangalala. Chilengedwe sichimalola kuti chiwawa chidzipire nokha. Ndipo ngati tikutsutsana ndi malingaliro athu, malingaliro ndi malingaliro, sizingatheke. Thupi lidzalephera, lomwe lingayambitse mantha, kukwiya komanso matenda ena.
Ambiri akulephera kulephera kuphunzitsa munthu wina. "Ndinamuuza za zomwe zinali" - ndilo lingaliro la amayi omwe akulimbana ndi kuyendetsa mphepo kufunafuna chikondi. Zaka zabwino kwambiri za moyo wawo angathe kuthera pa munthu wosayenera, osadziŵa kuti ndizosatheka kubwezeretsanso munthu wamkulu. Makamaka ngati sakufuna kusintha.
Kotero ngati mukufuna kuti chirichonse chikhale bwino ndi amuna, khulupirirani mu mtima mwanu. Yang'anani chikondi chanu mwanjira iliyonse, ndipo musadikire kuti nyanja isinthe. Ndipo kuti mukhale ndi zotsatira zabwino, yesani njira zanu zowonetsera komanso za banja. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti musamakondane ndi munthu wovuta. Zovuta, zimakhala zovuta kuchotsa malingaliro omwe agogo aakazi, azimayi, azimayi ndi amayi omwe, mwachitsanzo, amamwa anthu onse kapena kusintha. Koma ndikofunikira kuti muchite izi. Ndiyeno mtima wanu udzatsegulidwa kwa munthu woyenera yemwe adzasintha maganizo olakwika ndi malingaliro omwe adaphunziridwa kuyambira ali mwana, adzakupatsani chikhulupiriro mu chikondi.
Kuleza mtima
Chabwino, ngati pali chikondi. Komabe, sikokwanira kuti ikhale kosatha. Kuleza mtima kumafunikira ngakhale kwa mabanja omwe amakhala pamodzi kuti azikonda, osati chifukwa chofunikira.
Amuna ambiri okwatirana omwe akhala mosangalala limodzi kwa zaka khumi, makumi awiri kapena kuposerapo, amakhulupirira kuti chinsinsi chachikulu cha kupambana mu ubale wachikondi ndi kulankhulana wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo njira zenizeni zothetsera kukwiya ndi zophweka komanso zachilengedwe. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuzindikira kuti mwa anthu ena, choyamba, timakhumudwa ndi zofooka zomwe tili nazo. Скупердяи amakopera ku umbombo wa okwatirana, ngakhale ngati ukuganiza. Amuna achikazi amanyoza akazi awo ndi ulesi, ngakhale atayendayenda ngati kuti avulala. Ndipo akazi amatha nthawi zonse amakonda kuuza mabwenzi awo kuti mwamuna wawo ndi munthu wopepuka komanso wosafunika. Tsatirani khalidwe lanu, sungani zolemba zowopsya ndi mikangano, ndipo mudzadabwa kuona kuti mndandanda wa zovuta za wokondedwa wanu umene umakukhumudwitsani umakhala wogwirizana ndi mndandanda wa zovuta zanu.
Mbali ina yofunika yomwe imalola kuleza mtima ndi kuthekera kuima mu mkwiyo. Ngati mukumva kuti muli otentha, pitani mumsewu kapena mu chipinda china. Ndipo pitirizani kukangana pambuyo poyamba kutengeka kwa maganizo. Izi zimakupulumutsani mitsempha yanu ndipo imapewa mikangano yowopsya komanso yowonjezereka. Ngati palibe njira yotulukira, ndipo wokondedwayo akulimbikira kupitiriza kukambirana, gwiritsani ntchito mfundo "masekondi asanu ndi awiri". Musanayambe kuyankhula mwatsatanetsatane pa nkhani yosangalatsa, muwerengere asanu ndi awiri. Ndiye ndiye mumalankhula. Mphepo yamkuntho ya malingaliro ikhoza kuthetsedwa mu nthawi yaying'ono yotere, ndipo mawu osalungama mawu sangapulumuke m'lilankhulo lanu ndipo sangavulaze mnzanuyo pa moyo wake wonse ndi kukumbukira.
Ulemu
Chinsinsi cha kupambana kwa ubale wa chikondi sizingokhala kokha kwa kukhalapo kwa chikondi ndi chipiriro. Mbali ina yofunika imene mukufunika kuti mukhale nayo, kudzikongoletsa ndi kuyamikira ndi kulemekeza mnzanuyo.
Kupanda kulemekeza kumapangitsa kuti munthu asakhalenso ndi vuto linalake - m'maseŵera a pakompyuta, mowa mwauchidakwa kapena mopitirira muyeso. Ngati kunyalanyaza kwa theka lachiwiri kumachokera pachimake, ndiye izi zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chachikulu cholekanitsa chiyanjano.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuphunzira chidziwitso ichi kwa akazi a zidakwa. Chifukwa chodziwika kuti abambo achoke pa mowa ndi khalidwe lopanda ulemu, lodziletsa komanso losokoneza la wokondedwa wawo. Ndi chifukwa chake munthu mmodzi yemwe sangathe kumwa ndi mkazi mmodzi, ndikuyamba kugona ndi wina. Zili choncho kuti mkazi ali ndi mphamvu zothandizira mkhalidwe wake ndikupangitsa mwamuna wake kusiya kumwa. Mmodzi amangodziwa momwe angakhalire osungirako zinthu, kumuthandiza, kumulemekeza ndikumulimbikitsa panthawi yofooka.
Ndipo kawirikawiri ndikofunika - kuti muwone munthu amene mumagonana naye, kumulemekeza ndi zofuna zake, kumuthandiza kukwaniritsa zolinga zake. Nzosadabwitsa amanena kuti kumbuyo kwa munthu aliyense wopambana ndi munthu amene amakonda. Chikhulupiriro ndi chithandizo kuchokera kwa makolo, m'bale, mlongo kapena mkazi, mwamuna akhoza kukhala maziko a moyo wabwino. Ndipo pamene munthu ali wokondwa ndipo adzipeza yekha m'moyo uno, ndi kosavuta kuti amange ubale wa banja. Ndi chifukwa chake simuyenera kunyozetsa munthu, kuchepetsa ulemu ndi luso lake. Ndikofunika kuti mukhulupirire ndi kuzilemekeza monga momwe zilili.
Nthawi yolankhulana
Mabwenzi ambiri omwe amakwanitsa bwino amakana chifukwa chakuti okondana wina ndi mzake alibe nthawi ya wina ndi mzake. Ngati awonana wina ndi theka la ola madzulo ndi m'mawa, musamapumire pamodzi, musapite pa picnic, musagwirizanenso ndi moyo, ndiye kuti mgwirizanowu ukulephera.
Mu nyimbo yaukali ya moyo wamakono, n'zovuta kupeza nthawi yolankhulana bwino. Koma ndizofunikira kwambiri kuchita izi. Ndalama zonse zomwe simungapeze, choncho musataye mtima chifukwa cha ntchito yanu, kapena kuti ntchito yanu yabwino siidzasowa ndi wina aliyense kupatulapo inu.