Ndondomeko imodzi, koma aliyense wa ife ali ndi maganizo ake, zolinga zake, zifukwa zake. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Kodi kugonana kumatanthauza chiyani kwa ambiri? Nchifukwa chiyani zifukwa zimasiyanasiyana ndipo ndichifukwa chiyani? Tiyeni tiwone izo.
Kuzindikira anthu
Zachitika kale kuti kugonana lero ndi gawo la malonda, malonda ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Kugonana kwa ife lero kumatanthauza chinthu chofunika kwambiri, chokongola, chofunikira. Sitikuwoneka - asungwana okongola pa posters, zizindikiro, zizindikiro, zizindikiro, zomwe zimakopa kwambiri, chidwi ndi wogula. Kugonana lero kubisika m'mabuku ndi mafilimu, muzithunzi. Kusanthula protagonist wokondedwa kapena heroine, omwe apambana bwino m'dera - iwo amamasulidwa, achigololo komanso odzidalira. Wopambana ndi a fighters, mafilimu ndi mafilimu nthawi zambiri amakhala munthu wolimba mtima, amayenera kukhala wokonda anthu onse, osati achinyamata omwe sagwedezeka. Kugonana lero ndi imodzi mwa mafomu kuti tikwaniritse chikhalidwe cha anthu, kuti tikhale gawo la fano, kuti tidzipereke kwa zomwe timafuna. Timatsatira kugonana monga chipembedzo, ndikukhulupirira kuti kudzitengera kukhutira, chisangalalo ndi chidaliro.
Kuopa kusungulumwa
Aliyense wa ife, nthawi zina, amavutika ndi kusungulumwa. Nthawi zina, ngakhale titakhala ndi abwenzi komanso munthu wapafupi - timatha vseravno kumverera kuti ndi munthu yekhayo pa dziko lapansi. Ndipo ngakhale pali anthu ochuluka kwambiri, zikuwoneka kuti ife tonse ndife alendo, osadziŵa, osakonda. Munthu amafunitsitsa kuthawa kusungulumwa, mofanana ndi imfa. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zoopsa, zoopsya, zomwe zimalota usiku. Wokondedwa aliyense wa ife ali ndi chidutswa cha mantha awa, mtundu wina wopanda pake mkati, umene ukhoza kudzazidwa ndi munthu wina. Anthu amafunikira mgwirizano, timafunikira anthu ena, kulankhulana, ubwenzi, chikondi. Nthawi zina kukhala wopanda kanthu kuli kolimba kwambiri komanso kumawononga kwambiri ndipo tikuyesera kudzazaza ndi kugonana. Pambuyo pa kugonana ndi ubwenzi wapamtima, pafupi ndi anthu awiri. Kutulukira, kudalira, umodzi. Kugonana kumathandiza anthu kusungulumwa, kutsegulira munthu wina, kumudalira ndi kumulola kuthetsa mantha ake.
Ndikufuna ndikukhumba
Nthawi zina cholinga chogonana ndicho chilakolako ... kukonda kugonana. Ponseponse mwa mau amodzi akunena momwe zilili zabwino, zosangalatsa komanso zodabwitsa. Ndipotu, kugonana ndi chinthu chapadera. Ngati palibe chilakolako, timadzifunsa tokha. Aliyense wa ife akuwopa kukhala wachilendo mwanjira ina. Chikhumbochi chofala - chimagwirizana ndi gawo lina la anthu. Chikhumbo chokhala "ngati aliyense" chimatikakamiza ife ndi nerax. Ndipotu izi ndi "zachilendo". Ndipo kukhala wonyezimira kapena osakonda kugonana nthawi zambiri kumafanana ndi mkwiyo ndi manyazi, matenda. Koma simukufuna_ndizochilendo, makamaka ngati chiwerengero cha munthu wosakondweretsa kapena m'moyo wanu ndi nthawi yovuta. Kugonana ndi ntchito yochezeka kwambiri ndipo ili kwa inu. Sikofunika kuti muzisintha ndi mafelemu omwe mumakhala nawo komanso malemba ndi zikhalidwe. Ndikufuna kugonana kokha chifukwa ena amafuna kukhala opusa. Pakuti aliyense wa ife amabwera nthawi yake komanso chifukwa chake. Komanso, kudzipanga nokha ndi chinthu choipitsitsa chomwe mungaganize. Choncho, nkotheka kuti tipeze mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo, ndipo posakhalitsa ndikutaya kwathunthu chilakolakocho ngakhale ... kuti tipeze mantha. Kodi mukufunikira izi?
Zosangalatsa
Si chinsinsi chakuti kugonana kumabweretsa chisangalalo, malo omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito mu ubongo amachititsa kukhala ngati mankhwala. Koma sitikusamala za kudalira kugonana - zimangopindulitsa thupi lathu: kununkhiza bwino, kulemera ndi kuopsa kwa matenda a mtima, zodabwitsa mankhwala ovutika maganizo, mwayi wochuluka wa fuluwenza, komanso thanzi labwino. Ndipo chifukwa chosalemekeza n'chiyani?
Kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira
Kugonana ndi chimodzi mwa mawonekedwe a kudzikonda, kudzivomereza. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka kwa amuna, omwe amadziwa kuti kugonana kumatanthauza zambiri. Amuna ambiri amazindikira kuti kugonana ndi munthu "kupambana", kufuna kukhala ngati wamunthu, wolemekezeka kapena wojambula mafilimu ... Ndicho chifukwa chake pali chinthu china: Amuna amalankhulana za kupambana kwawo ndi zotsatirapo zawo zogonana, ndi akazi mosiyana ndi kudandaula. Ndipo mu izi pali choonadi china. Kwa amuna ambiri, kugonana ndi gawo la udindo, chinthu chofunikira pa moyo wawo, khalidwe lawo. Kwa amayi, iyi ndiyo njira yowonjezera kudzidalira. Mkazi aliyense amakonda kulakalaka, izi ndi zofunika kwa iwo. Ngati mkazi sakonda, adzafota, ngati duwa lomwe silinatengeke. Ngakhale kuti mtsikanayo amatha kusuntha ndi kugwedeza chibwenzi chake "nthawi zonse mumangoganiza, nthawi zonse mumandifuna, ndatopa kale, ndikudandaula", ngati "nyama" iyi imasiya mwadzidzidzi kufunafuna iyo, sichisamala zakununkhira kwake kokongola wokoma mtima ... iye adzakhumudwitsidwa. Kugonana kumathandiza mkazi kudzimva kuti akufuna, kudzimva yekha wokongola ndi wokondedwa. Kugonana kwa amuna kumadzetsa kudzidalira, kumatilola kukhala mfumu ya dziko lonse lapansi! Kwa kugonana kulikonse - iyi si njira yokha yolankhulirana, njira yolongosolera nokha, komanso kudziwonetsera nokha. Nthawi zina kugonana kumapatsa mphamvu ndi kudalira, zomwe ndizothandiza kwambiri.
Kwa munthu aliyense payekha kugonana angapeze chizindikiro chophiphiritsira, tanthauzo lomwe lingakhale lolimbikitsa ndi chifukwa.