Zimakhulupirira kuti zaka zomwe munthu amayamba kuganizira mozama za ubale weniweni ndi ukwati, zaka izi kwa makumi atatu ndi 35-37. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti akukwatirana, makamaka pa msinkhu uwu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kokha pambuyo pa zaka izi amayamba kulenga maukwati amphamvu kwambiri.
Mayankho osakwatirana ndi apadziko lonse pa funso limene amai akufunira kukhala pachibwenzi, ayi. Mu psychology pali lingaliro lakuti mwamuna aliyense ndi mkazi aliyense pa dziko lino ali ndi theka lake lachiwiri. Zimamveka chikondi, koma palinso mbali yotsutsa: zina zomwe Mulungu kapena chilengedwe adalengera kwa ife, mwinamwake oposa umodzi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati wina akuganiza kuti wataya chikondi cha moyo wake, izi ndi zochitika zazing'ono. Kawirikawiri amuna ndi akazi ali ndi mitu yeniyeni ya bwenzi la moyo wawo wamtsogolo, zomwe, mwa lingaliro lawo, ndizofunikira pachibwenzi cholimba. Chithunzichi chinayambika kuyambira ali mwana ndi wachibale wina wamwamuna kapena mkazi, ndipo m'zaka zaunyamata anawotcha phindu la mafano pakati pa oimba, owonetsa, nyenyezi za pa TV. Ndipo mazanamazana, kapena mazana mazana a anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo, ali oyenerera kwambiri fano ili.
Muzofala kwambiri, chifaniziro cha mkazi wabwino wa mtsogolo wamwamuna chimaponyedwa kuchokera kwa amayi ake. Koma ichi si chitsanzo cholimba. Mwana aliyense, kuyambira ndi zaka 4-5, ali ndi "wamkulu wamkulu" wake. Munthuyu nthawi zambiri ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, zomwe ndizo makhalidwe abwino, maganizo, ndi maganizo a wokonda m'tsogolo. Ngati mnyamatayo sakukhutitsidwa ndi chiyanjano ndi amayi, kumuopa, kapena kumusiya chifukwa cha ntchito yake, amatha kumupangira mkazi wina kukhala mwana wake. Ikhoza kukhala wachibwana, mphunzitsi, azakhali kapena agogo aakazi. Ngati mukufuna kuphunzira zofuna za munthu wina, yesetsani kupeza yemwe ali mkazi wamkulu kuyambira ali mwana, ndi amene iye analota kuti akwatire ali mwana wachinyamata. Mafunso onena za mtundu wanji wa mafilimu ndi ojambula kapena oimba omwe amawakonda, adzakhalanso osasangalatsa. Tawonani kuti makhalidwe a mayi ndi wamkulu wamkulu amapereka lingaliro la khalidwe losankhika ndi khalidwe la mkaziyo, ndipo zochitika za nyenyezi yomwe imakonda televizioni kawirikawiri zimasonyeza zomwe zimakonda pazomwe maonekedwe anu akuonekera.
Momwemo, ndi amuna angati, zolinga zambiri za mkazi zilipo. Komabe, palinso kuyesayesa kukhazikitsa chikhalidwe cha amai, omwe amuna amasankha kukwatira. Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa mtundu wa amai omwe amasankha maubwenzi abwino, kuyang'ana khalidwe lawo.
Achikondi
Munthu wotere amakhulupirira kuti m'banja tiyenera kutsogolo kwa maganizo, maganizo. Amayamikira kwambiri maganizo, mtendere wamaganizo ndi kusamala. Amagwiranso mantha ndi zinthu zina pa bedi, ngati sizikutumikiridwa bwino, mokondweretsa, mwachifundo komanso mwachikondi. Nkhani zowonongeka kwa iwo - m'malo khumi. Kotero ngati muli okonzeka kukwatira munthu wotere, mudzafunika kupirira ma antitics, pamene adzakupatsani chidebe cha maluwa, adagula ndalama zonse.
Mayi wamwamuna
Ngakhale kumasulidwa konse, pakadalibe amuna angapo amene amawona maziko a chikondi. Amuna amakonda akazi oterewa, omwe sakhala achichepere, omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala pa chikhalidwe chawo ndi otsika kwambiri. Mkazi wa kholo la makolo ayenera kukhala wamng'ono kuposa iye, wophunzira pang'ono, wopambana, kuchokera ku malo osauka. Amuna oterowo amakwatira mosavuta kukaona alendo ochokera ku mayiko ena oyandikana nawo kapena ochokera kumadera akutali. Amakonda kuphunzitsa aliyense woyandikana nawo, ndipo mkazi ayenera kumvera mkaziyo, moleza mtima kuchita mwatsatanetsatane malangizo ake, kumvetsera ziphunzitso za makhalidwe.
Mwamuna ndi "mwana"
Uyu ndi munthu wabwino yemwe amatha kupangitsa moyo wa wokondwa, wokondwa, wokhazikika. Kutseguka kwake ndi chisangalalo kumagonjetsa aliyense kuzungulira, iye amakhala mosavuta pakati pa kampani iliyonse. Nthawi zina zimapereka chithunzi cha chodzidzimutsa, okonzeka kuvala mkazi mmanja mwake ndikuchita malangizo ake onse ofunikira. Ichi ndi chinyengo chachinyengo, chifukwa ulamuliro mu chikhalidwe cha munthu woteroyo uliponso. Amangophimbidwa ndi vagaries, chithunzi cha kusowa thandizo komanso kuthandizidwa komwe kumamupangitsa mkazi kutenga maudindo ambiri a banja. Mwa amuna oterowo, kukonda maonekedwe kumawonekera momveka bwino - amawakonda akazi aakulu, akuluakulu. Kawirikawiri amakwatira akazi okalamba kuposa iwowo, ndi ana kuchokera ku banja lawo loyamba. Ndipo iwo amakhala mnyumba wina wamkulu wamkulu.
Otsutsana
Kuti agonjetse munthu woteroyo, munthu ayenera kukhala ndi chidziwitso chachitsulo, malingaliro abwino komanso kuti asakhale ndi mtima wokhazikika. Kawirikawiri munthu wotero samamwa, samasuta, kawirikawiri amadwala makhalidwe oipa monga kutchova njuga kapena kutengeka ndi makampani ochezeka. Chilichonse chimalowa m'nyumba, komanso kuchokera kwa mkaziyo amafunanso chimodzimodzi. Kumbuyo kwake, mkaziyo amamva ngati kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala. Ndikumangokhalira kumverera, mawu okhudza chikondi, ndi kumangoyankhula mumtima ndi munthu wotero sayenera kuyembekezera.
Odziimira okhaokha
Mtundu wovuta wa amuna omwe amagwirizana kwambiri ndi azimayi apamwamba pantchito. Amadziwa momwe angayesere mkazi wake, osati kumufunsa kuti akhale pampando panyumba, nthawi zambiri samasirira kupambana kwake, samakhala achisoni ndi anzake. Koma amafunanso maganizo omwewo payekha. Munthu woteroyo amasankha kukhala patali ndi aliyense woyandikana naye, ndipo kusokoneza kulikonse pa malo ake omwe kumamuchititsa mantha.
Wokonda zofanana
Akazi okha akhala akulimbana ndi ufulu wofanana ndi amuna. Tsopano ife tikuyenera kuti tisiye. Ambiri amuna ambiri akuyang'ana wofanana naye. Amafuna kuti mkazi wake azigwira ntchito mochuluka monga momwe amachitira, koma ali okonzeka kuthandiza pakhomo, kukhitchini. Amuna amenewa safuna kutenga chuma cha banja. Kawirikawiri amayesa kufotokoza bajeti zosiyana za mkazi ndi mwamuna, ndipo banja lirilonse limapangidwa mosiyanasiyana. Zimakhala zopanda nzeru kuyesa kukakamiza munthu wotere kuti akupatseni mphatso za mtengo wapatali ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Kwa nthawi ndithu iye adzapirira, ndiye adzapita kukafunafuna mkazi amene amamukonda. Mwamwayi, m'masiku athu mavuto ndi izi mwa amuna samawuka.