Psychotherapy si njira yokha yonyalanyaza pogona pabedi pokonzekera kupezeka. Mkhalidwe wathu, mwachidziwitso, mankhwala a moyo sakhala akudutsa mwa njira iyi. Koma ndi liti kwa inu abwenzi kapena ngakhale katswiri wa zamaganizo omwe munalankhula nawo, amalimbikitsa osati uphungu wokhudzana ndi maganizo, koma psychotherapy ya gulu - momwe angachitire?
Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chiri gulu la maganizo komanso momwe "limadzigwirira ntchito"? Kodi tingayembekezere chiyani kuchokera ku "gulu"? Kodi zingathandize motani, ndipo sizitani?
Kodi ndi magulu ati?
Uphungu wa maganizo ndi matenda a psychotherapy akugwirizana. Gulu la mankhwala ndi limodzi mwa mitundu ya uphungu, kapena kani, maphunziro aumwini.
Aliyense amapatsidwa nthawi pa gulu - ndipo ali ndi mwayi wapadera wolankhula ndi kumvedwa, kuti asapindule ndi munthu mmodzi, koma kuchokera kwa anthu ambiri. Pambuyo pake, "choonadi chodabwitsa" sichipezeka, ndipo ndi bwino kupeza momwe anthu osiyana amatha kuzindikira zochitika zina kapena ngakhale mawu.
Pamene muli "pabedi" (ndipotu - pa mpando wotsutsana ndi wodwala kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo) "kupachika" za moyo-tini, mumayankhula nokha. Zomwe zilipo - za abwenzi omwe salipo muofesi, mabwenzi ndi maubwenzi awo.
Mu gulu muli mphamvu zambiri. Pali njira mkati mwake. Ndipo ngati chiyanjano cha "katswiri wa zamaganizo-kasitomala" amaphunziridwa podutsa ndi kudutsa, adasanduka magawo osiyanasiyana ndi ndondomeko, ndiye mu gulu zonse ziri zosayembekezereka.
Uphungu wa maganizo - gulu la psychotherapy - limagwira ntchito ziwiri:
- Pamene mwachita mtundu wina wongolankhulana, "zikomo" zomwe simungathe kusunthira pamtunda wina (kapena ndi anthu apadera - aphunzitsi, ogulitsa, hams ... aliyense payekha).
- Mukakhala ndi "nokha", ndipo simungathe kuyembekezera njira zatsopano zolankhulirana ndikudziwonetsera nokha pamalo otetezeka.
Gulu ndi kampani yabwino
Ndizovuta kuti akuluakulu azikhala pamodzi ndi anthu amalingaliro. Anzanu omwe ali aang'ono komanso achinyamata, ophunzira a m'kalasi komanso ophunzira anzanga athawira kwa wina aliyense ... Ndipo tsopano munthu amene wapanga kale ali ndi malo awiri okha omwe mungadziwonetse nokha ngati munthu - ntchito ndi nyumba.
Koma kawirikawiri, ngakhale ngati mkazi ali ndi nthawi yochita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi kapena "zofuna zinazake" (ngakhale atapangidwa ndi iye yekha kapena bwenzi lake), ndiye kuti kuyankhulana sikungophatikizapo zokambirana zokondweretsa ndi zochitika zapakhomo. Ndipo izi si zokwanira kwa mkazi wamakono.
Uphungu wa maganizo - gulu la psychotherapy m'kupita kwanthawi limasonkhanitsa ndendende kampaniyo, yomwe imafuna ndikusangalala kuwonana osati pa nthawi yoikika. Komanso, chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za "thanzi" la gulu ndi chitukuko chake ndi misonkhano kunja kwa malo ochiritsira.
Gulu ndilochita masewera olimbitsa thupi
Malo otetezeka kumene mungathe kulankhula kapena kupusitsa, yesetsani ntchito yosazolowereka kapena kuchita nthawi yofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, nenani "ayi" kwa interlocutor yanu kapena muvomereze mokwanira. Inu mukuti, maluso awa ndi achibadwa ndipo ndi osavuta kugwira ntchito? Chabwino, yesetsani kuuza abwana anu kapena amayi anu ayi ...
Ndi maluso amtunduwu sangathe kuthana ndi uphungu wa maganizo - gulu la psychotherapy limagwira ntchito nthawi zambiri bwino.
Magulu ndi osiyana!
Magulu akhoza kukhala osiyana, malingana ndi zolinga ndi zolinga, udindo wa wodwala komanso gulu lomwelo. Koma kawirikawiri, iwo akhoza kugawidwa kukhala othandizira komanso "olimbikitsa." Nthawi yoyamba nthawi zambiri imakhala yokhulupilika, yofatsa, yosamala wina ndi mzake.
Gwiritsani ntchito pano pamtunda wozama, kukambirana zinthu zimenezo ndi mfundo zakuya zomwe simungauze ngakhale munthu wapafupi kwambiri. Koma ngati mukufuna kusintha mwamsanga - sankhani mtundu wosiyana.
Mtundu wachiwiri wa gulu uli ndi zotsatirazi. Anthu a gululi amangokhalirana kukondana wina ndi mzache, "nudge" ndikudzidzimutsa "malo" opweteka. Kuchita nawo gululi kumafuna mphamvu zamaganizo komanso chikhumbo chokula. Koma kupita patsogolo n'kofunika kwambiri.
Gulu ndi malo otetezeka
Ndizomwe zimakhala zomveka bwanji kulangiza uphungu, monga momwe gulu la psychotherapy limawonekera "lotseguka". Ndipo kubwera kwa gulu popanda chikhumbo chotsegula - zofanana ndi kusabweranso.
Chitetezo cha guluchi chimatsimikiziridwa ndi zifukwa zambiri.
> Kuchokera nthawi inayake gulu likulingalira kuti "litsekedwa" - i.e. zolemba zake zimakhala zamuyaya.
> "Tsegulani" mamembala onse - ndizosatheka kukhala chete. Kotero, chidziwitso chachinsinsi cha wina ndi mzake chidzakhala chimodzimodzi.
> Mungathe kukambirana zomwe zimachitika pa gulu ndi abwenzi, achibale, ogwira nawo ntchito, koma malinga ndi malamulo a gululo, simungatchule mayina enieni ndikupereka malangizo enieni, "omwe" angakhale. Popanda malire, zonsezi ndizokhazikitsidwa.
> Kulimbikira ndi chinthu chimene munthu wamakono samasowa. Choncho, pamisonkhano ya mlungu ndi umodzi (kapena bi-sabata), panthawi inayake, zithandizani kumverera malo awa ndipo gulu ili liri lotetezeka.
Zimene muyenera kuphunzira?
Ziri zovuta kufotokozera ndondomeko ya uphungu wokhudzana ndi maganizo - pasadakhale matenda a psychotherapy - uwu ndi mtundu wa mankhwala pomwe zodabwitsa kwambiri ziri.
Mphunzitsi akhoza kukonzekera "pulogalamu" yake - zomwe mungapereke gululo, kapena kupita kukonda zake. Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwana wamkulu wachikulire ndi mayi wokalamba yemwe akumuuza mwana wake zoyenera kuchita ndi momwe amachitira; Kuyankhulana kwabwino ndi bwana, zochitika, aphunzitsi mu sukulu ya mwana - zonsezi zikhoza kukambidwa pokambirana.
Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, patapita nthawi, pamene pali chikhulupiliro chochuluka mkati mwa gululo, zofuna za omwe akuphunzirazo zimayamba kugwirizana. Ndipo omwe "savutika" ndi vuto linalake, achoke kuchipatala kapena kupita ku magulu ena.
Choncho, gululo silingathe kutchula maphunziro apamwamba, ngakhale kuti ali ndi mphunzitsi, komanso ndi "maphunziro" nthawi zonse. Aliyense amathetsa mavuto omwe alipo, kapena padziko lonse, kapena onse, ndi ena.