Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zothandizira mabanja kwa chiwerewere ndi kusowa kwa kugonana ndi okwatirana. Maubwenzi apamtima ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri ya banja lovomerezeka, kusakhala ndi zibwenzi sikokwanira. Zimapezeka kuti mmodzi mwa abwenzi amasiya chilakolako, ndipo winayo akuyenera kupirira.
Okwatirana angakhale ndi mavuto opatsirana pogonana omwe sangathe kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli, chifukwa cha kugonana komweko m'mabanja oterewa kumagwera pa "zero". Othandizira angapeze kuti pali zifukwa zochepa zotsutsana pakati pa mafano ndi kuyamba kukhala, osakhala tiyi wina ndi mzake. Komabe, mgwilizano wogwirizana sungakhalepo popanda kugonana.
Mukhoza kupeza zifukwa zambiri ndi zifukwa zogonana, koma nthawi zambiri zimabisika, ndipo ngakhale wodwala kugonana sangadziwe nthawi yomweyo.
Vuto lalikulu kwambiri ndi chilakolako chokhala ndi mwana. Anthu okwatirana amachita zogonana pa masiku ena okha ndipo amaona kuti ndi udindo wawo, komanso chilakolako chachilendo. Iwo samachokera mu njira ya chisangalalo ndi zosangalatsa. Mavuto aakulu m'banja akhoza kuyamba pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ya chiyanjano choterocho.
Mimba imayambanso kugonana. Akazi amaopa kuvulaza mwana wamtsogolo. Chiwalo chachikazi chimayambanso kutenga mimba, chifukwa cha msinkhu wa libido. Anthu okwatirana amalingalira kuti mwamuna ayenera kumvetsetsa chikhalidwe chawo, koma theka lolimba laumunthu sagwirizana nthawi zonse ndi izi, zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano, zomwe zotsatizana zimatha kutha. Pakati pa mimba, abwenzi ayenera kukangana, osati onse kuthetsa chikhumbo.
Kuchepetsa chilakolako cha kugonana mosabisala kumatsogolera ku matenda opatsirana pambuyo pa ubongo. Amawonetsedwa mu kutopa, maganizo odzipha, osayesa moyo wa posachedwapa. Mkhalidwe wamaganizo a mkazi atabereka ukhoza kuphimbidwa, chifukwa nthawi zambiri kutopa, kukhumudwa ndi kusowa kwa chiwerewere sikungoganizidwe mozama. Kutalika kwa kuvutika maganizo kumadalira mgwirizano wa banja komanso mphamvu ya kuphulika kwa mahomoni. Pakapita nthawi, malo onse, koma pali chiopsezo kuti maganizo, ubwino wa orbiosis sungapezeke.
Moyo wapamtima umakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zambiri, kuphatikizapo nkhawa, kutopa, malaise, mantha a mimba yosafuna, kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu komanso kudzichepetsa. Komabe, vuto loopsya kwambiri, malingana ndi kugonana kwa amuna, ndi chizoloŵezi. Pamene mkuntho wa zilakolako ndi maganizo zimatha, maubwenzi amakhala owuma komanso opanda nzeru, okwatirana amakhala ndi moyo wawo. Chibwenzi chogonana chimasiya kubweretsa chisangalalo, chimakhala chizoloŵezi, ndipo kusowa kwa chiwalo chogonjetsa chikhumbo chimayambitsa chilakolako. Kugonana m'mabanja oterowo kungakhalepo monga mwambo wovomerezeka, ndipo m'kupita kwanthawi, ndikupita kumalo atsopano. Kwa kugonana sikunalipo panokha, amafunika kusungidwa, kukonzekera ndi kupsa mtima nthawi zonse ndi chidwi.
Pofuna kukonza chiyanjano, chokwanira chimawapangitsa kukhala abwino. Ngakhale mukamacheza ndi munthu wogonana, muyenera kuyang'aniridwa kuti asinthe, chifukwa akatswiri amapereka malangizo omveka bwino momwe angakulitsire ubale wawo. Mukhoza kukonzanso zinyumba m'nyumba, kupeza chilakolako chofanana, pitirizani ulendo wachikondi, koma zitsanzo zonsezi zikhonza kuthandizira okhawo omwe ali ndi maganizo abwino.
Kuti athetse mavuto a chiwerewere, palinso ngakhale sayansi yapadera - mankhwala opatsirana pogonana. Chimagwirizanitsa machitidwe a psychotherapy, omwe amachititsa kuti okwatirana akhudzidwe, kuthandizira kuchotsa chigwirizano cha kugonana ndi mabere. Chifukwa cha chithandizo, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti zinthu zosayembekezeka zingachitike monga "kusweka", mwachitsanzo, kuti atabereka ana mwamuna kapena mkazi amamuona ngati wachibale wake (amayi, mlongo). Monga ntchito yake, mwamunayo amangoona chisamaliro cha wokondedwa wake yekha, kuthetsa mavuto ake, koma zonena za kugonana zimaperekedwa mosadziŵa. Mwa kuyang'ana kwa wokondedwayo, palibe chikoka chogonana, koma chikondi cha chikondi ndi chikondi chimapitirira.
Mabanja ambiri sangathe kuthetsa mavuto a moyo wa kugonana kwa munthu wodziimira yekha, koma chokhumudwitsa n'chakuti ambiri samayesa kuwathetsa, akudzikhutitsa okha kuti amakhala moyo wamphumphu. Kugonana - chigwirizano cha mgwirizano wa banja, komanso kupezeka kwake kungafanane ndi bomba lochedwa.