Zosiyana za moyo wapamtima wa mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense ndizo zitsimikizo za moyo wautali komanso wachimwemwe. Zikudziwika kuti kwa nthawi yoyamba Agiriki akale ankayamba kuchita zolimbitsa pamlomo, monga zikuwonetseratu ndi graffiti zolaula, zomwe anapeza ndi akatswiri ofukula zinthu zakale pamakoma. Komabe, padziko lonse, kugonana kwachamwa kumadziwika bwino monga chikondi cha French. Ziwerengero za masiku ano zikusonyeza kuti mabanja oposa 50% mu France kamodzi pa sabata amakondana malo amodzi ndi okamwa.
Malingaliro okhudza kugonana asintha kwazaka zambiri. Ngati anthu akale ankachita zosangalatsa zakuthupi monga zochitika zachilengedwe, ndiye kuti pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka za pakati pa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri (50) ankaona ngati chinthu choletsedwa komanso chochititsa manyazi.
M'nthaŵi zathu, abambo ndi amai ambiri samaimira moyo wawo popanda chikondi mu French. Milomo yonse ndi malirime samadziwa mpikisano ndi chidwi chawo, ndipo motero amatha kupatsa wokondedwa zosangalatsa zakusangalatsa komanso zozizwitsa zabwino.
Ambiri angapo, mwina, angayesetse kumvetsera mowa, koma taganizirani ntchitoyi yonyansa komanso yosasamala. Pofuna kuthetseratu zovuta zonse zosafunika, anthu ogonana amavomereza kuti asanalowetse kugonana asambe. Ndikofunika kukhulupirira kuti fungo la ziwalo zogonana, kukoma kwa ziwalo zoberekera kungakhale kosangalatsa. Chifukwa cha ichi, munthu ayenera kusunga ukhondo ndi kukhala wathanzi.
Amayi ambiri amawopa kuti sangathe kumasangalatsa munthu milomo yokha, amaopa kukhumudwitsa kapena kukhumudwitsa. Zonse zomwe mungaphunzire, muyenera kuyesa zinthu zatsopano pang'onopang'ono, mvetserani chidwi chanu, penyani zomwe mnzanuyo akuchita. Muwiri, okondana wina ndi mzake, chifundo ndi kumvetsa kumakula kokha ndi zaka.
Amayi ambiri amanena kuti umuna ndi chinthu chosasangalatsa, chosasangalatsa komanso chovulaza. Zinganenedwe motsimikiza kuti izi ndizo lingaliro la amayi omwe sanayesere mapuloteni a amuna. Palibe choopsa chomwe chidzachitike, ngakhale mutatenga pang'ono. Palibe choipa kwa thupi ndi chimbudzi chomwe chidzachita. Koma mfundo yakuti njere ili ndi zodzikongoletsera zokwanira zatsimikiziridwa kwa nthawi yaitali.
Kawirikawiri otsutsa a French amapsyopsyona ndi akazi. Koma palinso zochitika zomwe wokondedwa amafuna zofooka zoterozo, ndipo mwamuna wake akuchita mantha, amayamba kumuimba mlandu wonyansa komanso chikhalidwe. Pali mafunso pomwe mayi adaphunzira izi, nsanje yopanda nzeru ndipo chifukwa chake pali kusakhulupirika. Zinthu zoterezi zikhoza kupewedwa ngati mutayamba kunena zakukhumba kwanu ndi kukonzekera kuchita chiwerewere.
Pakati pa anthu pali malingaliro omwe amuna amavomereza zovuta 69 - pamene n'kotheka kugwirizanitsa ziwalo zogonana. Komabe, anthu ogonana amakhulupirira kuti izi sizimakulolani kuti muzitha kupuma mokwanira, komanso kuti mupeze chipsinjo pamene mukupsompsonana mnzanu simungathe. Koma monga chithunzithunzi, vutoli ndi lopambana kwambiri.
Monga kusiyana kwa mitundu yosiyana ya moyo wapamtima wa okwatirana, mukhoza kuyesa chikondi mu French m'malo osayenera, mwachitsanzo, m'galimoto, chipinda chodyera chodyera, pa sitima, pa sitima kapena pamalo ena aliwonse omwe mukulakalaka chilakolako chogonana.