Ndipotu, zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi sizomwe mumaganizira. Inde, abwenzi anu ambiri kale ali ndi ubale ndi anyamata. Koma! Kumbukirani kuti nkhani zawo zonse ndi kudzikuza zili kutali ndi choonadi. Tsopano zikuwoneka kuti inu simunama, koma kwenikweni, choncho. Koma iwo amanama kwa inu kapena kwa iwo okha. Ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi, anyamata samaganizira za maubwenzi akuluakulu. Inde, iwo amakonda kukambirana, kumpsompsona, ndipo mwina, kugonana. Koma iwo samalota kanthu kalikonse koopsa, mosiyana ndi inu.
Ngati mukuti: Ndili ndi zaka 16 ndipo ndilibenso chibwenzi, ndiye kuti achinyamata samangoona zomwe akuwona mwa ena. Ndipo sizoipa, ndi zabwino kwambiri. Ndili ndi zaka zomwe mukumvetsa. Pakadali pano, ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi. Kodi mumaganizira bwanji misonkhano yanu yachikondi, masiku, maubwenzi?
Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi chiyanjano ndi mnyamata wachikulire kwambiri, yankhani moona mtima - kodi mwakonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi. Zovuta kwenikweni. Mnyamata yemwe ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi awiri, amafuna kuona wamkulu, wanzeru, msungwana wokhazikika yemwe angathe kuthandiza ndi kuthandizira, zomwe zingamvetse mavuto ake. Ndipo khulupirirani ine, pa msinkhu wake iwo ali aakulu kwambiri kuposa inu. Kodi mungakhale naye pamene kuli kofunikira, kupeza chinenero chofanana ndi abwenzi ake, kukhala nawo ofanana nawo? Ngati chinachake chimuchitikira, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wokwera tekisi ndikufika kumapeto ena a mzindawo? Ndikukhoza kukufunsani mafunso ambirimbiri. Kodi mungayankhe movomerezeka? Inde, ngati ndi mnyamata yemwe ali ndi sukulu yophunzitsa ntchito yopanda ntchito pakhomo lanu, ndiye simungaganize. Koma kodi mukuzisowa? Ngati mumayamba zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi ndi wina woopsa, ndiye kuti muli ndi zaka makumi awiri ndi ziwiri mukukhala osangalala ndi Vasya wa zaka makumi anayi akumwa mowa mwachangu. Ndiye taganizirani mozama, mungathe kukhala pafupi ndi munthu wamkulu wachikulire.
Tsoka ilo, ngakhale ngati ndinu msungwana wanzeru ndi wa erudite yemwe amamva kuti ndi wamkulu kuposa anzako, mukakhala ndi mnyamata wotere mudzakali mwana. Ndipo palibe cholakwika ndi icho. Panthawiyi, kusiyana kwa zaka ndizovuta. Ngakhale mnyamata atakukonda, ubale wotere sukhalitsa nthawi yaitali, chifukwa mumakhalidwe anu nthawi zonse padzakhala "kuchepa" komwe kumakhala kofanana ndi msinkhu wanu. Ndipo, monga ndanenera, amafunikira mtsikana wachikulire yemwe amadziwa kukhala wanzeru, kupanga zosamalirana komanso osadziwa kanthu kena ka moyo. Kotero pakali pano, anyamata awa si anu.
Ngati mukufuna kukomana ndi anzanu, muyenera kuiwala za chikondi chilichonse. Chilichonse chimene mumapeza ndi malo ogulitsira, ndipo ngakhale apo sikuti akhoza kukutsogolerani kumeneko. Zidzakhalapo ngati mwanayo ali ndi makolo olemera. Inde, akhoza kupeza chinthu chake, koma ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi amatha kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zambiri pamasewero otsatirako kapena chigamulo osati pa mtsikana. Choncho konzekerani kuti mudye madzulo pa benchi ya botolo la mowa. Ngati simukukonda zoterozi, ndiye kuti simukusowa mnyamata.
Kumvetsetsa, pa msinkhu umenewo, ndi ochepa okha omwe angapereke chinachake kwa mtsikana. Ambiri mwa achinyamata amaganiza za kugonana ndi mowa basi. Ndipo atsikana ambiri amasangalala nazo. Kodi mukufunadi izi? Ngati inde - pitani patsogolo. Onetsani kuti ndinu ofanana ndi ena onse ndipo mudzakhala ndi chibwenzi. Ndipo mudzakondwera ndi imvi.
Ndili ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi ndikuwoneka kuti ndinu wamkulu kwambiri ndipo moyo watha, chifukwa aliyense ali ndi winawake, ndipo simukutero. Koma khulupirirani ine, zidzatenga zaka zingapo ndi zinthu zofunika kusintha. Atsikana ambiri ndiye amadzichitira okha manyazi chifukwa cha khalidwe lawo komanso kusalakwitsa. Maximalism yachinyamata imatikakamiza kuti titsatire khamu. Timagula zovala, timasankha subculture, timapeza mnyamata kuti azitsatira ena, kuti asaseke m'kalasi kuti asanyoze kampaniyo. Ndipo ndi ochepa chabe amene angatsutse izi ndikupita njira yawo. Ngati abwenzi anu samvetsa izi ndipo samayamikira, ngati sangathe kukuthandizani momwe mulili, ndiye kuti si achikulire konse, osakhala abwenzi konse. Anthu omwe anakulira ku ubale weniweni sadzatsutsa chibwenzi chifukwa chosakhala ndi chibwenzi. Izo nthawizonse zimathetsa vuto. Pamene mukukula, mumayamba kumvetsetsa kuti chikondi sichibwera mosavuta, ndipo tsopano sichikanafuna kuzisiya "kukhala." Atsikana ambiri amanena kuti ndi bwino kukhala nokha kwa kanthawi, kukhala ndi moyo wokondweretsa.
Choncho musadandaule kwambiri chifukwa mulibe chibwenzi. Inde, tsopano chirichonse chikuwoneka chowopsya ndi chokonyansa, koma sichoncho ayi. Muzaka zingapo mudzaseka mosakayika mavuto awa.
Ganizirani, kodi mukufuna mnyamata kapena chikondi? Ngati chikondi, ndiye chimadza pamene chidachitika ndipo palibe chimene mungachite. Ngati mwakonzeka kumupeza pa khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi - mudzapeza, mosayembekezereka komanso kumene simukuyembekezera. Koma ngati, chikondi chiyenera kuonekera patapita kanthawi, osadandaula, kuzunzika ndi kumvetsera maganizo a anthu ochepa. Ndi bwino kugwiritsa ntchito unyamata wanu pa zokopa zosiyanasiyana, odziwa atsopano, kulankhulana ndi kupeza mabwenzi, osati misonzi ndi kupsinjika chifukwa cha anyamata omwe ali akadakali anyamata. Ganizirani za izo, ndipo musaleke kudandaula. Mu chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri, chirichonse chidzakhala chosiyana. Mudzayamba kuphunzira ku yunivesite ndipo mukumvetsa kuti anyamata omwe mudakulankhulana nawo musanakhalepo ndi mitundu yonse ya abambo. Pakalipano, musamalangize iwo amene akufuna kukukhumudwitsani ndikukunyengani chifukwa cha kusowa kwa mnyamata.
Kukhalapo kwa anthu osauka ndi kunyada kwa iwo omwe alibe chodzitama nacho. Kumbukirani izi moyenera ndipo musaziyerekezere ndizo, potsutsana ndi mfundoyi: "O, ndili kale zaka 16, koma ndilibenso mnyamata - mwina, ndikuwopsya, ndikuipa komanso wosangalatsa" sikoyenera. Iwe ulibe mnyamata, osati chifukwa iwe uli woipitsitsa, koma chifukwa iwe, mosiyana, ndi bwinoko. Ndipo zofuna zanu kwa amuna ndi apamwamba. Mukamakula mpaka pachiyanjano, pamene achinyamata amakula kwa iwo, simudzakhala ndi mnyamata, koma wokondedwa.