Tiyeni tisakane zoonekeratu. Mkazi ndi cholengedwa chosemphana ndipo sangazindikire nthawi zonse zokhumba zake. Dzulo tinkafuna kugonana mwachiwerewere, ndipo lero kubwereza kwa script sikukhutiritsa ife. Sizomveka kumvetsetsa zomwe akazi amafuna.
Dziwani zokhumba zanu.
Nthawi zina ifeyo sitingathe kufotokoza bwino zilakolako zathu. Zikuwoneka kuti ndife osamvetsetseka, osamveka. Koma muyenera kudzikumba nokha mpaka kufika pomwepo, ndipo mudzawona kuti maloto anu alidi konkire. Njira yodalirika yomvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika mumutu mwanu ndikutenga cholembera ndi pensulo ndikuyamba kulemba "maganizo osadziwika" omwewo. Papepala, tiyenela kupanga zofuna zathu. Musachite mantha ngati ziganizozo poyamba zikuwoneka zopanda pake. Izi ndi zachilendo. Mukamaganiza kuti mwatsanulira zonse, muwerenge zomwe mwalemba ndikuyesera kufotokozera zomwe zili mu ndime imodzi. Ndiye - mu mizere iwiri. Ndipo potsiriza - mwachidule. Mawu awiri omalizira ndiwo chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa chiwerewere. Iwo ndiwo quintessence wa chikhumbo chanu.
Zoonadi, sitidzatha kugwira ntchito molondola popanda kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo linalake. Amuna enieni amafunika kuwerenga kuwerenga malingaliro, kuyesa kufotokoza malingaliro athu osadziwika omwe abisika mu mfundo. Monga zisankho zimasonyezera, ambiri a ife tikufuna, koma sitingathe kufotokozera malingaliro ofunika. Mwachitsanzo, chofunika kwambiri pa umoyo wathu wa kugonana ndi zizindikiro zowonjezera zowonongeka mwazochita mwachikondi, mphatso zosadziŵika ndi zoyamika zoyambirira.
Zofunika kwambiri.
Kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe pakati pa kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi ndiko kudalira kwakukulu pa zisonkhezero zakunja. Ngati mwamuna, akapeza kuti ali pabedi, amasintha mpaka kugonana ndikuiwala za mavuto ogwira ntchito, galimoto yosweka ndi kukangana kwa m'mawa pa kapu yamatsuko, ndiye kuti mkazi akhoza kuthetsa chilakolako cha kugonana kwathunthu, kulola kukhumudwa ndi zovuta zazing'ono. Kugonana kwa ife ndi kupitiriza kwa tsiku lonse, kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi moyo wathu wonse. Ngati tsikulo lidayamba kukhala wamanjenje, mwachiwonekere, mudzafuna kutulutsa maganizo, kuchotsana zovala. Ngati "waulesi" - mphamvu ndi yokwanira kwa kanthawi kochepa kupanga chikondi musanagone. Ngati simungathe kukondwa, mpaka mutagwirizanitsa ndi mwamuna wanu, ngakhale kuti sakuganiza kuti mumakangana, muuzeni za izo. Koma musakokomeze mitunduyo. Osati "Kodi mungachite bwanji izi?", Koma "Mukudziwa, ndimangokhala wosasangalatsa chifukwa cha kukangana kwa m'mawa. Tiyeni tipange kachiwiri? "
Musaope zosiyana.
Azimayi, monga amuna, amakonda kugonana, koma nthawi zambiri amawopa kuti avomereze. Monga kafukufuku wosadziwika, pa zikwi zikwi za anthu omwe anafunsidwa, 46% akufuna kuyesa kugonana kwa abambo, 20% ali ndi chidwi ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndipo pafupifupi onse (90%) akulota kukhudzika kwa kudzipereka pa malo osayembekezeka. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani timavomereza? Chodabwitsa n'chakuti amayi ambiri amaopa zomwe mnzanuyo angachite. Koma ngati simukudziwa kuti mukuvomereza, ichi si chifukwa choti mukhale chete kwamuyaya. Sikofunika kulankhula za zokhumba zanu "pamphumi", poyamba yesani kuwonera kanema palimodzi, mwachitsanzo, ndi zinthu zogonana. Ndipo mutatha kugwirizana, funsani mwamuna wanu momwe akumvera. Mwinamwake, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu adzawonekera molimba mtima ndi mayankho ake, ndipo mutha kukambapo za izi.
Tatsimikiza kusintha.
Tonse ndife ozunzidwa ndi zizoloŵezi zathu. Pamene timakonda chinachake, ndife okonzeka kubwereza mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo motalika pomwe chinthu chimodzi chofanana sichitentha kwambiri kotero kuti chidzapereka chimodzimodzi chotsutsana. Inde, n'zovuta kukana phwando lomwe nthawi ina linagwira "ndi bang". Koma ndi njirayi, kugonana posakhalitsa kumakhala malangizo omwe amadziwika bwino kwambiri: kupsompsona apa, kupitilira apo, kukwapula, kupaka ndi zina zotero. Njira yeniyeni yothetsera chizolowezi chogonana ndiyo kusintha nthawi, malo kapena ndondomeko ya chiyanjano cha chikondi. Ndi chifukwa cha izi kuti muphunzire zofuna zanu ndipo khalani okonzeka kuchita khama. Yesetsani kupanga chikondi mu malo atsopano kapena m'malo atsopano kapena kusintha kayendedwe ka chikondi. Mwachitsanzo, kugonana - kukonda, kukwiya - kusewera. Musamangokhalira kukonda banja, koma kuwononga.
Musagone nokha.
Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, kukambirana pakati pa zibwenzi ndi phindu lalikulu. Kwa amuna ambiri, ndikofunika kudziwa zomwe mkazi amafuna pazogonana ndi zomwe amachita zomwe angakhale nazo. Polankhula mosapita m'mbali zokhumba zanu, mukhoza kuthandiza mnzanuyo kumvetsa zomwe akuchita, ndi cholakwika. Kuwonjezera kwina kwa kuyankhulana pa nkhani zakuya ndikuti zokambirana zoterezi zimalimbikitsa chilakolako cha kugonana ndikupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta. Zilibe kanthu kaya ndikuti bwanji, chinthu chachikulu ndikutseguka ndi kudalira. Ndikhulupirire, mawu omwe angakupangitseni kukhala omasuka, angapereke kuwala kosayerekezereka kwa moyo wanu wa kugonana.
Konzekerani kugonana.
Akazi amavutika kuti asinthe komanso atangotha tsiku la maola 8, kukonzekera chakudya chamadzulo ndi kuyeretsa kuti azigonana. Tengani nthawi yokwanira ya mphindi khumi ndikudzipatulira nokha - yesani kulakalaka. Choyamba, dziyeretseni nokha: sambani ndikutsitsa tsitsi. Ngakhale mutapanga chikondi ndi mwamuna wanu, ichi si chifukwa choti musamadziyang'anitse nokha ndi kugona muzipangizo zakale za flannel. Chachiwiri, yesetsani nokha mu mawu ovuta kwambiri a mawuwo. Samalani makampani anu, musamalire mimba yanu mozungulira, alowetsani m'kamwa mwanu. Wokondedwa wanu adzadabwa kwambiri ndi chilakolako chanu chachilendo. Komanso zisanakhale zosangalatsa za chikondi, zimapweteka kumwa zakumwa, kapu ya vinyo, kapu ya mowa. Chakumwa pang'ono chidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala komanso kuti mukhale ndi chikondi.
Musakhale chete.
Ambiri ndi amuna omwe ali okonzeka kukwanira komanso chidwi ndi zomwe akazi amafuna. Ena angayambe kuganiza kuti mkazi amamangirira pa ulemu wawo wamwamuna ndipo amalepheretsa "malamulo" (kuchokera kwa amuna ammudzi) kuti adziwe momwe zidzakhalire. Njira yosavuta yolankhulira zosowa zanu pachiyambi cha chiyanjano. Pokhala ndi ubale wokhazikika, wa nthawi yaitali, ndi bwino kuyang'anitsitsa zochita za munthu ndikuonetsetsa kuti mumutamanda pamene "akugonjetsa." Fotokozani kuyamikira kwanu kawiri konse - patangotha tsiku limodzi kapena awiri kenako. Mwachitsanzo, kutumiza SMS pa zochitika zabwino. Mutha kuyesetsanso kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane za "maloto anu", omwe, popanda kukayikira, akuwuzani za khalidwe lofunidwa ndi zomwe zimawonekera bwino. Njira ina ndi kugwiritsa ntchito magwero atatu. Mwachitsanzo, tchulani nkhani yomwe mukuwerenga kapena kuwonetsera TV ndikufunseni momwe osankhidwa anu akutchulira uthenga watsopano kwa inu.
Zotsutsana zokhudzana ndi kugonana.
Amakhulupirira kuti akazi samakonda zolaula. Osati zoona! Malinga ndi kafukufuku wosadziwika, amayi pafupifupi 60% amaonera mafilimu olaula ndi chidwi. Zili choncho kuti sitimangoganizira amuna okhaokha. Zina mwa izo, mafanizidwe oterewa ndi 10-12% okha.
Nthano ingathenso kutchedwa kuti amai akhoza kuchita popanda kugonana. Choyamba, sizomwe zachipatala zakale zapitazo zimagwirizanitsa chiopsezo cha amayi ndi kusakhutira ndi kugonana. Maganizo a maganizo, osapeza njira yothetsera kugonana, angabweretse nkhawa, kugona tulo komanso kusokonezeka kwa mantha. Chachiwiri, kusowa kwa kugonana kumakhala ndi mthupi lathu, zomwe zingayambitse matenda aakulu.
Chowonadi chakuti akazi amasangalala kwambiri kuposa amuna, ndizongoganiza chabe. Asayansi a ku America asayansi amatsutsa izi. Anayesa kuchuluka kwa chisangalalo cha abambo ndi amai pamene akuwonerera zochitika zowonongeka ndikuganiza kuti onse abambo ndi amai amafika pachimake pa chiwerewere panthawi yomweyo. Chinthu china ndi chakuti muzochitika zachilendo, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti amai azigonana pogonana chifukwa cha nkhawa ndi malingaliro oipa.
Zikuoneka kuti chinthu chachikulu cha chiwerewere sichiri chowoneka bwino komanso chiwonetsero chokongola. Kugonana kwachikazi ndi, koposa zonse, malingaliro anu, malingaliro ndi zikhumbo. Ndi mgwirizano pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu. Ndipo ngakhale sitimamvetsetsana nthawi zonse, vuto likhoza kugonjetsedwa ngati chilakolako ndi chikondi zikuyaka mu moyo.