Poyang'ana amuna achiarabu, amayi ambiri amawona kuti ali ndi malingaliro m'maganizo mwawo mmalo mwa malingaliro, ndipo vinyo wopenga amapitirira kupyola mitsempha. Amadziŵa kusinthasintha, kumwa mowa ndi kuyamikira kwawo, zomwe amayi athu sanamvepo m'moyo. Amapereka mkaziyo nkhani yomwe amalota, ndikudziwa momwe angaperekere fanizo ponena za tanthauzo la moyo komanso chikondi chosaoneka chimene adawona m'maso mwake. Kodi luso limeneli la anthu akum'maiko akunyengerera, nchiani chomwe chiri kumbuyo mawu okongola awa ndi chiyani chenicheni cha kugonana pakati pa amuna achiarabu? Werengani nkhaniyi pansipa.
Zonse zimayamba ndi chipembedzo
Chipembedzo cha Aarabu ndi Islam, pazokha ndizolimbikitsa zogonana. Mohammed, monga momwe amachitira masiku ake, adasiyanitsidwa ndi chidwi chapadera ndi chidziwitso. Unali umunthu wa Mneneri Muhammad yemwe adalimbikitsa mtima wapamwamba, wowona mtima pa kugonana kuposa, mwachitsanzo, mu Chiyuda kapena Chikhristu. Malinga ndi Qur'an, panthawi yolengedwa kwa munthu, Allah sadagwiritse ntchito fumbi komanso dziko lapansi, komanso mbewu komanso magazi. Islam imadziwa kuti Mulungu ali ndi mbewu, kuti avomereze kugonana monga mtengo, monga dalitso, kuti ukwati ndi chinthu chochokera kwa Allah. Mkaziyo nthawi zonse ankawoneka mu Islam monga munthu wogonana ndi mwamuna, Allah adathokozedwa chifukwa cha kulengedwa kwabwino kwachikazi, chifukwa cha chisomo chake, kukondweretsa munthu, kukongola kwa tsitsi lake, maso ndi miyendo ya thupi lake. Koma komabe chikhalidwe chonse chakhala chiri chachimuna. Mwamuna wakhala akuwoneka ngati munthu wokwezeka kwambiri poyerekeza ndi mkazi yemwe ali chuma cha munthu ndi kumvera ulamuliro wake.
Malingana ndi Koran, kugonana ndi dalitso, kuchita zachipembedzo. Ndi Islam yomwe idapanga chitsanzo chodziwika bwino cha ukhondo wa chiwerewere, chomwe cholinga chake ndi kusunga thupi. Pa nthawi ya kusamba, mkazi amaonedwa kuti ndi wonyansa, ndipo munthu amene amachita chiwerewere ndi woyenera kutembereredwa. Malamulo, opatulidwa ndi Islam, amalamulira khalidwe la chiwerewere, amaika maziko, zoletsedwa ndi malamulo. Mwachitsanzo, kuletsedwa kwa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga kuchoka pamakhalidwe abwino.
Ponena za amai, maganizo a Islam ndi osiyana kwambiri: amaonedwa ngati othandizana ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi, omwe ali magwero ofunika kwambiri, ndiye kuti ali ndi makhalidwe oipa, amawoneka ngati gwero la zoipa, chizindikiro chachinyengo. Mkhalidwe wochepa wa mkazi umapezeka m'buku lotchuka "A Thousand ndi One Nights". Nyimbo zambiri ndi mabuku zodzaza ndi zomwezo za maganizo, zamakhalidwe, zachiwerewere, komanso malangizo omwe ali m'buku lino.
Mitala
Chodabwitsa ichi mu Islam ndizo zakale kwambiri. Zonsezi zinayamba ndi Mohammed. Iye anakwatiwa ali ndi zaka 26 kwa mbuye wake Hadiya, mkazi wamasiye wolemera yemwe ali wamkulu kwa iye kwa zaka 15. Banja limeneli linali losangalala ndipo linatha zaka 26. Mohammed anali wokhulupirika kwa mkazi wake ngakhale zaka zambiri atamwalira. Koma, powoloka mzere pa 50, anasintha malingaliro ake modabwitsa. Kuchokera apo, Mohammed "kupambana" kulikonse pa osakhulupirira "adalemba" ukwati wotsatira.
Malingana ndi mwambo, Msilamu sayenera kukhala ndi akazi oposa anayi panthawi imodzi. Lamuloli linawoneka ndipo linali lofunikira pa nkhondo za kugonjetsa - ndiye zinali mwambo wotsogolera akapolo monga akapolo, maukwati analoledwa ndi Ayuda ndi Akhristu. Kawirikawiri palinso chitsanzo cha banja lomwe lili ndi akazi awiri - mkazi mmodzi ndi mtsikana wosakwatiwa (konkubinat). Ndipo lero chiwerengero cha akazi kwa mwamuna wa Chiarabu chimadalira kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chake, kuthekera kwachuma, chiwerengero cha ana, ndi zina. Koma mitala, chifukwa chachibadwa, si nthawizonse yolemekezeka. Lero ngakhale m'mayiko ambiri achi Islam ngakhale anthu olemera kwambiri ali ndi mkazi mmodzi yekha.
Mu Islam, azimayi ayenera kukhala ndi azimayi. Mawu omwewo akuti "harem" (ochokera ku Turkish - garim) amatanthauza "malo oletsedwa". Harem ndi malo okhala azimayi ndi ana, omwe sangafike kwa amuna ena. Moyo mu harementi siinakhalepo paradaiso kwa akazi. Anthu ake ambiri adagawidwa m'magulumagulu (akazi, akapolo, akazi apamtima) ndipo ankasokoneza zochitika zonse. Zofuna za kugonana kwa amayi mu mahalamale nthawi zambiri sizinakumanepo.
Islam, poyerekeza ndi Chiyuda ndi Chikhristu, imasonyeza kupirira kwakukulu kwa kugonana, kutsindika chikondi, thupi labwino, caress ya mkazi. Othandizira ake ndi ololera, ngakhale kuti amanyalanyaza zolakwika pa khalidwe lachiwerewere. M'mayiko achi Muslim, mabuku okongola kwambiri komanso olemera kwambiri, filosofi, ngakhalenso nyimbo zomwe zimakhala ndi zochitika zonyansa. Chisilamu, kufotokozera mwamuna wolemekezeka kwambiri, m'malo mwake amayamikira mkazi, ufulu wake wokondweretsa kugonana.