Koma apa palinso ngozi ina - munthu akhoza kuvulaza, ndiyeno, poduvshis, akugwedezeka pa iwe ndi dzanja lake ndipo ayamba kuyang'ana mnzanu wina, zomwe zingakhale zovomerezeka. Ndipo ndi ndani amene ayenera kuimbidwa mlandu? Sizinali zophweka kuti azichitira nkhanza mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, pamene zonse zinakhazikitsidwa ndi kusintha kwa chikondi ndi chikondi. Koma ngati panalibe maganizo? Ndiye mutumizeni iye mwadzidzidzi! Ndipo mwinamwake ndiye matupi ake omwe amanjenjemera adzathera, ndipo lingaliro la kupeza wokondedwa wina silikwanira kukwaniritsa iye.
Amuna ndi a "zolengedwa" omwe ali ndi mgwirizano wamaganizo wonyenga, kotero amatha kukhudzidwa ndi amoyo popanda ntchito yapadera, makamaka ngati yokhudza kugonana. Nthawi zonse "ayi", yomwe imayankhula mozama, imatha kufanana ndi mphaka, yomwe imayambitsa mchira nthawi zonse. Cotscheet, akufuula ndi kubisala pansi pa kama. Ngati mkaziyo anakana mwamuna wake pogonana, adzachitanso chimodzimodzi, ayambe kumangokhalira kudumphira, kukakamiza ndi kugona m'chipinda china, koma izi ndi zabwino kwambiri. Pazovuta kwambiri, amangoti agone m'chipinda china, kumene angakhale ovuta kunyamula. Ndiye ndingakane bwanji mwamuna wanga kumudzi, popanda kumukhumudwitsa? Tsopano tikulingalira funso ili.
Kodi hafu yamphamvu yaumunthu ikuchitanji mukakana kukondana ?
Ngati mwamuna amakonda zogonana si nthawi, n'chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukhala amwano nthawi zonse? Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika pa msinkhu wosadziwika, kawirikawiri pa msinkhu woyenera. Chowonadi ndi chakuti malingaliro alionse ogonana (makamaka ngati sitikufuna kugonana pa nthawi ino), ngakhale wokondedwa wathu okondedwa amaonedwa ngati kuyesa chiwawa kapena / kapena chiwawa. Ndi chifukwa chake tili ndi reflex ndipo timayesetsa kumenyana mmbuyo, kumasula mizere. Monga, ndisiye ine wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa wanga, ndekha, mwinamwake pakhomo lidzawombedwa. Zikuwoneka kuti chirichonse chiri chowonekera, koma osati kwa munthu.
Mwamunayo amamvetsa zonse osati momwe ifeyo ndi momwe timachitira ndi zigawo "zotulutsidwa" zikuwoneka mosiyana. Mu malingaliro awo, chilakolako chokonda ndi mkazi wake chimafanizidwa ndi chinyengo. Ndipo ngati wokondedwayo wakana kugonana, ndipo ngakhale mwamantha, ndiye kuti akuganiza zomwezo ndipo amatsimikizira kuti iye anasiya kumuthandiza. Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chikuchitikira amuna omwe akukhumudwa? Kuti adziwonetse okha, amapeza munthu wogonana naye kumbali. Kumbali, kuwonjezera pa chiwalo chogonana, palinso kuwonjezeka kwa kudzidalira.
Kwa banja, misonkhano ya okhulupirika kumbali imatha kuthetsa zoipa. Nchifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse amayendetsa nyumba ndi nyumba, nthawi zonse amachoka, akubwera ndi zifukwa zosiyana? Kodi sizingakhale zosavuta kuti asamukire m'nyumba ya mkazi yemwe samamukana kugonana. Inde, ndi zophweka, makamaka ngati mzimayi, adziwa za chiwembu ndipo iye mwiniyo amuponyera m'nyumba za anthu ena.
Inde, pali nthawi pamene mkazi amangolota kuti okhulupirika ake achoke kunyumba kwake. Kenaka mwamunayo amakana kuchotsa kuti athe kuchotsa mwamsanga. Azimayi ambiri safuna kuti tsiku limodzi likhale mu zovala kuti asakhale ndi zovala za mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, komanso panjira ya ma slide. Choncho, ngati palibe chilakolako chophunzira ndi kugonana kwanu komwe mumakonda, phunzirani kunena "ayi" molondola. Pali njira zingapo zomwe mungakane kugonana, koma osanyoza mwamuna.
Kusamvana kwa kugonana
Inde, sikuli koyenera kugona ndi mphamvu, ngati wokondedwayo akubwera mwamantha ndikukufunsani zakuyanjana. Ndikhulupirire, palibe chabwino chomwe chiti chidzachitike. Mwamuna aliyense adzazindikira kuti chirichonse kumbali yanu chikuchitika ndi mano odulidwa. Chotsatira chake, amadzipangitsa yekha kutsimikiza kuti kuyandikira kuli ngati mapiritsi owawa. Iye akhoza ngakhale kulemba zodandaula, zomwe zingachititse kuti vitomage ifune kubwezera.
Kwa wokondedwa sakhumudwitsidwa, mukhoza kuisinthira ku chilakolako chogonana ndi chinthu china, mwachitsanzo, chidole chatsopano, chomwe chatsopano chikuikidwa pa kompyuta (ngati, ndithudi, akusewera masewera a pakompyuta) kapena masewera enaake (ngati akuledzera). Ngati sakufuna chilichonse mwa zosankhazo, ndiye yang'anani TV ndikuyang'ana limodzi ndi masewero a masewera - bokosi, mpira, hockey.
Poyamba zingawoneke kuti kuthamanga kwa anthu akulima mpira wa mpira kumakhala kosasangalatsa komanso kopanda pake. Koma pali milandu pamene amayi alibe chidwi ndi masewerawa, amakhala masewera a masewera kapena amangofuna masewera a masewera. Amene amadziwa, pambuyo pa masewera angapo, titha kuwonjezera pa awo. Koma ngakhale sitikhala otchuka, tikhoza kudzipangira zofuna zathu kuti okhulupilira asasokoneze. Iye adzakondwera, ndipo ifenso, kuti iye anayiwala (ndithudi, kwa nthawiyo) za kugonana.
Ngati simukufuna kupereka zofuna zanu konse, ndiye bizinesi yosangalatsa ikhoza kuphatikizidwa ndi zothandiza. Ngati mwamuna akufuna kugonana pa nthawi yopititsa, ndiye kuti mungayambe ndi kuyatsa (kukumbatirana, kupsompsona, kumalo osokoneza bongo, pomwe kugwiritsidwa ntchito mwachindunji kumatulutsa), apodom amapita kuchipatala cha chiwalo cha mwamuna. Ndipo manja amenewo akadali mfulu! Apo mukuyang'ana, pulogalamu yosangalatsa idzatha ndipo safuna kukana kugonana.
Ndipo iwe ukhoza kungoseka ndi kung'ung'udza, "Ine sindine wokonzeka lero, koma mawa ndikukonzekera chinachake chomwe chimangogwedezeka!".
Amuna samakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kulephera, koma ndi njira yomwe idagwiritsidwa ntchito panthawi yokana; kusadziŵa nthawi zonse zomwe zidzakhale kugonana komanso kaya zidzakhaleko; mujambulidwe momwe kukana kunapangidwira.
Choncho, pogonana amakana mwachikondi ndikulonjeza kuti mawa adzaperekedwa (tsiku lotsatira musaiwale za lonjezo lanu), ndipo liyenera kukhala luso. Ngati mwamunayo akudandaula, nthawi yotsatira amavomereze kuti avomereze kugonana kwa mawa.
Mulimonsemo, munthu sangathe kunyalanyaza nthawi zonse kusokonezeka kwa kukanidwa, kosakwiya mwakachetechete. Mwamuna amakonda pamene amalankhula mwachifundo naye, mochititsa chidwi kukana kwake. Mutu wamtundu uwu sulikugwira ntchito, chifukwa akhoza kukoka wokondedwa wake kukayezetsa. Podziwa chigamulo cha dokotala ndi "wathanzi", kodi mungadzizindikiritse bwanji pamaso pa mwamuna wanu? Kotero ganizirani za china choyambirira. Kumbukirani, amuna nthawi zambiri amathawa akazi omwe nthawi zonse amatopa ndi matenda omwe salipo!
Kawirikawiri, kumbukirani kuti kugonana ndi ntchito yabwino komanso yothandiza yomwe imabweretsa mphamvu, imachepetsa, imachepetsetsa kulemera, imathandizira kuchepetsa nkhawa, kenako simungaganize kuti ndi bwino kukana kugonana.