Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo pali lingaliro lina lomwe n'zosatheka kugawa anthu molingana ndi khalidwe limeneli. Musamane malonjezo a amuna ndi akazi. Koma tiyeni tiwoneke bwino, amayi amakonda kufotokoza nkhani, kunyoza, kujambula zonse. Pano pakati pa akazi ndi maulendo: "Anandilonjeza, koma sanachite." Ngati mukuganiza za izo, amuna samayankhula za izo, ndicho chinsinsi chonse. Koma popeza tayamba kulankhula za mutu umenewu, tikufunika kupitiliza.
Tsopano tiyeni tiyese kumvetsetsa zifukwa zonsezi, koma zidzakhala zovuta, chifukwa zingathe kutchedwa sayansi yonse yomwe sitingathe kugonjetsa. Koma ngati tingathe kuligonjetsa, tidziwa njira zake zoyambirira, tingathe kuchotseratu zolakwika zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimatizunza, makamaka kuchokera ku zomwe munthuyo amalonjeza komanso kusasunga malonjezano ake. Kuchotseratu ziwonetsero izi, timachotsanso zowawa zomwe zimawatsatira nthawi zonse. Koma tisachite phala ndipo tiyambe.
Yesetsani kupeza munthu amene akufuna kukakamizidwa kuchita chinachake mwa mphamvu - palibe amene amachikonda, komanso amakhumudwitsa kwambiri, chifukwa amakulimbikitsani kuti mumvereni mawu anu a ulemu. Sizingatheke kuti munthu wotereyo achite zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa iye, ndipo ngati atero, moyo, sangagwire ntchitoyi. Ngati mutenga mkhalidwe wabwino, ndiye kuti mwiniwakeyo ayenera kupita patsogolo pake ndikudzifunira yekha. Ngati izi sizikuchitika, ndiye kuti ndinu mkazi, zomwe zingamukankhire ndi kum'tumiza kumbali kumene chikhumbo chanu chikanakhala chokha, koma muyenera kuyesetsa kuchita izi, chifukwa zotsatira zake zimadalira zochita zanu. Pali zinthu ziwiri zomwe mungachite: kupereka chidziwitso kwa mwamuna, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito ubwino wanu wachikazi, pogwiritsa ntchito chinyengo ndi maganizo.
Koma mukufunikira kusankha nthawi yoyenera, nanga bwanji njira ..., zonse zimadalira mkhalidwe, zimakhala kuti njira zonsezi ndi zabwino. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti muwasokoneze iwo, komanso kuti asakhumudwitse mkhalidwewo, pogwiritsa ntchito njira yolakwika, chifukwa ndiye, ndithudi mwamuna wanu sangasunge lonjezo lake, komanso lamulo: "Munthu amalonjeza ndipo samakana lonjezo" lidzatsimikizidwanso kachiwiri.
Mwachitsanzo: mtsikana akhoza kuyembekezera nthawi yabwino, pamene mwamuna "akulephera" ntchitoyo, ndipo akuti: "Ndinadziwa kuti simungakhulupirire chilichonse" - izi zimupangitsa kuti agwire mawu olonjezedwawo. Adzayesa kubwezera chifukwa sakhulupirira mphamvu ndi luso lake. Zotsatira zake: iye safuna kumukhumudwitsa ndipo ayamba kumuthandiza pazopempha zake zonse.
Koma, mtsikana amatha kumvetsera mwamuna wake, alowe m'malo mwake, atamufotokozera chifukwa chake sakuchita ntchitoyo. "Inde! ": Inu mukuti. Inde, tikuvomereza, akhoza kuyankha "sindinkafuna", koma izi sizingakhale yankho la munthu. Poyankha, mukhoza kungomuuza kuti: "Sizofanana ndi munthu". Iye adzakumbukira izi motsimikiza. Ngati akutsogolera zifukwa zazikuru ndikulonjeza kuti adzakwaniritsa malonjezowo pambuyo pake, zikutanthauza kuti munatha kumugonjetsa ndi zokambirana momasuka. Koma musaiwale kuti mwamuna akhoza kungoiwala, choncho musamufuule mwamsanga. Nthawi yotsatira yomwe muyenera kukumbukira, ndipo zonse zidzakhala bwino.
Lamulo lina "anthu amalonjeza ndi kusunga lonjezo" silingamvetsetse molondola, chifukwa munthu samangofuna kukwiyitsa wokondedwa wake, chifukwa amalonjeza, ngati sangangokwiyitsa msanga. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ndi chikondi, chifukwa sangathe kumuwona wokondedwa wake wokhumudwa, ndipo izo zimatenga zochuluka kuposa momwe angathere. Inde, munthu uyu sali wolondola, komabe ... Ngati muli ndi vutoli, ndiye kuti, mwayi wokwaniritsa lonjezo lake ndi zero.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino kuti munthu ayenera kukhala ndi ufulu wosankha, ndipo malonjezano onse amene akukupatsani sikuti akulonjeza kukwaniritsidwa.
Zimene mwawerenga sizingatheke, chifukwa zambiri zimadalira zomwe zikuchitika. Mwachitsanzo, musayiwale za ubale wamwamuna. Mungamupatse ulendo wopita ku cafe kwa kanthawi, koma angakumane ndi mnzake wachikulire komanso wapamtima wapamtima. Ayi, sangakusinthe, koma amafunikanso kulankhula naye pang'ono, kuti adziwe momwe moyo wake umayendera. Ndipo izi ndi zolondola. Mudzachita chimodzimodzi, m'malo mwake, koma pali kusiyana kochepa chabe pakati panu. Mwamuna wanu mwina sakanakuuzani mawu, ndipo mungakhumudwe chifukwa cha ichi kuti mutha kupondereza mwamuna wanu.
Chinthu china ndikumvetsa nthawiyi: nthawi yomwe imadutsa pakati pa "kulemba mgwirizano" ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwake - ino ndi nthawi yomwe mkazi adapatsa mwamuna wake ngongole ya chikhulupiriro, iwe, panthawiyi, umupatse moyo wabwino. Panthawi imeneyi, amadzimva ngati kuti wakwaniritsa kale malonjezo ake, mumamuchitira bwino.
Pano mfundo yomweyi imagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati mankhwala, poyamba mwamuna amakhala "wamwamba", ndiyeno - "kuphwanya", zomwe zidzakhala m'mabuku onsewa.
Ndipotu, ndi nthawi yoti tipeze yankho kuchokera kwa olungama-werengani:
Mwamuna si robot, amachita chilichonse kuti asakwiyitse iwe, koma nthawi zonse sagwira bwino, ndipo izi ndi zoona. Sikoyenera kufunsa kwa munthu zochita zomwe iye sangathe kuzichita, ndipo sizili zobvuta za ntchitoyi, koma zovuta za ntchito yonse yomwe ayenera kuchita pa nthawi yake.
Mwina, ngakhale amuna alibe chikhulupiriro chokwanira cha amayi mwa iwo. Iwo sali okwanira kupeza chakudya ndi kugonana kuchokera kwa inu. Afuna kudziwa ndendende ndikumvetsa kuti mumayamikira iwo, muyenera kunyada nawo. Mulole iye, nthawi zina apume, ndipo nthawi zonse adzasangalala ndi zochita zako.