Mwatsoka, izi zimapezeka nthawi zambiri m'nthano kapena melodramas kusiyana ndi moyo weniweni. Kotero kuti cholinga chanu chikulitse kumvetsetsa kwanu kwa chikhalidwe cha chikondi ndi katundu wapatali ndi wofunikira wa khalidwe la mkazi. Lingalirani momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mwanzeru kuti mukhale mkazi wanzeru, ndipo musagwidwe mu intaneti ya malingaliro opusa ndi chidziwitso chosadziwika, chinyengo ndi tsankho.
Dzidziwe wekha
Mmalo mopereka zankhondo za Don Quixote ndi kumenyana ndi mphepo zamoyo zonse, ndibwino kukhala pansi ndi kuganizira za moyo. Loto, porefleksirovat, fufuzani mbiri ya nyenyezi kapena mbiri yakale. Inde, ngakhale kuwerenga mavumbulutso kuti mumvetse mmene zimakhalira pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Sikofunikira kuti tipeze chithunzithunzi cha mphindiyo powerenga buku lochititsa chidwi kapena kuyang'ana filimu yabwino. Ndikofunika kuima nthawi zina ndikuganiza - ndi zomwe zimawoneka ndikumveka ziri zoyenera kwa ine. Zomwe ndimayankha, ndi zomwe ndingachite kuti ndisinthe mkhalidwe uno.
Amathandizanso ndi zokambirana za mtima ndi anzanu, komanso ndi akazi ena okha. Samalani banja la makolo, phunzirani zolemba za makolo anu ndi makolo awo. Pezani nkhani zobwerezabwereza zokhudzana ndi amuna, ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo wotere kapena mukufuna kusintha kwambiri.
Sinthani nokha
Mukamvetsa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa anthu ndi moyo, ndibwino kuti musunthire kuchitapo kanthu. Phunzirani kumasuka mwachikondi kuvomereza zomwe mumakonda komanso mumakhala nazo bwino, ndipo phunzirani kulimbana ndi zofooka.
Pali mabuku ambiri othandiza pa nkhani ya psychology, filosofi, chikhalidwe cha anthu, zomwe zili ndi malangizo ndi zochitika zomwe zimakhala zosavuta kumvetsa momwe tingakhalire mkazi wanzeru pochita zinthu ndi amuna, komanso kuti tiwone bwinobwino. Iwo ali oyenerera ntchito zochepa, mwachitsanzo, kulimbana ndi ulesi kapena zizolowezi zina zoipa.
Vuto lalikulu la maganizo pazochita ndi amuna limathetsedwa bwino ndi akatswiri. Tsopano pali maphunziro abwino kwambiri ndi zokambirana payekha pa nkhani za chikondi, banja ndi ukwati. Kawirikawiri, sizingowonjezera zokha, koma zimathandizanso kukondweretsa, kupeza mabwenzi atsopano ndi kusonkhana ndi zofuna.
Dziwani munthu
Kudziwa mphamvu zanu ndi zofooka zanu, kuzindikira zokhumba zachinsinsi ndi kugonjetsa zofooka, ndi mbali imodzi yothandizira kuthana ndi amuna. Ngati muli ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi mafunso okhudza momwe mungakhalire mkazi wanzeru posiyana ndi amuna, muyenera kuphunzira zofunikira za maganizo a amuna. Mavuto ambiri muubwenzi amabuka chifukwa chakuti mkazi amaweruza mwamuna yekha. Makamaka zimakhudza amayi omwe anakulira m'banja losakwanira, momwe munalibe atate kapena abale. Amuna sali oipitsitsa ndipo palibe abwino kuposa akazi, iwo ndi osiyana basi. Amawona dziko mosiyana, ganizirani mosiyana, osati monga momwe ife tikufunira, tisonyezeni chikondi chawo. Kukhoza kuona ndi kumvetsetsa zolinga za khalidwe la munthu zimamuthandiza kumanga ubale wochuluka ndi iye. Kuonjezera apo, monga momwe zilili ndi maphunziro, kuphunzira psychology ya amuna sikungothandiza, komanso ntchito yosangalatsa. Choyamba, pali mabuku osangalatsa onena za psychology ya kusiyana pakati pa abambo ndi amai (imatchedwanso psychological). Chachiwiri, pali maphunziro apadera omwe abambo ndi amai amaphunzira kumvetsetsana ndi kukhazikitsa kuyankhulana. Monga maphunziro aliwonse, iwo alibe chidziwitso chokha, komanso zosangalatsa.
Pewani kusintha munthu
Si nzeru kuti mkazi wanzeru amvetsetse udindo wake muubwenzi, komanso mochuluka kwambiri m'moyo wa munthu. Chikondi chimaposa malamulo alionse, ndipo kawirikawiri chimasintha mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo, monga lamulo, kuti zikhale bwino. Koma kutsutsa ndi zoyesayesa za kubwezeretsanso munthu, zingakhumudwitse aliyense, ngakhale ubale wamphamvu kwambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndi bwino "kupemphera" kwa mwamuna, ndikugwira ntchito nokha. Mulimonsemo, pali golide wamatanthauza. Choncho yesetsani kuvomereza munthu monga momwe aliri, ndi ubwino ndi zovuta zonse. Ngati iye sali wotchuka, adzalandira maganizo ake kwa iye mwini, ndipo adzayesetsa kukhala bwenzi lanu lapamtima ndi wokonda kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi. Ndipo ngati muli ndi zovuta kapena mikangano, yesetsani kunena momasuka ndikuyankhula ndi munthu osati momwe akudziwira kuti ali ndi vutoli, kuchuluka kotani pa zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi vutoli, ndipo njira zotani zimachokera inu mukuwona. Amuna ndi okhulupirika kwambiri kuzinthu zenizeni ndipo salola kulembedwa ndi zolemba. Podziwa chowonadi chophwekachi, mukhoza kuthana ndi mavuto aliwonse ochita ndi wokondedwa wanu.