Aliyense wa ife amafuna kuti anthu azungulire akhale abwino, okoma mtima, okondweretsa komanso anzeru. Zoonadi, nthawi zambiri okondedwa athu samafuna kusintha nthawi zonse. Koma zimakhalanso kuti munthu amadziwa za zochepa zomwe amamupempha ndikumupempha kuti amuthandize. Kodi mungatani kuti mutsimikizire kuti thandizo limapindulitsa kwenikweni, osati lovulazidwa?
Musadziwe zoyenera
Kusankha kuthandiza munthu, kumbukirani kuti mukufuna kuthandiza munthu kuti asinthe bwino, komanso kuti asawonetsere zabwino kuchokera ku khungu. Choncho, musanachite ndondomeko, yang'anani zowona zake, zokonda, zokonda ndi luso. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati munthu akufuna kulemba nyimbo ndi kuphunzira monga mlangizi wa malo, musamamuuze kuti achite nawo pulogalamu. Kumbukirani kuti pamene anthu atembenukira kwa ife kuti athandizidwe ndi mtundu umenewu, sakhulupirira kuti tikudziwa zomwe zili zabwino kwa iwo, ntchito ndikuganiza kuti chirichonse chiyenera kukhala chomwecho, ngakhale kuti sichibweretsa chimwemwe chanu. Choncho, ngati muwona kuti mnzanu wataya moyo ndipo sakudziwa momwe angakwaniritsire chinachake, khalani pansi ndikuyang'anitsitsa ndi zilakolako zake, maluso ndi luso lake. Muyenera pamodzi kusankha njira yoyenera ndikuyesera kumasulira muzinthu zenizeni. Pali anthu amene amafunikira "matsenga pendule," omwe amayamba kusintha moyo wawo, koma muyenera kutsimikizira kuti "pendule" iyi siimabweretsa munthu kukhumudwa komanso kulakalaka kudziwonongera. Mvetserani, ngati mnzanu nthawi zonse amamenya, ndikuzindikira kuti mukufunika kukula, musayese kumupanga "jekete". Ntchito yanu ndi kuwongolera njira yomwe ili yoyenera. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti anthu oterewa amafunika kusintha. Ayi, si choncho. Mwachitsanzo, tiyeni tipitirize kuvala zovala zomwe amakonda, komabe muyenera kuyika kuti zovala zonse zikhale zoyera komanso zopanda banga, nsapato zonse zatsuka komanso zophikidwa ndi kirimu, komanso maonekedwe ake sangatsimikizire kuti ali ndi theka la chaka, ndiye pafupi ndi chiwombankhanga. Kutanthauza kuti, kusintha kusintha munthu, samalani kuti musasokoneze umunthu wake.
Musagwedeze ndodo
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti munthu wanu wapafupi ali ndi maganizo anu komanso zosowa zanu, osati nkhumba ya nkhumba. Choncho, musayambe kuchita NLP ndikuyika zovuta zosiyanasiyana zamaganizo, musaganize kuti munthu adzasintha tsiku limodzi. Izi sizinayambe zakhalapo ndipo sizidzakhalapo konse. Pokhapokha mu mafilimu, anyamata oipa amadzidzimutsa mwadzidzidzi. Ndipo mu moyo iwo amafunika nthawi yaitali kuti azidzigwira okha, kuchotsa zizolowezi zoipa. Kuphatikizanso, ngati munthu adzizoloŵera khalidwe limodzi, ndiye kuti zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti asasinthe. Choncho yang'anani ma puncture, kulephera ndi zina zotero. Khalani oleza mtima ndipo kumbukirani kuti munthu akufunadi moona mtima kuti akhale bwino. Ndipo izi ndi zofunika kwambiri, chifukwa sizitsogoleredwa ndi zikhumbo zanu, koma ndi zanu. Choncho, pamene mnzanu wapamtima akulakwitsa, simukusowa kumutsutsa ndikudzudzula machimo anu. Ngakhale simukusowa kutseka maso anu. Muyenera kukhala olimba, koma basi. Fotokozerani munthuyo zomwe akulakwitsa ndikutsatira kwa iye lonjezo loti asadzachitenso. Pogwiritsa ntchito njirayi, musayambe kusokoneza. Simukuyenera kuopseza munthu, chifukwa mantha sungathandizirepo kanthu kuti azindikire. Muyenera kutsindika kuti ali ndi ufulu wochita zimene akufuna, koma ngati akufunadi kukhala bwino, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuganizira ngati kuchita koteroko kungapangitse kusintha kapena kuchepetsa vutoli.
Chinthu china chofunika kukumbukira - musamangoganizira za munthu yemwe ali ndi zolinga zapakatikati. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti palibe wina amene wasiya munthu wopanda pokhala kukhala mamilionezi tsiku limodzi. Kotero, bwenzi lanu sali lolemekezeka, lolonjeza, lachidziwitso, labwino ndi zina zotero ndi matsenga a magic wand. Kuti akwaniritse cholinga chake, adzalandira mpikisano wambiri, zomwe muyenera kumutamanda ndi kuthandizira pakuchita zomwe apindula. Ndipo ngakhale munthu sakwaniritsa zonse zomwe mumamuchitira, musataye mtima ndikumuimba mlandu chifukwa cha kufooka ndi chiyembekezo. Ngakhale munthu atapindula chinachake ndikukhala bwino ndikusiya kuchita zinthu zopusa, kwa iye.
Mphamvu ya moyo, koma musati mutembenukire nokha
Kuti munthu akhale ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuti asinthe, nthawi zonse mumuthandize moona mtima. Ayenera kuona ndi kuganiza kuti kupambana kwake kudzakhala kochepa kuposa iye mwini. Kumbukirani kuti ndiwe mlangizi wake wanzeru amene amathandiza pamoyo ndikukupatsani mpata wobwerera ndikuphunzira zinthu zatsopano. Mwa njira, musayesere kuchita chinachake kwa munthu. Muyenera kunena, kuthandizira, ndikuwonetsani, koma musatembenuzire zonse muzinthu zanu. Zikhulupirirani ine, kulamulira kwathunthu ndi malangizo omwe mukutsatira kungachititse kuti munthuyo asiye lingaliro lake, kapena atembenuke kukhala mthunzi wanu, womwe sangathe kusankha yekha . Choncho nthawi zonse muzisunga moyo wanu mofanana ndi ake omwe, ndipo mutengedwenso mumodzi, momwe mumayang'anira onse. Munthu aliyense amafunika malo akeawo. Choncho musachite mantha kuchoka popanda kulamulira. Ngakhale ngati zikukuwoneka kuti ndibwino kuti mutengepo kanthu ndipo mudzachita zinthu zopusa, komabe, muloleni munthuyo apange zosankha pawokha. Kumvetsetsa, ntchito yanu ndi kuthandiza munthu kuphunzira kuchita zabwino ndikuzindikira zosankha zawo zenizeni, osakhala mogwirizana ndi dongosolo lanu. Ndipotu, dongosolo lomwe timagwiritsa ntchito pophunzitsa ana limagwira ntchito ndi munthu wamkulu. Choyamba, tikuuza zomwe tiyenera kuchita ndi momwe tingachitire, ndiye tigwiritseni ntchito pamodzi ndi iwo, ndikupatseni mwayi kuti tiyesere nokha. Ndipo kawirikawiri, poyamba ana amapanga zolakwika, ndipo timawawongolera ndikuwapatsa mwayi wochita ntchitoyi mobwerezabwereza, mpaka mwanayo ataphunzira ndikuphunzira kuchita chinachake. Pano iwe ufunikanso kukhala ndi bwenzi la sosvoim. Choyamba, mumuuzeni momwe angachitire, kumuuza, kuthandizani, ndikumupatsanso mwayi wopanga chisankho chake. Ngati akulakwitsa, mum'konzeni, koma musayese kudzitengera yekha. M'kupita kwa nthawi, mudzawona kuti akhoza kuchita zonse pokhapokha, popanda mawu anu olekanitsa ndi kusintha.
Ngati munthu atembenukira kwa inu kuti athandizidwe ndi mtundu umenewu, ndiye kuti ndinu wokondedwa kwambiri kwa iye, yemwe mumamukhulupirira, komanso kuti wofunika kwambiri, ndi udindo. Choncho, kuvomereza kuthandizira, muyenera kudziwa kuti bereteza ali ndi udindo winawake ndipo ayenera kuchita ntchito yawo moona mtima. Muyenera kukonda munthu ndikumufunira zabwino zokhazokha. Inde, tonsefe timafuna kunyada ndi abwenzi athu chifukwa cha zomwe adachita, komanso musaiwale kuti munthuyu wakhala bwenzi lanu nthawi zonse ndipo mukufunikira kumuthandiza kukhala bwinoko, ndipo musalenge mnzanu watsopano. Pambuyo pake, ngati munthu uyu ataya makhalidwe onse omwe mumamukonda, zotsatira zake zimakukhumudwitsani.