Malingana ndi kafukufuku, kugonana kwabwino kumanamizira pafupifupi makumi asanu patsiku, kunayambitsa kugonana kwakukulu - mpaka makumi asanu ndi awiri! Koma kuzindikira mabodza sikovuta kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokutsegula maso anu! Ngati wothandizana naye "akutsutsani mabodza ndi chinyengo", yang'anani zomwe akunena, komanso nkhope yake ndi manja ake.
Kotero, inu muli ndi choyamba chowona ndipo iye akuyitanani inu ku malo odyera okondweretsa. Chilichonse chimakhala bwino: Muzisamba mukamayamikira mnzako ndikumvetsera mwatcheru momwe iye, akuwonekera mosazindikira, akudziwonetsera yekha bwino: ali ndi ntchito yabwino, ali moyo wa kampani, amakonda ana ndi zinyama ... Zikumveka zonse zokongola kuti zikhale zoona. N'kutheka kuti ndi choncho: katswiri wa zamaganizo Wade Rowatt adapeza kuti 90% amakonda kunama pa tsiku loyamba, ndipo m'zaka 10 zoyambirira amatha kubodza kawiri. Ena a onyenga amachita zonsezi kuti apindule ndi anzawo. Kotero, ife timapanga mwapadera ndi kunyengerera, akazi. Amuna, ngakhalenso, ali abodza a zolinga zadyera. Koma cholinga chachikulu chachinyengo kumbali zonsezo ndi kutulutsa chidwi pa wokondedwayo.
Osalankhula Otsatira
Ndi 35% zokha zomwe timalankhulana zimapezeka kudzera m'mawu. Zachigawo zina zonse - manja, maonekedwe, nkhope ya nkhope ndi zonse zomwe sitingathe kuchita mwadala. Mabodza onse, monga lamulo, amatsatiridwa ndi zizindikiro zina, zomwe zimadyetsedwa mwadongosolo ndi thupi ndipo zomwe, pambuyo pa kuphunzitsidwa pang'ono, zikhoza kuwerengedwa. Koma pachiyambi ndikofunikira kuphunzira zitatu zosasinthika zosavuta maphikidwe.
Mayeso aakulu . Timatsatira mosamala khalidwe la munthu. Kodi iye amakhala chete kapena kusintha nthawi yake? Afunsanso kufunsa mafunso atatu osavuta: Kumene amakonda kukakhala pa tchuti, nyimbo yomwe amamvetsera. Ndipo zitatha izi ziyenera kutsatiridwa ndi msampha: "Inde, ndi kovuta kukhala bwana? Kodi mumagwiritsa ntchito bwanji tsiku lanu la ntchito? "Ngati khalidwe lake litasintha, ndiye anayamba kuchita mantha ndi ntchito yake yomwe ananama!
Mafunso otsogolera . Ndikofunika kufunsa mafunso otere, pa maziko ake, munthu woona mtima sangathe kuwona chinyengo, ndipo wonyenga amadzimva kuti ali wonyansa. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndikufuna malangizo anu. Bwenzi langa ndi mtsikanayo ali ndi ubale weniweni, koma ngakhale izi, iye samaima kuti akakomane ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi msana wake. Kodi ndingatani kuti ndipitirize kuyankhulana nawo? "Osankhidwa osankhidwa adzapereka malingaliro othandiza, ndipo osakhulupirika adzagwidwa" kutentha "ndikusintha khalidwe lake: ayamba kuchita mantha, kuchita manyazi.
Kudziwa mabodza . Pakukambirana, muyenera kunena kuti mwamsanga mumadziwa bodza. Ngati akuwona kuti ndizoopsa kuti adziwuluke, ndiye kuti panthawi yotsatira "atapachikidwa pamakutu" amatha kukhala wamanjenje: akuwombera, akuwombera ndi zovala, "kumanga makoma" (ikani zinthu zomwe zili patebulo pakati pa mkati).
Mulu wa mabodza
Monga lamulo, anthu nthawi zambiri amalankhula, koma amangoiwala msanga za izo. Kwa nkhani zoona, nthawi zambiri, chinyengo chimabisika - pogwiritsa ntchito njira zotsatirazi, wina akhoza kufotokozera nthano:
Malingaliro a tsatanetsatane . Wonyengerera amapindula mbiri, akuiwala kutchula tsatanetsatane. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wanu adakumana ndi mnzanga mu cafe, koma mukuganiza kuti iyeyo ali ndi antchito ake atsopano. Mukapempha funso la ndondomekoyi: "Mlembi wanu watsopano anali ndi inu?" - simungathe kukwaniritsa choonadi. Ndikofunika kuti muyambe kukambirana ndikukakamiza bamboyo pankhani ya komwe amakhala, zomwe amavala ndi zomwe abwenzi awo avala. Ngati akufunika kuti adziwe izi, adzipereka yekha: adzasinkhasinkha za yankho kwa nthawi yaitali. Zambiri zimatsimikizira kuti ali woona mtima.
Kuperewera kwa nthawi . Ngati mbuye wanu akadali ngati mlembi, adzakupatsani mundilo mbiri yomwe ikuwonekera pamasalefu. Mudzayamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi tsatanetsatane, adzayesera kumamatira ku izi. Kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane, ziyenera kuchitidwa kukhala wamanjenje ndipo zizindikiro za bodza zimakhala zoonekeratu. Ngati adawonana ndi mnzanu, pa nthawi iliyonse ya nkhaniyi, mawu akhoza kumveka: "Sitinasute ndi bwenzi kuyambira ndudu zake zinasambitsidwa ndi vinyo ... ".
Zosangalatsa . Wobodza amatsutsa nkhani yokonzedweratu, akuiwala kusonyeza malingaliro. Wokamba nkhani za choonadi samakumbukira zokhazokha, koma komanso maganizo omwe anali nawo panthaŵiyo.
Mipata yofunika kwambiri . Kufotokozera za mtunduwo: "Wopanda, koma sindikukumbukira", "Sindikudziwa", mwinamwake amalankhula za kuwona mtima. Nkhani yonyenga imayikidwa nthawi zonse, kotero mulibe mipata m'makumbukiro.
Kuyang'ana liwu . Pafupifupi 70 peresenti ya onyenga amalankhula muzithunzithunzi zapamwamba, makamaka akazi ndi ana.
Kusungidwa koopsa
Palibe amene anganene kuti ndi bwino pamene wobwezera adzigwiritsa ntchito. Koma ngati sikutheka kugwira mawu, m'munsimu muli mawu ofunika kwambiri:
"Ayi ndithu!" - unnaturally imatsindika kukhulupilika.
Kubwereza kwa mafunso, mayankho okhudzidwa: "Mwina", "Mmm" ndi "Eh," kuseka, akuusa moyo ndi chirichonse chimene sichigwirizana ndi njira yake yolankhulirana.
Kutaya ndi mfundo zowonjezereka ndi zodziwika: "Ndi mkazi uyu ndinalibe kanthu" mmalo mwa "sVika".
Mayankho omwe amachititsa kukhala ndi mlandu: "Inu nthawi zonse. Kodi mungakhale ndi nsanje zochuluka motani ... ".
Kutulutsa nkhope
Maganizo 7 - chisoni, mantha, chisangalalo, kunyansidwa, mkwiyo, chikondi ndi kudabwa - munthu aliyense akufotokoza mothandizidwa ndi mawonetseredwe omwewo. Zimagwiritsidwa ntchito mopanda kuzindikira, tk. ali obadwa, kotero, pa iwo n'zotheka kuwulula chinyengo. Wopandukira wamkulu ndi wamng'ono, nkhope, yosayendetsedwa ndi yomwe imawonekeratu kachigawo kakang'ono koyambirira kuposa mawu. Funsani, mukuyang'anitsitsa zomwe mumasamala ndikuyang'anitsitsa momwe kusokoneza kwanthawi yayitali kumalowetsedwa ndi kumwetulira, ndipo ngati kumangokhala "kuthamanga", kumbukirani kuti kupuma kumasonyeza kuti munthuyo akunama. Ndipo komabe, yang'anani maso anu: chisokonezo chakuthamanga panthawi yokambirana kapena yankho loperekedwa kwa funso ndi chizindikiro choyamba chachinyengo.
Njira yofunika
Paula Mayer, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America, amapereka malangizo angapo onena mabodza:
Dziwani chikhalidwe . Poyamba, m'pofunikanso kufunsa mafunso osayenerera komanso nthawi yomweyo kuphunzira kuseka, khalidwe, manja, nkhope ndi machitidwe a interlocutor. Makhalidwewa ali ndi kusintha kokha mwa khalidwe lodziwika.
Sonkhanitsani zambiri . Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti munthu akubisala, mum'funseni mafunso omwe sangathe kuwerengedwa kuti "inde" kapena "ayi". Mmalo mwa mawu oti "Kodi mumakhalabe ndikumverera za kale?" Ndibwino kuti mufunse "Nchiyani chinapangitsa kuti mulekanitse?".
Gwiritsani ntchito chidziwitso. Nthawi zonse muzidalira mau amkati!
Bweretsani izo kumapeto . Ngati mutha kuyendetsa bodza mumakona, sizikutanthauza kuti amasiya bodza. Ponyani mawu akuti: "Ndidzamvetsetsa munthu aliyense amene amakomana ndi wina kumbali, ngati mkazi wake alibe malingaliro!" Kotero mutha kuzindikira mofulumira kusiyana ndi momwe mukufunira "Vomerezani!". Malinga ndi Paula Meyer: "Onyenga akufuna kunena zoona - mabodza amabweretsa mavuto! Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kupereka wabodza mwayi! ".