Nazi malingaliro a amayi ofunafuna chiyanjano ndi amuna:
1. Pakati pazomwe mumadziwana, onetsani chidwi, kumvetsera komanso kumva, musayesetse kukhala abwino kuposa momwe muliri, koma musatsegule pamaso pa munthuyo, kotero kuti kungakhale kosangalatsa kumudabwitsa. Khalanibe kwa iye chinsinsi.
2. Momwe mungakhalire ndi abambo kuti mukhale okhudzana, akazi abwino?
Amayi ozindikira amayesetsa kupeza zofuna za mwamuna wokondedwa ndi kumaliza mapeto a sabata ndi maholide ali naye, kuchita ntchito zapakhomo kapena pamodzi ndi mwamuna, osakayikira kumupempha thandizo (mabungwe ambiri amasonkhanitsidwa pamodzi ndipo zonse zasanduka tchuthi) .
3. Kuchita ndi mwamuna pa siteji ya "mashing" kwa wina ndi mzake n'kofunikira kuti asunge ndi ufulu wake. Mayi ayenera kukumbukira kuti pambuyo pa zaka zambiri akukhala pamodzi mwamuna si chuma chake. Sungani mtunda, chifukwa zimakulolani kuti musinthe maubwenzi ndi wina ndi mzake.
4. Kusunga ubale ndi mwamuna nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta, chifukwa moyo wathu wonse uli ngati zebere: gulu liri lakuda, mzere ndi woyera. Mipikisano imapewa. Simungathe kukhala ndi munthu wolimba komanso wozolowereka. Mayi ayenera kufunsa, akhonza kulankhula ndi mwamuna ndi kukambirana naye, koma ngati sakufuna kukuthandizani, akuthandizani pa nthawi yovuta, mumusonyeze kutentha kwanu ndikupusitsa pang'ono. Sizodziwika kuti anthu amanena kuti "okondedwa akukalipidwa, amangodabwa." Musangowonjezereka, chifukwa zonse zomwe zili zabwino komanso zolakwika ziyenera kukhala zochepa.
5. Ubale ndi mwamuna pakati pa mzere woyera ndi wakuda umatanthauzira imvi, osalowerera ndale, ndikupanga maubwenzi anu nthawi zambiri zithunzi za moyo, koma osati kwa nthawi yayitali.
6. Mwamuna ndi dziko lovuta, losangalatsa komanso lokongola. Lolani wokondedwa wanu akhale nokha, sungani mabwenzi, zokondweretsa, mwayi wopatula momasuka nthawi yanu yaufulu, ndipo khalani ndi ndalama zanu kuti mupatseni mphatso ndikugula zomwe mukusowa. Koma mkaziyo nayenso ayenera kudzisintha yekha pa moyo wake ndi wauzimu moyo wake wonse: kupita ku cinema, masewera, kuwonetsera, kuwerenga mabuku, kupita kumidzi, kuyenda (mukhoza padera, ndi mwamuna) - kumusangalatsa munthu ndi zida zatsopano za luso lake, akadali chinsinsi kwa iye, motero amafunikanso kukhala ndi nthawi yake ndi ndalama zake.
7. Kuti tikhalebe ndi chibwenzi, nkofunika kuti nthawi zonse tikhalebe ndi chikondi chodzikonda mwa munthuyo, kutipangitsa kukhala ndi maganizo okondweretsa mwa iye. Pano mkaziyo ayenera kutembenukira kumbuyo, kuti apatse munthuyo mwayi wodziwona yekha wofooka, chifukwa ndiye ndiye kuti munthuyo ayenera kukhala wamphamvu ndi kutenga udindo pa zomwe adanena. Ndipo kuthekera kwa amuna kukhala ndi udindo ndi kupanga zisankho kumatulutsidwa ndi mkazi yemwe ali pafupi naye. Ndiye mkaziyo mwadzidzidzi akuwona kuti pafupi naye ndi mwamuna wa maloto ake .
8. Ubale udzakhala wamphamvu ngati mkazi sakukhazikika pansi pa zomwe wapindula, koma adzasintha nthawi zonse ndikupitirizabe kumusangalatsa munthuyo ndi zida zatsopano za luso lake.
9. Ubale uyenera kukhala wautali, ngati mkazi apereka mwayi kwa mwamuna kuti asungidwe, pamwamba pa malo onse kapena payekha, amuthandiza nthawi zina kuti achoke pa tchuthi yekha, kukakumana ndi abwenzi ake. Mayi ayenera kudziwa ndi kumvetsetsa kuti ngakhale muukwati, mwamuna ndi mkazi amakhala padziko lapansi moyo wake womwewo, kuti palibe amene ayenera kusokoneza izi.