Mkhalidwe wachisoni, umene mwazizindikiro ukufanana ndi kupsinjika maganizo, mwa amuna kuyambira zaka 35 mpaka 45 ndi vuto la zaka zapakati. Chikhalidwe ichi chikugwirizana ndi kukonzanso zomwe zinachitikira ndi moyo. Vuto la zaka za pakati pakati pa amuna ndi kusintha kwa gawo lina la chitukuko. Nthawi zina vuto la amuna silovuta, ndipo nthawi zina limapweteka kwambiri. Mwamuna pa nthawiyi akufunsidwa mafunso: kodi wapindula chiyani, wachita chiyani? Ndipo ngati mayankho ake sakukhutiritsa, ndiye kuti vuto ndilovuta.
Zizindikiro za mavuto pakati pa amuna omwe ali m'badwo wa pakati
Amuna achikulire, panthawi yoyamba ya mavuto, kusintha kwakukulu kumachitika mwa kayendedwe ka kuyankhulana, khalidwe, mchitidwe, malingaliro pa moyo, ndi zina zotero. Panthawi ya mavuto, munthu amasintha kwambiri moti anthu oyandikana nawo samamuzindikira. Mwachitsanzo, kukoka akabudula amfupi, mwadzidzidzi amapita nsomba. Amakumbukira ubwana wake ndipo amawusinthira mobwerezabwereza, kufika posazindikira, kapena samaganizira za atsikana aang'ono, ndi zina zotero.
Koma palinso mbali ina yavuto la m'badwo wa pakati, zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri kusiyana ndi zomwe zapitazo. Pali mavuto, nkhaŵa zopanda nzeru komanso mantha achilendo. Amuna achikulire omwe ali ndi zaka zambiri amakhala ndi thanzi labwino, osasamala. Amayamba kuthamangira madokotala, akufufuza zilonda zake. Amawongolera mofulumira malingaliro kwa akazi. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti amapeza mbuye wamng'ono kuti adziwonetsere kuti adakali "wamng'ono". Zimayambira mu kugona kwa munthu, kuphulika kwaukali, ndipo nthawi zina safuna kuyankhulana. Chizindikiro chodziwikiratu cha kuyambika kwa mavuto pakati pa moyo ndikumasintha, ndi zosatha.
Mmene mungathandizire vutoli kupulumuka munthu
Si chinsinsi kuti matendawa ndi abwino kuteteza kuposa kuchiza mtsogolo. Izi zikugwiranso ntchito pavuto la zaka zapakati. Ndikofunika kuyang'anira ntchito ya mwamuna wanu. Yang'anirani kwambiri zomwe wapindula, kuti mukhale ndi chidwi ndi bizinesi. Ngati palibe chinthu chapadera chomwe munthuyo anachita, ndiye musamudzule chifukwa cha izi. Ngati chinachake sichili bwino, musamuuze kuti alibe zaka zimenezo.
Panthawi yamavuto, mwamuna amakhala pachiopsezo komanso ali pachiopsezo. Ntchito yaikulu ya mkazi ndikumuchotsa kudziko lino mwamsanga. Mwamuna weniweni wa dziko lino ndi zovuta kwambiri kutulukira.
Poyamba zaka zovuta, yambani kukonzanso mwamuna wanu ndi chithandizo. Muwonetseni momwe mumakhalira okondedwa kwa iye, nthawi zonse mukhale ndi iye, muuzeni kuti ndizo zonse kwa inu. Ndikofunika kuti munthu amve kufunikira kwake. Mphamvu yaikulu imakhala ndi mawu. Lankhulani naye ndipo musalole kuti mutseke nokha. Mukayamba kukhumudwa, zimakuuzani zonse zomwe ziri mu moyo wake. Nthawi zina, mvetserani mwatcheru mwamunayo. Pambuyo pake, mtima wake udzamva bwino.
Sonyezani munthuyo momwe mumamukondera ndi kunyada. Zida zikufunikanso kudutsa gawo lino mwa amuna. Sokonezani moyo wanu mwa kupita ku zisudzo, cinema, kukonema, malo odyera. Zonse zimadalira malingaliro anu. Mukhozanso kuitanitsa sauna, kuitanira abwenzi, kupita ku chilengedwe, kupita ku mpumulo m'dziko lotentha, ndi zina zotero Muyenera kulola munthu wanu kudziwa kuti moyo wa msinkhuwu ukuyamba. Mukhoza kulingalira za zosangalatsa zilizonse, chinthu chachikulu sikum'lolanso mwamunayo kukhala wovuta.
Ngakhale mkhalidwe waumunthu, kugonana ndi kwa iye mphindi yofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Ndikofunika kumuthandiza kutsegula mphepo yachiwiri mumunda uno. Kuchita kugonana kumachitika pa "kutalika", kudyetsa ndi mankhwala afrodziakami. Kaŵirikaŵiri amakonza chakudya chamakono.
Kusintha kwa amuna pambuyo pa vuto la zaka za pakati
Ngati kuli koyenera kumuthandiza mwamuna wachikulire omwe ali ndi chikondi ndi chisamaliro, ndiye kuti vuto lidzakhala mofulumira. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi chikhumbo cha kupambana. Pambuyo pa kugonjetsa siteji yatsopano munthu amasintha maganizo ake pa moyo. Amakhala olimba mtima, ozindikira, ndi malo atsopano. Amakhala wanzeru ndikuzindikira kuti moyo weniweni umangoyamba kumene. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, ngati apita "kusiya", amabwerera ku banja.