Chizindikiro choyamba cha kusatetezeka ndi kusakhutira kukwaniritsa zimene mukufuna kokha chifukwa cha mantha olephera. Achinyamata ambiri amadzikonzekeretsa ku zotsatira zoipa, amawopa kuti adzagonjetsedwa, amaopa kunyozedwa ndi anzawo. Okondedwa anyamata ndi atsikana, kumbukirani kuti panali zolephera konse, ngakhale pakati pa ojambula ojambula ndi masayansi padziko lonse, koma, komabe, anthuwa sanataya chikhulupiriro mwa iwo wokha ndipo anapitiriza kuyesa, kumvetsa china chatsopano, kukwaniritsa kupambana kwakukulu. Choncho, sizowopsya kulephereka, kusiyana ndi kukhala pansi ndi kusayesa chilichonse. Anthu osamala potsiriza amasiya chikhulupiriro mwa iwoeni, ndipo chifukwa chakuti iwo, akumvera mantha awo, adaphonya mwayi wambiri. Chizindikiro china cha kusatsimikizika ndi chikhumbo chotsanzira ena, osati kusiyanitsa ndi wina, kuganizira zokhuza za ena zokhutiritsa kuposa zawo. Mwamwayi, kusintha kumeneku kungayambitse mavuto ambiri - kugwiritsa ntchito mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kusuta fodya, kugwiritsa ntchito mfundo yakuti "aliyense amachita zimenezo", kudzidandaula kotero kungakhale koopsa pa thanzi labwino.
Anyamata ndi atsikana ambiri ali achinyamata amadziona ngati osakondweretsa, choncho amamveka ndi kupanga zinthu zomwe sizinali zofunikira kwambiri - ziyanjano ndi odziwa, kupezeka kwa zinthu kapena zinthu. Mu moyo wa mwana aliyense wachinyamatayu amacheza akunena za awo ambiri okonda, omwe, kwenikweni, samatero. Sikofunika kupempha umboni uliwonse kuchokera kwa anyamatawa, chifukwa iwo salipo, ndipo atsikana ndi anyamata amapanga nkhanizi kuti ziuke pamaso pa anzawo ndikuzikweza. Komabe, nthawi zambiri, pakapita nthawi, iwowo amavutika ndi mabodza awo ndipo amadzikana okha, ndipo kutaya ulemu kwawo ndizoopsa kwambiri kuposa mantha oti asakondwere nawo.
Achinyamata ena amakonda kuvala, kuchita zinthu mwa anthu, kuseketsa ndi kutsanzira wina, mawu oti akhale ngati wina. Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kusatetezeka, pamene achinyamata amadziyerekeza nthawi zonse ndi ena. Musalole kuchita zimenezi, chifukwa zikutanthawuza kuti mwanayo amadzipereka kwambiri kuposa ena. Phindu lenileni pa kulinganirana kotereku ndilopindulitsa poyerekeza ndi mtengo wa munthu wina, koma zingakhale bwino kudzipenda nokha malinga ndi ulemu wanu, luso lanu ndi zofuna zanu. Muyenera kusangalala kuti anthu onse ndi apadera mwa njira zawo, ndipo simungapeze munthu wina wonga inu, ndipo mukayamba kudzizindikira nokha, chilakolako chotsanzira munthu chidzatha paokha. Kodi kusatsimikizika kumachokera kuti? Kodi zimaperekedwa kuchokera kubadwa ndi kuchotsa izo sizingatheke! Inde ayi, kudzikayikira kungabwere kwa munthu aliyense, mosasamala za umunthu wake ndi makhalidwe ake. Mwachitsanzo, mavuto monga chisudzulo cha makolo, imfa ya wokondedwa, kunyozedwa, matenda kapena zinthu zilizonse zovuta. Komanso, kusowa kudzidalira kungakhale kulibe kwa mtsogoleri kapena walangizi. Kuthetsa kusatsimikizika n'kofunikira pa mwayi woyamba! Kumbukirani kuti ngakhale Albert Einstein wotchuka sanalephera kupambana mayeso ndi ena.
Choncho, m'munsimu muli malangizo a anyamata ndi atsikana amene akufuna kuthetsa kukayikira, kuwatsatira mwachidule:
- Pezani nokha makhalidwe abwino. Makhalidwe anu ndi ati? Kodi mumatani bwino? Ganizirani za zomwe munapindula.
- Musadzifanizire nokha ndi ena, ikani nokha miyezo yanu.
- Musati muzinena zaumunthu, kumbukirani kuti palibe anthu abwino. Ndi bwino kupumula ndikuyesera kuvomereza nokha momwe mulili.
- Pezani nokha zosangalatsa. Khalani mukuchita zomwe zidzasangalatsa ndi kudzikuza.
- Dzikhulupilireni nokha ndi luso lanu, nthawi zambiri limalimbikitse mawu monga "Ndingathe," "Ndikhoza kuchita," "Ndidzapambana," ndi mawu omwewo simungokhala ndi chidaliro chokha, komanso muthe kusintha mtima wanu.
- Musazengereze kutenga maphokozo. Ngakhale kuti ndi zovuta, avomerezeni moona mtima.
- Muzimasuka kulankhula ndi anthu.
- Kulimba mtima ndi chipiriro zidzakuthandizira kuti ukhale wopambana.
- Phunzirani kudziyimira nokha ndi maganizo anu.
- Fufuzani makhalidwe abwino mwa ena. Perekani ena kuyamikira kochokera pansi pamtima.
- Yesetsani kukhala ndi anthu abwino okha m'dera lanu. Anzathu ndi mabwenzi athu ali ndi mphamvu yaikulu pa ife. Sankhani anzanu omwe amasangalala ndi moyo.
- Ganizirani za tsogolo lanu kokha. Tangoganizani za moyo wanu wam'tsogolo kokha mwa khalidwe labwino, taganizirani bwino.
- Khalani otsimikiza mu zochita ndi zochita.
- Musamangoganizira zolephera, koma nthawizonse muzidziyamika pazinthu zomwe mwathana nazo.
- Pewani kudana ndi kudzidandaula. Zomwe zakhala ziripo kale kuti kudzimva kukhala wolakwa ndi kudzipangira kudzipereka kunathandiza kuti pakhale zotsatira zabwino.
- Dziwani momwe mungayambire bizinesi, kupambana kwa izo kudzakukwezani pamwamba pa ena.
- Sungulani kawirikawiri! Chisomo ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yolankhulira dziko za malo anu abwino.
Posachedwa, mphotho idzakhala yodalirika, kudzidalira, kudzikuza ndi makhalidwe ena ambiri omwe adzakhala mabwenzi anu okhulupirika mutatha kunena "kusalakwitsa" kwanu. Kuti muyambe bwino, choyamba, muyenera kufuna ndikuwona kuchokera ku mwayi wapang'ono mwayi wawukulu. Zonsezi zimadalira inu ndi maganizo anu kuti mukhale osangalala. Kwa inu nonse mutha!