Kodi pali kusowa kwa kusweka m'banja? Inde, ngati mukakambirana nkhaniyo mozama, mungathe kuganiza kuti zosankha za mnzanuyo kuti mutenge "nthawi" zingakhale zoopsa komanso chizindikiro chowopsya. Mmodzi sayenera kuganiza kuti chisankho choterocho chidzakhala chopweteka kwambiri ndipo nthawi zina chimakhala chokhumudwitsidwa kokha kuchokera kumbali yazimayi. Kunyada ndi kunyada kwa amuna kudzapwetekedwa kwambiri kotero kuti woimira chilakolako chogonana akhoza kukhala wodandaula komanso wovutika maganizo kwa nthawi yaitali.
Komabe, chisankho cha kupuma chimagwiritsidwa ntchito kawirikawiri, palimodzi palimodzi ndi palimodzi, ndipo akhoza kuchita ngati mayesero, mayesero, chizindikiro, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale kumangiriza chiyanjano cha ubale wanu.
Choyamba, pamene vuto lirilonse limapachika mlengalenga, kodi timayamba kudabwa chomwe chinayambitsa vutoli? Kodi ndi chifukwa chiti chomwe chimakhala ngati mpumulo wa kanthawi kochepa?
Malingana ndi akatswiri a maganizo ndi anthu ogonana, maziko a chiyanjano cholimba ndi chokhalitsa ndi malo ena enieni pamaganizo ndi nthawi zina osadziwa. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ndizo zomwe zimagwirizananso, zomwe zimawoneka zokonda ndi zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri. Pa gawo loyamba la chiyanjano, chomwe chimatenga zaka ziwiri kapena zitatu, anthu akhoza kukhudzika ndi kukondana wina ndi mzake, koma pamene, kunena kwake, thupi la pansi lidzatha, ndi chiyani chomwe chidzagwirizanitse anthu pamodzi? Ngati chilakolako cha chinyama ndikuti, maziko a chiyanjano ndi aakulu kwambiri, ndiye pambuyo pa nthawi ina mavuto aakulu adzayamba ndipo awiriwo akhoza kutha. Kapena pali njira yowonetsera malingaliro anu ndi chidziwitso chenicheni cha ubale wanu, kukonzekera kupuma mu ubale.
Choyamba, muyenera kulingalira za chifukwa chomwe chiwerengerochi chili, chitani, osasokoneza chiyanjanocho. Mwinamwake, kulibe kopanda kugwirizana kumeneku komwe chifukwa chake chimakhala? Chifukwa china chododometsa chingakhale kulowerera kwa munthu wina, panthawi yomwe theka lanu lachiwiri lapeza "njira yabwino" kwa iye. Pano, njira yokhayo yabwino komanso yothetsera vutoli ndiyo kusiyana, chifukwa pochita izi nthawi imodzi, mukhoza kuyembekezera mwachidwi ndikubwereza zomwe simukukayikira zokhudza momwe mukuchitira. Kulankhula za kugwirizana. N'kutheka kuti mavuto anu ambiri amayamba chifukwa chofunika kwambiri. Chowonadi ndi chakuti anthu ambiri m'miyoyo yawo ali ndi chidziwitso choyanjana ndi anthu oposa 3-4. Ndipo motero, zochepa zomwezo, zomwe zimafunikanso kwambiri pokhudzana ndi mnzanuyo. Zotsatira zake, kukhumudwa kumachitika chifukwa chosowa zogwirizana ndi zoyenera. Pozindikira kuti "muyenera" chiyani, mnzanuyo ndi maubwenzi anu, mumatha kudzifikitsa ku imfa, monga, monga mukudziwira, palibe chomwe chiri chabwino m'moyo. Ndicho chifukwa chake pakali pano, kusweka mu ubale sikungathetseratu chilichonse ndi mavuto pazinthu izi, zidzatsala. Kotero, tikuwona kuti kusweka kwa ubalewo ndi theka, ndipo sizingatheke kuthetsa, ndipo mwachidule mawu akuti "patch" mavuto anu, komanso mosiyana, kuti awulule kwambiri.
Ngati, komabe, pakufunika kusweka mu ubale, ndiye funso likubweranso: "Kodi kupuma kumeneku kuyenera kukonzedwa kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji, ndipo iyenera kukhala nthawi yayitali bwanji? ". M'nkhaniyi, mawu a Frederick Begbeder amakumbukiridwa, omwe amawoneka ngati awa: - Ngati mutatha tsiku lonse simunasokoneze ndi theka lanu lachiwiri, ndiye kuti simukukondana, chifukwa ngati mutakhala ndi mphindi ziwiri kuti mutuluke wamisala ponena za kugawanika kwakukulu. " Zoonadi, maximimalism a mawu awa alibe kanthu ndi moyo weniweni, makamaka popeza tikukamba za gawo lovuta ndi losokoneza la ubale wanu, lodziwika ndi kusatsimikizika ndi kukayikira. Inde, nthawi yolekanitsa kwa nthawi yochepa iyenera kupatsa inu nonse mwayi woganiza mosamala, kuyeza, ndi kumvetsa, kumbuyo, kuyang'ana kumbuyo. Chimodzi mwa zozizwitsa zodabwitsa kwambiri za maganizo a anthu ndikuti timayamikira kwambiri zomwe timataya. Pachifukwa ichi, kupuma kwa kanthaŵi kochepa ndi mtundu wa imfa, yomwe ngati chikondi chako chitha kutayika pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, chidzakupatsani chifukwa choyang'anani wina ndi mzake, monga pachiyambi cha chiyanjano chanu. Ndipo kuti muzindikire kwathunthu imfa iyi sikwanira limodzi kapena masiku awiri. Koma, pang'onopang'ono, kupuma kwa nthawi yaitali kungayambitse kusokoneza, pamene kamvuluvulu wa moyo wathu imangokufikitsani kumtunda wosiyana. Ndi chifukwa chazifukwa zomwe akatswiri a maganizo amalingaliro ndi kulangiza ubale wa mavuto awiriwa amalangiza nthawi yabwino kwambiri ya mwezi umodzi. Kumbali imodzi, mawuwo ndi oposa okwanira kuti aganizire ndi kuzindikira zinthu zina zomwe mwaiwala kuti zokhudzana ndi chikondi ndi chikondi chanu. Kumbali ina, zidzakuthandizani kukonzanso maganizo, komanso kuyang'ana moyo wanu watsopano m'njira yatsopano, powona zinthu zabwino ndi makhalidwe omwe simunazindikirepo chifukwa cha diso la sopo. Ndipo, ndithudi, pewanso kupuma ndikumverera mphamvu ya kugwirizana komweko kumene amatanthauzidwa nthawi zonse amatchedwa chikondi. Ndicho chifukwa chake musanayambe kuikapo chiopsezo chotere monga kusweka kwa ubale kwa mwezi, onse awiri muyenera kuganizira mosamala. Kodi ndizofunika?
Mulimonsemo, chifukwa cha mawu abwino kwambiriwa, zingakhale zochitika zitatu. Pachiyambi choyamba, kupatukana kudzakulolani kumvetsetsa ndi kuyamikira zomwe simunazione ndikuyamikira kale, komanso kukondanso zomwe munamukonda kamodzi. Pachifukwa chachiwiri, ubalewu udzatha padera, pamene kupereŵera kwa kanthaŵi kochepa kudzakupatsani inu nonse kuti mumvetse ndi kumvetsa kufunikira kwa imfa yosatha. Kachitatu, chiyeso ngati kuchepetsa kwa kanthaŵi kochepa kokha kudzakhala mtendere, ndipo kamodzinso mudzamva mavuto omwewo musanalowe. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kudziganizira nokha kapena kuonana ndi katswiri wa chibwenzi kuti mudziwe ndikuwona zifukwa zomwe zimasiyanitsa chombo chanu chachikondi.
Kodi tikufunikira kusweka mu ubale kwa mwezi umodzi kuti tikondane wina ndi mzake, kapena kuti tisagwe chifukwa cha chikondi? Pankhaniyi, mlangizi wabwino adzakhala mtima wanu.