Pa chifukwa china, panali lingaliro lolimba kuti anyamata amaponyera atsikana kawirikawiri. Komabe, kuponyera munthu mwiniyo ndikovuta kwambiri. Amuna samasiya chilichonse kuchoka, ndipo akazi amapirira mpaka omaliza. Ndicho chifukwa chake amamverera kuti akazi amasiyidwa nthawizonse. Ngati malingaliro anu akuzizira, koma simungasiye chibwenzi chanu, muyenera kumvetsera malangizo awa.
Anthu onse ndi maubwenzi ali osiyana. Wina amalumbira tsiku liri lonse, ena amakhala chete ndikukhazikika, mwa awiriwa, mpikisano umangokhala. Palibe chilengedwe chonse choponyera mwamuna palibe. Inde, ngati sizili choncho pamene adakusintha kapena kukumenya, ndiye kuti amayi alibe njira, amapita mwachinyengo.
Koma momwe mungayanjane ndi mnyamata, ngati palibe chifukwa, mwamuna wanu ndi wachikondi ndi wokhulupirika. Kodi ndizofunikira kukhazikitsa chifukwa chosiyira chibwenzi chanu kapena mungachoke popanda tsatanetsatane? Musakhumudwitse mnyamatayo popanda chifukwa.
Poyamba ndi kofunika kufotokozera, kuti mukufuna kugawira bezvariantov. Dzifunseni nokha, koma mumamva bwino nokha, musatope, mungadabwe kuti mudzakhala ndi moyo wotani. Mtsikana ayenera kutsimikiza kuti kupatukana ndi njira yokhayo komanso yotsiriza. Muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti mukufuna kukhala nokha. Ngati pali kukayika, ndi bwino kuyembekezera kwa kanthawi. Mutatha kutero, sikutheka kubwezeretsa ubale wabwino. Nthawi zonse adzakayikira kuti ndinu wosakhulupirika. Ndi bwino kuyembekezera mpaka nthawi yomwe simudzatopa ndi chirichonse mpaka simungalekerere.
Kwa ambiri, ndikofunika kusankha malo abwino oti mugawikane. Ngati simunakhale pamodzi, yesetsani kusankha gawo lopanda gawo limene silikugwirizana ndi zomwe mukukumbukira. Ndi bwino kusankha malo osiyanasiyana, ngati chibwenzi chanu sichidziletsa. Kwa iwo omwe amakhala palimodzi, tsoka, palibe zosankha. Tifunika kuchoka panyumbamo, ndikulimbikitsanso kuti mnyamatayo asonkhanitse zinthu zake. Zimakhala zovuta kugawana ndi mnyamata ngati mumakhala limodzi. Panthawi yomwe amasonkhanitsa zinthu, mumasiya kulumbira. Ngati mumachoka panyumba, kuti musamalumbire, ndizotheka kuti anu sangatenge zinthu.
Muyenera kukhala ndi chidaliro pa zomwe mukulankhula.Ngati mwasankha kale kuti iyi ndiyo njira yoyenera, musabwererenso, mnyamatayo awonetse kuti ndinu wozama ndikubwezeretsa ubale, sangathe konse. Yesetsani kuti musamveketse kwambiri kapena mukunyengerera, zimangowonjezera kuvutika kwa mnyamatayo.
Kulakwitsa kofunikira kwambiri ndi mawu okongola ochokera mu kanema: "Tiyeni tipange anzanga". Palibe abwenzi! Kwa iye kudzakhala mwayi wokumana ndi swami kachiwiri ndipo iwe ukhoza kudzipangitsa wekha. Kuwonjezera apo, amuna ali ndi lingaliro lodzikonda kwambiri, akhoza kukubwezerani, ndiyeno nkuwaponyera. Choncho musakhale mabwenzi ndi akale.
Musaope kukhala opanda pake, musasokonezedwe ndi zokambirana zosafunikira. Yankhulani mwatsatanetsatane, popanda kukumbukira ndi kufotokoza. Musamuchititse manyazi, mundiuze zomwe zinali zabwino, koma si mwamuna wanu. Musagwiritse ntchito milandu yeniyeni, mwachitsanzo, "mumandinyenga nthawi zonse," "mumapita ndi anzanu pamapeto a sabata". Lankhulani mawu okhawo akuti: "Chikondi chasowa kwinakwake." Ngati mukunena milandu yeniyeni, ndiye kuti mwayankha mwamsanga ndikulonjeza kukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna. Inde, ndipo mukhoza kukhulupirira kuti izi zidzasintha ndi kusintha, ndipo asanakhale kuyanjanitsa.
Ngati akuyamba kukukakamizani, ganizirani nokha. Yesetsani kumvetsera mawu ake, koma kumbukirani zokha zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu. Ganizirani za nthawi yochuluka imene munataya pa maubwenzi amenewa, ndipo tsopano mukufunika kuti mukhale ndi nthawi pa zodandaula zake ndikukambirana za chirichonse. Inde, panali zosangalatsa zokumbukira, koma sizothandiza kukhala nawo.
Kupewa ocheza nawo m'tsogolo ndizosatheka. Mabwenzi a anthu, mabwenzi apamtima, achibale, aliyense adzakhala ngati ubale wa ovashih. N'kutheka kuti poyamba adayamba kuyitana ndi kufotokoza ubalewo, akhoza kubwera kunyumba kwanu. Musamvetsetse, inde, ndikupepesa munthu. Koma mulibe ngongole kwa wina aliyense, chimwemwe chanu chili pachiyambi. Yesetsani kupewa kukhudzana ndi chibwenzi chanu.
Kupuma kuliyeso kovuta ndi mbali zonse ziwiri. Nestoit amachulukitsa zomwe zimamuchitikira ndikumudzudzula ndi zinthu zoipa zomwe adachita. Zikhulupirirani, adzakumbukira yekha, yekha yekha. Khalani anzeru ndi owolowa manja, simangokuponyera nokha, mumagonjetsa chabe. Atachoka, pangakhale kumverera kopanda pake ndi kusowa chiyembekezo, nthawi zina mumakhala wokonzeka kumutcha nokha. Pezani zosokonezeka, itanani anzanu abwenzi. Pitani ku kampu kapena salonkrasoty. Mwachizoloŵezi, yesetsani kukhala ndi moyo wathunthu, ndipo musadandaule mumtsamiro. Mu masiku angapo, kumverera kwa kusimidwa kudzayamba kudutsa, ndipo iwe ukhoza kukhala moyo wautali. Musalole kuchita zofooka zazing'ono.
Pambuyo pagawikana, musayese molimba mtima komanso mutsimikizire, ndizoipa kuti muuze anzanu omwe mumamusiya. Ndiuzeni kuti izi zinachitika, mutasankha limodzi. Ndikofunika kusunga nkhope mumoyo uliwonse. Musati mutsegule momveka bwino, kuti mbiri yanu ndi yovuta kubwezeretsa.
Tiyeni tiwone. Ndikofunika kuchoka bwino, popanda kunyozedwa kwa chisalama. Khalani ochenjera, koma osagwedezeka.