Ngati mumakhulupirira tanthawuzoli, ndiye kuti chikondi chimayambira pa chikondi ndi kudzipereka, ndipo chilakolako ndi chilakolako chosatsutsika. Kuonjezera apo, amasiyananso ndi mitundu ya maubwenzi. Kotero momwe tingamvetsere chikondi kapena chilakolako?
Komabe, nthawi zina zimavuta kugawana chikondi ndi chilakolako, chifukwa chilakolako chingakhale ndi kukhalapo kwa chikondi. Tiyeni tiyesere kuchita kafukufuku woyambirira wa maubwenzi pa chilakolako ndi chikondi. Zingathandize kumvetsa munthu yemwe akukumana nawo: chikondi kapena chilakolako. Kodi chikondi ndi chiyanjano cha anthu awiri? Pamene chikondi chiri mu ubale wa anthu awiri, onse awiri amayamikira kwambiri chimwemwe ndi zilakolako za wina ndi mzake. Chikoka cha chikondi chimasonyezedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana: zochita, mawu ndi zochita.
Banja lachikondi limatsatirana wina ndi mzake, nthawi zonse kukumbukira momwe akumvera. Mu ubale wotero, anthu amathera nthawi yawo yaufulu, potsata ulemu ndi chikondi. Ntchito iliyonse imasankhidwa ndikuyang'aniridwa ndi chisamaliro chapadera kuganizira momwe akumvera. Ngati pali mikangano, onse awiri amayesetsa kupeza mgwirizano, kupeza njira yowonjezera kapena kugwirizana. Pomalizira, maubwenzi omwe ali pachikondi, monga lamulo, ndi aatali kwambiri. Chifukwa kukhalapo kwa chikondi kumawathandiza awiriwo kuthana ndi mavuto alionse omwe amakumana nawo nthawi ndi nthawi. Maganizo okondana wina ndi mnzake amathandizira kupirira mayesero ambiri, kuphatikizapo nthawi.
Nanga mumakhala bwanji wokondwa? Ubale wotero sudzabweretsa zotsatira zoipa. Komabe, iwo sangakhale otsimikiza komanso otsimikiza monga chikondi. Monga chikondi, chilakolako chimakhudzanso maubwenzi, mawu ndi zochita za anthu. Chikondi ndi chilakolako zimasiyana kwambiri pakati pa wokondedwayo: mwachikondi, zimakhala zosangalatsa wina ndi mzake pamwamba pawo, ndipo pamene onse awiri amakumana ndi chilakolako, amayesetsa kukwaniritsa zofuna zawo, ndikuziika pampando ndi malo oyamba.
Egoism, yomwe ilipo mu chibwenzi chokongola, pang'onopang'ono imawombera ndipo imakhudza zonse zomwe zikuchitika komanso mwachindunji pa chiyanjano. Pokhala pachikondi chokhalitsa, banjali likufuna kupeza chiyanjano ndi yankho lomwe onse awiri angavomereze, ndipo pamene chilakolako, anthu akufunitsitsa kukwaniritsa zokhumba zawo, koma osaganizira zofuna zawo.
Mbali yomaliza ya chiyanjano cha ubale wokondweretsa ndi nthawi yawo yochepa, yomwe ndi kuphatikiza kwakukulu. Chifukwa chiyanjano cha ubale chimangokhala mwa chikhumbo komanso chilakolako chokha komanso palibe china. Ndipo pamene cholinga chikukwaniritsidwa, chilakolako chimangowonongeka, ndipo abwenziwo salinso okondana. Popanda chilakolako, maganizo awo amayamba pang'onopang'ono n'kutha. Kuwonjezera apo, zochitika za ubale wokondana - kupanda ulemu ndi kudzikonda, kotero n'kosavuta kuganiza kuti chikondi chabwino kapena chilakolako?
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Chisoni chikhala mwa chikondi. Chilakolako sichikuphatikizapo chikondi. Chifukwa chakuti kudzikonda sikumapereka mpata wokonda chikondi monga chifukwa mu ubale wokondana.
Kupatukana kwa chilakolako kuchokera ku chikondi kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Komabe, tiyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa chilakolako ndi chikondi - ubale wa chikondi umadalira kudzikonda ndi chisamaliro, ndipo chilakolako ndi kudzikonda. Komabe, simungatsutsane wina ndi mzake, musayesetse ngakhale.