Kodi mungapewe bwanji ukwati?

Si chinsinsi kuti pali anthu omwe cholinga cha moyo sichikwatira kapena kukwatira, ngakhale kuti zinthu zikhale bwino kuti izi zichitike. Zifukwa zokana ukwati zingakhale zosiyana. Kuwopa mawonekedwe ake osakondweretsa, kuwopa kupanga zosankha zoyenera, kusudzulana ndi kukhumudwa kwa makolo ake, kusokoneza maubwenzi a abwenzi ake ndi zifukwa zina zambiri zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti asiye ubale wa banja.

Kusakwatiwa kapena kukwatiwa ndi ntchito yonyada, chifukwa si aliyense amene angachite.

Ndipo pafupifupi abwenzi onse, achibale ndi anthu omwe amadziwana nawo amayamba kukankhira ndi kuthamanga ndi mawu akuti: Ndiyo nthawi yanu, njira yabwino kwambiri kwa inu ... yang'anani, musakhalebe mtsikana wachikulire ... Ndizo, ndipo nkofunika kuti muzitsuka ndi kumwetulira, kuti musakhumudwitse interlocutor kapena mwangozi kupita kukwatira.

Potsata malangizo angapo omwe ndikukupatsani, mutha kusunga ufulu wanu ndi kuwononga mapulani aliwonse a anzanu ndi achibale anu kuti akwatirane. Anzanu akuganiza kuti mukufufuza mwakhama gawo lanu lachiwiri, koma pazifukwa zina simuli ndi mwayi ndipo simungapeze zabwino zanu.

Malangizo owopsa kwa abambo ndi amai omwe safuna kudzilemetsa okha ndi banja lawo:

Pangani chithunzi cha kalonga wanu wokongola, yemwe angakhale abwino kwa inu mwanjira iliyonse, mpaka pazing'ono kwambiri ndi kukana kale panjira ngati wotsatilayo sakugwirizana ndi chithunzi chanu chojambula ndi millimeter.

Mwachitsanzo, mnzako wam'tsogolo ayenera kukhala wojambula zithunzi, kuti athe kukopera chithunzi chanu chabwino, ndipo amadziwa momwe angathere masewera, zomwe zikutanthawuza kuti popanda kuganizira mozama iye sagwirizana.

Chithunzi chojambulacho chiyenera kuganiziridwa mwachindunji ndi tsatanetsatane: kusamalira osati maonekedwe, maphunziro, makhalidwe ake komanso chikhalidwe chawo, komanso kumvetsera zokonda, zosangalatsa ndi zokondweretsa. Kotero muyenera kupereka zonse mwatsatanetsatane!

Chofunika kwambiri pakusankha mkazi kapena mwamuna amene angakhale naye kapena makolo amasewera ndi makolo ndi achibale ena. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti muzikonda makolo a mfumu yanu (kalonga). Onetsetsani mosamala, ayang'anani pa iwo ndipo ngati muwona zofooka zilizonse mwa iwo, nthawi yomweyo perekani kalonga wanu (mfumukazi).

Mwadzidzidzi, kodi zolephereka zomwezo zidzakwaniritsidwe? Samalirani kwambiri za thanzi la achibale anu, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wam'tsogolo ayenera kukhala ndi thanzi labwino m'zonse popanda zozizwitsa ku matenda obadwa nawo.

Chinthu chabwino kwambiri ngati mnzanuyo sakulowa mu ubale wapadera ndipo safunikira kuyang'ana zifukwa zokana.

Ndikukulangizani kuti muzicheza nthawi zambiri ndi anyamata, kuti musalowerere mu ubale wosayenera. Koma tsoka, nthawi zina kulandira kuitanidwa ku maphwando kapena kukachezera, kumene kuli koyenera kulumikizana ndi alendo onse, kaya mumakonda kapena ayi, n'kosatheka. Komabe, pali njira yomwe imagwira ntchito mosalekeza, momwe simudzasokonezedwanso ndi kuyesa kulankhulana.

Chinsinsicho ndi chophweka: kulikonse ndipo nthawi zonse kambiranani za iwe nokha komanso za mavuto anu, musalole kuti interlocutor amve mawu ndipo samvetsera zokambirana zake. Tangoganizani kuti munthu wina akufikira, akufuna kukudziwani, adafunsa funso losavuta "Kodi muli bwanji?" Nthawi yomweyo yambani kuuza mavuto anu m'moyo wanu, za abwana anu kuntchito komanso za puloti wanu wokondedwa ndi zambiri zanu . Chabwino, ngati wogwirizanitsa akuyesera kusokoneza kapena kufotokoza maganizo anu, ntchito yanu yoyamba siyiloleza izi.

Lolani womulankhulana wanu akhalebe womvetsera, koma inu nokha muyenera kulankhula. Mwachidziwikire, pambuyo pa kukambirana koteroko, iye adzataya kwathunthu chilakolako cha kukudziwani bwino, ndipo ngati mumusamalirabe, mwinamwake muyenera kuyang'ana pafupi naye.

Khalani mwamtendere ndikuyesera kuti musayanjane ndi wina aliyense. Zoona, ndiye palibe amene angadandaule za inu, koma mumangodziganizira nokha. Ndiye chimwemwe ndi chiyani?