Kodi mungasinthe bwanji munthu wabwino? Momwe mungamuthandizire kumvetsa kuti chirichonse padziko lapansi chiri choda, osati chakuda? Momwe mungamupulumutsire, kuchokera kwa iye? Ndiyetu muyenera kuchenjeza kuti ndi kovuta kulimbana ndi anthu oterowo. Amatsutsa anthu omwe sagwirizana ndi maganizo awo. Ngakhale kudziwa kuti ndi munthu wokongola. Iye akhoza kukutcha iwe mngelo ndikupewa kusonkhana mwachindunji chifukwa cha izi. Inu mukhoza kuwukitsidwa mwa iye kumverera, ndi amphamvu kwambiri kuti iye aziwopeza iwo basi. Kuwonjezera apo, pambali pake pali anzake nthawi zonse omwe amanena kuti akuchita zonse bwino. Ndipo, nthawi zambiri, amaganiza moona mtima kuti izi zikhala bwino. Iwo samadziwa nkomwe kuti munthu wawo wapafupi wayima kale pamphepete mwa chigwa, ndipo iwo akumukankhira iye pansi ndi manja awo omwe. Choncho, ngati mumadziwa bwino mabwenzi ake, yesetsani kuwafotokozera kuti musagwirizane ndi munthu uyu pofuna kukhala woipa. Ngati simukufuna, musamatsutse, koma osasiya kuyamika.
Pofuna kumvetsa momwe mungasinthire mnyamata kukhala wabwino, muyenera kudziwa zifukwa za khalidwe lake. Anthu abwino samayesa kuoneka ngati opanda pake pachabe. Pali zifukwa ndipo zimabisika muubwana. Ndipo, nthawi zambiri, m'banja.
Mwinamwake mnyamatayu anali wosakonda. Zimakhalapo ngati ana amakhala m'mabanja omwe ali kholo limodzi, makamaka ngati palibe bambo kapena mayi. Ndipo makolo ali amoyo ndipo sakhala ndi chidwi ndi ana awo. M'mabanja oterowo, papa, kawirikawiri, sakudziwika kumene, ndi amayi, amapezeka kamodzi pa chaka, amapereka chinachake ndipo amatha. Funsani mnyamatayo, mwinamwake iye anakulira ndi agogo ake, ndipo analibe chikondi chokwanira cha amayi. Mwa njira, kusowa kwa izi chabe, kumawoneka ngakhale ndi khalidwe. Achinyamata oterowo amakonda kukhumudwitsa ndi kukumbatirana mwanjira yoti wina amangofuna kumugwedeza, monga mwana wamng'ono, kuti am'pweteke mutu ndi kunena kuti zonse zidzakhala bwino.
Ngati ndi choncho, yesetsani kuphunzira momwe mungathere pa ubwana wake, maubwenzi ndi achibale ndi anzanu. Ngati chibwenzi chanu ali ndi malingaliro odabwitsa ndipo amakonda kunena kuti ali mwana ankangoganizira mabuku okha, onetsetsani kuti adangopeka. Mu ubwana, sitidziwa momwe tingayamikire malingaliro ndi zovuta. Choncho, mwina makampani oyendetsa bwalo sanazindikire, choncho adaganiza kuti akhale woipa, wotchedwa Mega-Brain, kuti adziteteze kuti asakonde.
Ndipotu, anthu oterowo amafunikira chikondi, kumvetsetsa ndi kukoma mtima. Koma, iwo amakana izo, ngakhale pamaso pawo. Choncho, muyenera kumatenga nthawi yambiri ndi khama kuti mumutsimikizire munthu kuti maganizo ake ndi olakwika komanso mogwirizana ndi zomwe mumamufuna komanso kuti mukhale ndi moyo.
Kudana ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zopezera zoipa. Ziribe kanthu kaya mnyamata amavomereza kapena amakana, koma amadana ndi kudziyang'ana yekha. Chifukwa cha izi chingakhale chochuluka: osasankhidwa mwachindunji ku yunivesite, kusowa patsogolo pa ntchito, osati maonekedwe okongola ndi ena. Amakana mwakachetechete kuti ngati mumamukonda ndi minda yonse, ndiye bwanji sakudzikonda yekha?
Chifukwa cha malingaliro olakwika payekha, munthu wotero sangakhulupirire kuti akusowa munthu padziko lapansi lino. Kawirikawiri, kumbuyo kwa chigoba choyipa, moyo wovuta kwambiri umabisala, zomwe zimakhala zosavuta kukhumudwitsa. Pali zolakwa zambiri, kotero amachotsa anthu kutali, kotero kuti palibe amene angamuvulaze.
Muyenera kupanga njira yayitali kudzera mu chipolopolo chake kuti muthe kusintha munthu uyu kuti akhale wabwino. Zidzatenga nthawi yoposa mwezi, mpaka adzazindikira kuti mumamukonda "popanda chifukwa." Muyenera kumupangitsa kuti adzikonda yekha, ndikudzipangire nokha kuti mutsegule. Koma njira zachiwawa sizigwirizana pano. Tiyenera kuchita mozama kwambiri. Musalankhulepo kanthu ngati chinthu chosatsutsika. Ngakhale ziri zoona zenizeni. Ingomupatseni chakudya cha kulingalira, ndipo musatsutsane, mukufuna, mwa njira zonse, kuteteza maganizo anu. Khalidweli lidzangomudzudzula, kumupangitsa kukhala wopupuluma ndi kudzikonda yekha. Mukungoyenera kumuuza zomwe zinachitika m'moyo, nanga bwanji, pakati pazinthu zina, kumbukirani malingaliro ndi zochitika za anthu osiyanasiyana, mwazinthu, kunena zomwe zingathetse malingaliro ake oipa pa chowonadi.
Musamukakamize munthu uyu kuti achite chirichonse. Ngati ndinu wokhulupirika, ndiye kuti adzachita zonse chifukwa cha chifundo chamkati. Ndipo kachiwiri: musanene kuti iye ndi wabwino. Zosatha ndi zosasintha. Kutamandidwa, chithandizo, koma musagwiritse ntchito mawu oti "ndinu abwino". Anthu otere amazindikira kuti mawuwa ndi onyoza. Iye wakhala akumenyera kwa zaka zambiri kuti akhale mutu wa "munthu woipitsitsa pa dziko lapansi," ndipo iwe umawononga mosavuta zipatso zonse za kuyesayesa kwake. Mukamanena kuti iye ndi wabwino, m'pamenenso amatsimikizira kuti alibe chidwi. Ngakhale popanda kufuna kuchita izi, ngakhale kudziwa kuti zidzathandiza kwambiri kukhumudwitsa, iye adzafika mpaka kumapeto. Kuuma kwake ndi kukhazikika kwanu mu chiweruzo kumabweretsa mikangano ndi mkwiyo. Choncho, onyesa kuti mumavomereza, ndikumukakamiza. Mwachidziwitso, mopanda kuzindikira, amachita zonse kuti amukumbukire kukoma mtima kwake ndi kusiya kuopa.
Yandikirani mnyamata wanu mwachikondi ndi chisamaliro. Musangogonjetsa ndodo ndipo musamachite nawo amayi. Chitani chilichonse mosamala, koma kuti amve kuti wina amafunikiradi munthu, kuti amamukonda ndi kulemekezedwa. Ngakhale atakana zonsezi, posakhalitsa khoma lidzagwa ndipo maski adzagwa. Ndipo, panthawi imeneyo, potsiriza adzatha kuwonetsa aliyense zomwe wawona mu moyo wake ndi kuvomereza kuti ndi wabwino.