Nchifukwa chiyani atsikana amasankha olemera ndi okongola?
Kodi zonsezi zilipo masiku ano? Inde pali! Koma zikuwoneka kuti ambiri amatsutsa mwatsatanetsatane, akudzudzula atsikana ndi akazi amakono chifukwa cha umbombo, kulingalira ndi kukakamizika.
Ndithudi, okonda ndalama zakunja anali nthawi zonse ndi kulikonse, koma ndi chitukuko chachuma cha dziko lathu komanso zomwe tingathe kupeza phindu, chiwerengero chawo chikhoza kuwonjezeka moyenera.
Kodi ndizosasangalatsa komanso zachiwerewere kwa atsikana aang'ono kuti akhale pafupi ndi iwo, wolemera, wolemera? Tidzayesa kulingalira funso ili kumbali zonse.
Lero, dziko lathu latsegulira mipata yambiri yokweza makwerero a ntchito komanso zopindula zabwino. Chifukwa cha ichi, panali mpikisano pakati pa abambo amuna - omwe adzawonetse bwino malingaliro awo, omwe ali opindulitsa, omwe adzauka mofulumira pa "makwerero" ndi kukwaniritsa zambiri. Inde, mpikisano wathanzi wotere umathandiza kuonjezera chiwerengero cha amuna olemera. Ndipo msungwanayo, pakali pano, akudzipangitsa yekha kulingalira: yemwe amapeza zambiri, amatha kukhala wothandiza. Choncho, izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa ana amtsogolo.
Ndipotu, mayi aliyense wam'tsogolo ali ndi chidziwitso choyesa kuyesetsa kukonza tsogolo labwino kwa ana ake. Sichifuna kuwapatsa zokhazokha, koma komanso kuonetsetsa kuti ndi bwino kulera ndi chitukuko. Pomwe ali ndi chidziwitso, amai amayesera kubisa kumbuyo pa nthawiyo, ngati mwadzidzidzi zimachitika - amwalira kapena akudwala kwambiri. Atakwatiwa ndi munthu wolemera komanso wodalirika, amapatsa ana ake inshuwalansi za mtsogolo - woyenera kupulumuka ndi kukhala ndi moyo.
Zonsezi zikutsatira mfundo imodzi: Mtsikana amasankha munthu wachuma, motsogoleredwa ndi chibadwa chachibadwa cha chisamaliro cha ana ake.
Chikhumbo chowapatsa ana awo tsogolo labwino sichimene chimachititsa atsikana kusankha olemera ndi oyenerera. Chifukwa chachiwiri ndi chikhalidwe cha moyo wamakono.
Pakali pano, ma TV onse, amajambula mwakhama moyo wochuluka, wamtengo wapatali komanso wokongola. Mapulogalamu ambiri, zolemba m'magazini ndi m'magazini zimaperekedwa ku Cinderellas zamakono, omwe ali ndi akalonga olemera, okongola, owona mwa amuna awo; amayi okongola omwe amasankha ena oligarchs ndi ena ndi atsikana omwe kukongola kwawo kumatsegula zitseko zawo ku moyo wokongola ndi wosasamala. Ndi zachilendo kuti chidziwitso cha msungwana wamng'ono wokongola chimayamba kukhazikitsidwa pansi pa zovuta zachisokonezo chonse ichi pa mbali ya ma TV. Amayamba kukhulupirira kuti atsikanawa sali abwino kuposa iye mwini, kuti ndi woyenera osati wolemera chabe koma wokongola. Zonsezi, chuma chake chimalonjeza kukhala wokongola, wamtengo wapatali komanso wosasangalatsa, komanso wokondedwa, poyamba, kuchitira ena nsanje (makamaka pakati pa chiwerewere), sizonyansa kukaona malo odyera, malo owonetserako masewera ndi malo ena onse, ndipo kachiwiri, mwamuna wokongola amakhala nawo mtundu wabwino kwambiri wa majeremusi. Potero, mwayi wakubadwa kwa ana okongola ndi wabwino, womwe ndi wofunikanso kwa mkazi.
Palinso chifukwa china chimene atsikana amasankhira mwamuna wolemera ndi wokongola. M'dziko lamakono, atsikanawo amakhala okwanila mokwanira (kumasulidwa kwatuluka kunja kwa England ndipo chaka chilichonse malo ake amakhala ochulukirapo). Amapindula bwino, mwamsanga komanso mosamala kukwera makwerero awo, osati chifukwa cha deta yawo yakunja, komanso malingaliro. Mwachidule, atsikana ambiri ali odziimira payekha, akhoza kudzipezera okha. Choncho, mwachibadwa kuti zimawoneka kwa iwo - mwamuna ayenera kukhala woyenera kapena wabwino. Motero, zopempha za atsikana ameneĊµa zapitirirabe. Izi ndi zachilendo, ziri bwino. Kuzindikira kwa hafu yokongola sikunayambe kuchepetsedwa mwa kudzizindikiritsa kwa amayi: mwamuna ayenera kukhala wopembedzera, wodalirika, wamtundu uliwonse. Ngati ndapindula zambiri, ngati ndili wopambana, wochenjera komanso wokongola, ndiye mnzanga, mwa njira yoyenera, ayenera kukhala pamlingo wanga, kuphatikizapo "zowonjezera" - monga msungwana kapena mkazi aliyense amene wapindulapo m'moyo wake.
Ndipo, atsikana ambiri amalota za mwamuna wolemera ndi wokongola. Koma sizowopsya kulota ndipo simungakhoze kuletsa izo, pambali, maloto ndi zikhumbo zina zikhoza kukwaniritsidwa, ngati, ndithudi, ku loto lino kuyesetsa ndi kuchita zonse bwino. Chofunika koposa, sankhani munthu woyenera. Choyamba, ndikofunika kupeza zomwe amuna olemera amawoneka. Amuna awa amabwera mu mitundu iwiri.
Pachiyambi choyamba, awa ndi amuna omwe adakhala olemera, osachita khama lililonse: cholowa, kulandiridwa ndi chinyengo ndi kuba, ndi zina zotero. Mtundu uwu ndi wodzitama ndi chuma chake. Amunawa amasankha magalimoto othamanga (monga Porsche, Ferrari, Jaguar kapena Lamborghini), zovala za malonda otchuka.
Pachiwiri chachiwiri, amuna amawoneka ochepetsetsa kusiyana ndi mtundu woyamba. Iwo samawonetsa chuma chawo. Amuna awa apanga chuma chawo, kawirikawiri kudzera m'maganizo awo. Amunawa amasankha magalimoto apamwamba komanso olemekezeka (German ndi Japanese brand). Iwo samakonda kugwira, koma zovala ndi nsapato zapamwamba kwambiri. Mtundu woyamba wa amuna olemera umapezeka makamaka m'ma casinos, m'malesitilanti. Komanso akhoza kupezeka m'masewera apamwamba. Koma mtundu wachiwiri wa kupeza ndi kugwira ndi wovuta kwambiri, chifukwa amathera nthawi yawo yonse pantchito.
Chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti mitundu yonse ya amuna ikhoza kupezeka muwonetsero kapena m'sitolo. Msungwanayo angoyamba kudziwana ndi munthu wolemera, akufunsa mafunso angapo ponena za iwo kapena magalimoto ena. Kukusaka iwe ukuyenera kukonzekera bwino. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kupita ku salon yabwino ndikukhala ndi ndalama zabwino, koma izi ndi zoyenera, ndipo ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito malangizo abwino, mukhoza kupeza mwamuna wolemera.