Zochita ndi phindu la kukhala pamodzi.
Nthaŵi zambiri, kukhala ndi makolo, banja laling'ono salipira nyumba, zomwe zimapulumutsa ndalama. Ngati makolo amakhala ndi chiyanjano ndi wina ndi mzake ndipo ubale wawo ndi wabwino, ndiye kuti wina akhoza kumanga ubale wawo molingana ndi chitsanzo chawo. Kuthandizira kulimbitsa mgwirizano pakati pa mabanja awiriwa. Poyang'anira banja, mabanja onse amathandizana wina ndi mzake: Mukabwera kuchokera kuntchito mochedwa, mukhoza kuyembekezera kudya chakudya chamadzulo. Achinyamata amatha kukhala ndi uphungu wanzeru nthawi zonse. Mwana wamng'ono akapezeka m'banja lachinyamata, thandizo la makolo lidzabwera moyenera.
Koma pali zinthu zambiri zoipa ngati achinyamata ayenera kukhala ndi makolo awo. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri makolo samavomereza kuti achinyamatawo ndi achikulire kale. Nthawi zambiri amapereka malangizo awo "mwadongosolo." Izi zidzathetsa mikangano. Chabwino, malangizo awa sadzanyalanyazidwa. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano. Izi zikhoza kukhala malingaliro olakwika kwa munthu yemwe waonekera mnyumbamo. Mlamu wake akudandaula ndi mpongozi wake, apongozi ake sakonda mpongozi wake. Kusakondweretsa kungasonyezedwe mwanjira zosiyanasiyana: kudana, kusakhutira ndi makolo, ndi zina zotero. Kuvutika maganizo nthawi zonse m'maganizo kumayesedwa kawirikawiri ndi mabanja achichepere. Ngati zinthu sizili bwino, izi zingasokoneze ubwenzi wa okwatirana kumene.
Mabungwe a akatswiri a maganizo.
Taganizirani zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku. Pomwe munthu watsopano wa m'banja akuwonekera, pali mavuto awa: Ndani amayamba kusambira ndi chimbudzi, amene angatenge mphika ku khitchini. Komanso mawonekedwe a malo ena a nsapato zatsopano, masokosi ndi zinthu zina. Nchifukwa chiyani sanachotse mugugu, ndi zina zotero. Makolo ayenera kukhala oleza mtima komanso ozindikira, popanda kuwonjezera vutoli.
Makolo amayesetsa kupereka uphungu, zikuwoneka kuti iwo amadziwa zonse ndipo ali ndi ufulu wophunzitsa achinyamata. Choncho, achinyamata samakonda, ndipo amakangana. Mfundo yokhayo ndi yakuti makolo ayenera kukhala anzeru ndikuyesera kumvetsa ana awo.
Kumayambiriro kwa cohabitation, makolo amalipira achinyamata ntchito zina, koma potsirizira pake amadandaula ndi kulipira munthu watsopano m'banja. Zikatero, zidzudzulo zimayamba, ndipo mbali zonsezo zimakhala zovuta.
Komanso makangano angayambe chifukwa cha kusakonda kwawo. Makolo ena sanena maganizo awo pa "lotseguka", ena samafuna kudziletsa okha ndipo amalankhula momvetsa chisoni ndi wosankhidwayo kapena wosankhidwa wa mwana wawo. Okwatirana nthawi zonse chifukwa cha izi ali m'maganizo a maganizo ndipo amatsutsana. Makamaka "wosasangalatsa" ndi munthu amene ali pakati pa anthu awiri apamtima - kumbali imodzi, makolo, pa wokondedwa kapena wokondedwa.
Kawirikawiri, pamene achinyamata akukhala ndi makolo awo, sichikondweretsa "watsopano" chifukwa cha zovuta zaumwini. Mwachitsanzo, apongozi ake sangathe kuyenda mu chipinda cha usiku kapena pamutu pake. Mlamu wake akuchotsedwa ufulu woyenda mozungulira nyumbayo m'mapulumu ake ndi zina zambiri. Musaiwale kuti m'banja lililonse pali miyambo yawo ndi malamulo awo, zomwe sizingasinthe. Izi zimachititsa kusamvetsetsana.
Mavuto angayambe pamene alendo atsopano amapezeka m'nyumba, poyang'ana TV (pambuyo pake, aliyense amakonda mapulogalamu awo). Musaiwale kuti mabanja onsewa ali ndi zofunikira zawo. Kukhala pamodzi kwa mabanja awiri kumabweretsa zovuta zawo mu moyo wapamtima, zomwe sizingasokoneze mgwirizano wa achinyamata ndi makolo. Nthawi ina, muyenera kupita kukagula, kukacheza ndi anzanu, mwa kuyankhula kwina, kulola achinyamata ndi makolo awo kuti asakumane nawo kwa kanthawi.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kukhala ndi makolo anu mwamtendere? Gwiritsani ntchito malangizo angapo. Yesetsani kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere mavuto pamene akuwuka. Kulankhulana zambiri ndi wina ndi mzake, kuyankhula pa mitu yosiyana. Phunzirani kumvetsera mwachidwi ndikuganiziranso maganizo a wina ndi mzake. Muzochitika izi, yang'anani njira yotulukira pamodzi - musanene kuti "vuto lanu ndilo".
Achinyamata ayenera kuphunzira kulemekeza nzeru za makolo awo. Ndipo akulu amafunika kuzindikira kuti ana awo ali ndi ufulu wodzisankhira zochita paokha. Pamene mukuyankhula, yesetsani kukweza mawu anu wina ndi mzake. Palimodzi, muyenera kuthana ndi zolephera, kuphunzira ndi kusangalala pamodzi. Mverani wina ndi mzake, ulemu ndi wodwala. Musadzikundikire mphamvu zolakwika, kotero kuti palibe "kupasuka" kwa maganizo. Musayese kukakamiza ena maganizo anu. Ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito mfundozi, moyo wa achinyamata ndi makolo udzakhala wabwino. Musaiwale akuluakulu omwe poyamba anali achinyamata.