Mwamwayi, anthu ambiri amafuna kupeza mphamvu pamaganizo ndi malingaliro a ena ndikugwiritsira ntchito pa njira imeneyi njira yamaganizo yotere monga chiwonongeko. Inde, anthu omwe amagwera m'manja mwa anthu oterewa, nthawi zambiri amafuna kuthawa mtundu umenewu. Funso ndilo momwe mungaphunzirire kukana wogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osagonjetsedwa?
Musapitirire nazo zakumverera
Anthu osokoneza nthawi zonse amadziwa malo anu odwala komanso zochitika zawo. Choncho, nthawi zonse amakanikira pa zowawa kuti akwaniritse zotsatira. Kawirikawiri anthu ogwiritsira ntchito amawagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu kwa iwo. Ngati wogwiritsira ntchito akudziwa kuti mumamukonda kwambiri, adzakuchititsani manyazi ndi maganizo ake. Mwachitsanzo, wogwiritsa ntchito manipulator akhoza kufotokoza kuti sangalankhulane ndi inu, ngati simukukwaniritsira zofuna zake, zingathe kuchita ndi kubisala. Mwachitsanzo, atamva kuti anakana, amayamba kukwiyitsa, kuopseza ndi zina zotero. Ngati mwathamangira kuchita zonse, monga akunena, kupepesa ndi kukwaniritsa zovuta zonse, ndiye kuti zochita zake zikuyenda bwino. Pofuna kuteteza izi kuti zisakwaniritsidwe, simukuyenera kuphunzira zomwe sizikukhudzani. Inde, aliyense wa ife safuna kutayika okondedwa ake. Koma ngati munthu wotereyo akuwongolera, muyenera kumusonyeza kuti mphamvu zake pa inu sizidzakhala ndi zotsatira zake. Ngati munthu akukuyamikirani, amasiya kuyesera kuti agwiritse ntchito ndikuyanjanitsa. Ngati apitiriza kuchita zomwezo ndikuyamba kukwaniritsa malonjezano ake, ndiye kuti ubale wanu sikutanthauza chilichonse komanso munthu amene simumamufuna. Choncho, ngati muzindikira kuti wogulitsa masewera amayamba kusewera ndi malingaliro anu, afotokozere momveka bwino kuti mumamvetsa bwino zolinga zake ndipo simungathe kukhumudwa. Mwinamwake, munthu sangavomereze kuti akuyesera kukupusitsani. M'malo mwake, iye ayamba kukwiya mwakuya kapena kukukumbutsani kuti mukulakwitsa. Palibe chifukwa choti "musamatsogolere" ku khalidwe limeneli. Ngakhale iye akulira, ngakhale iye akulira, sungani malingaliro ake okhulupirika. Ngati kamodzi kamodzi mukamuwonetsa munthuyo kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mpweya, adzapitiriza kuchita izi kwa moyo wake wonse. Kusiya ubale wanu udzakhala chitsanzo cha khalidwe la "mbuye", pamene munthu wina amachita chilichonse chimene akufuna, ndipo wachiwiri amavomereza ndikudzipereka kuti asatayike.
Pamene wogwiritsira ntchito akuwona kuti "wodwalayo" sangathe kuchitapo kanthu, akhoza kusintha njira. Pachifukwa ichi, munthuyo amayamba kugona ndi mayamiko, akuyankhula momwe akusowa thandizo lanu ndi zambiri. Pankhaniyi, yesetsani kulingalira mofatsa ndipo musamvere mawu ake. Kumbukirani kuti munthu ali wokonzeka kunena chirichonse kuti pamapeto pake zikhale momwe iye akufunira. Izi zimadziwika kuti atsikana amakonda makutu, ambiri amamuna ogonana amakumana ndi vutoli.Kumbukirani kuti mawu onsewa ndi dummy ndipo munthu amene amalankhula ndi wosasamala, koma kuti akwaniritse zotsatira zake. , fotokozani momveka bwino kuti ndi mawu okongola sadzasintha kanthu ndipo simudzakwaniritsa cholinga chake chifukwa chakuti adakuyitanani kuti ndinu anzeru komanso okoma mtima. Inu ndinu okoma mtima, koma osati ndi iwo omwe akuyesera kukukakamizani inu kuti muchite chinachake mopanda chilungamo.
Kuvala Zovala
Munthu sangagwiritsidwe ntchito mwakhalidwe chabe, koma komanso zakuthupi. Pachifukwa ichi, wogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala amachititsa munthu mphatso, amapereka ndalama ndi zina zotero, ponena kuti palibe chofunika pakubwezera. Komabe, pakangoyamba kuchitika, momwe wogwiritsira ntchitoyo amafunira thandizo lililonse, amatha kubwerera kwa iye amene wapereka ndipo samayiwala kukumbukira manja ake. Pachifukwa ichi, musalole kudzimvera chisoni. Inde, ngati ndinu woona mtima komanso wokoma mtima, lingaliro loyamba limene limabwera m'maganizo anu: "Iye wandichitira zambiri, ndingakane bwanji?". Simuyenera kugonjetsedwa, chifukwa woyang'anira wanu wodziwa bwino amachita zonse zomwe mwachita popanda chifukwa. Makhalidwe ake si odzikonda, kotero simungamve kuti ndinu wolakwa pamaso pake. Ngati angakupatseni mphatso ndi kupanga manja okongola monga choncho, ndiye akadza ndi pempho, sakanatha kuziganizira. Koma nthawi iliyonse pamene chirichonse chikuganiziridwa pasadakhale, anthu nthawizonse amayesera kuti aziumirira pa chikumbumtima, kukumbukira zakale. Kotero, pamene wogulitsa anu akubwera kwa inu ndi mawu otere, musachite manyazi kumumbutsa iye kuti iye mwiniyo anati: "Ndimachita izi popanda chifukwa, sindikusowa kanthu kalikonse." Mwachibadwa, akhoza kuyamba kufotokoza zomwe akuchita, kulengeza kuti amamvetsetsa bwino (kapena, kapena tsopano), koma khalidwe lake ndi anthu oterowo ndilofunika kukhalabe osagwedezeka. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti simuyenera kuyambitsa aliyense. Koma kuti zochitika zoterezi sizibwererenso kuyambira tsopano, yesetsani kusamvetsa mphatso ndi zizindikiro za chidwi kuchokera kwa anthu omwe simukuwadziwa bwino.
Ngati wogwiritsira ntchito akuyamba kunena kuti mukuyenera kubweza ngongole yomweyo, musazengereze kubwezera munthu amene mwamulandira. Ndi anthu oterowo ndi bwino kuti musakhale ndi ngongole, ngakhale mukudziwa kuti pachiyambi zikuwoneka kuti zatheka chifukwa cha zolinga zabwino. Ngati wogwiritsa ntchito manipulator atsala pang'ono kukhala ndi vuto la maganizo, amaigwiritsira ntchito ndipo akupitiriza kukupanikizani. Ndipo monga mukudziwira, munthu amene kwa nthawi yaitali ali ndi makina osokoneza maganizo, amatha kuswa ndipo amapatsa wogwiritsira ntchito mwayi woti adziyendetse yekha ndi kudzigonjetsa yekha ku malingaliro ake ndi zikhumbo zake.
Ngati pali wogulitsa pafupi ndi iwe, usayese kumukwiyitsa ndi kulakwitsa pa zolinga zake. Mu kuya kwa moyo, munthu aliyense amamva molakwika, akufuna kuchitapo kanthu kapena ayi, chifukwa kuponderezedwa kumakhudzidwa ndi maganizo, kumene munthu amakakamizidwa kuchita zinthu zosiyana ndi zikhumbo. Ndipo ngati mumvetsetsa kuti wina amakuchititsani khalidwe loipa, zomwe simukufuna kuchita - ndi wothandizira 100%. Kuchokera kwa anthu oterowo ndi bwino kukhala kutali, chifukwa mukangoswa, simungathe kuima kwa nthawi yaitali ndikusiya kukwaniritsa zofuna zake. Koma ngati pazifukwa zina mukufunabe kapena mukufunikira kukhala ndi luso ndi wogwiritsira ntchito, musamayankhe mawu ake ndi khalidwe lake. Nthawi zonse muwonetsetse kuti mumamvetsa bwino zolinga komanso cholinga chimene amachitira, kuchita zomwe sakuchita, komanso kuchita chilichonse chimene akuchita.