Kodi mukuyembekezerabe kalonga pa kavalo woyera? Chabwino, kapena molingana ndi zochitika zatsopano za moyo wamakono, pa Mercedes woyera? Ndipo mu madzulo aatali atakhala pawindo, kwa zaka zana ndikudzifunsa nokha: "Chabwino, bwanji sindingapeze chikondi changa ndikupeza chimwemwe?" Kenaka nkhaniyi ndi yanu.
Timakonda kuimba mlandu wina aliyense chifukwa cha zolephera zathu, koma osati ifeyo. Koma chifukwa chachikulu chosowa mwayi ali mwa ife tokha. Freud wina wochuluka kwa nthawi yoyamba ankanena kuti tikukumana ndi anthu otere ndikupeza kuti tili m'malingaliro omwe malingaliro athu amadziwikiratu. Panthawi imeneyo, mfundoyi siinapambane, koma asayansi amasiku ano asonyeza kuti ichi ndi choonadi chenicheni. Ndipo chitsimikizo chakuti lingalirolo ndi zinthu sizinthu zowopsya wa sayansi wamisala, koma chowonadi chotsimikizirika.
Nanga bwanji za vuto la kuyembekezera kwamuyaya kwa kalonga wabodza? Nchifukwa chiyani pali amayi ambiri osakwatira kuzungulira? Atsikana, monga olamulira, ali aang'ono ali m'maganizo awo amachititsa zithunzi zachikondi zakumisonkhano ndi anthu osawadziwa komanso zochititsa chidwi za ukwati womwe unadzachitika. Mwa njirayi, Marcel Proust ananena mosapita m'mbali kuti timakopeka anthu mwa chidziwitso chathu, ndiyeno timakumana nawo moona. Ngati mudakali nokha, pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo izi:
- Chithunzi chanu cha maganizo sichiri chokwanira
Simungaganizire mwatsatanetsatane mbali zonse za osankhidwa anu. Ndipo ntchito yanu mumaganizidwe a impressionism ndi osamvetsetseka kwa chikumbumtima chanu. Silingaganizire zomwe mumatanthauza komanso chifukwa chake simuthamanga kapena simungathe kumasulira maloto anu.
Chofunika kwambiri, ndithudi, pamene chithunzi cha mwamuna wamtsogolo ndi bambo wa ana amtsogolo chilengedwa kuyambira ali mwana. Koma palibe chomwe chatayika, ngakhale ngati mwaphonya kale nthawiyi. Dziwani kuti tsopano ntchito zambiri ndi mphamvu zenizeni ziyenera kuganiziridwa mwakuya ndikudziwitsani momveka bwino kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo. Chilichonse ndi chofunikira pa tsatanetsatane kwambiri! Mtundu wa maso ake, kuchuluka kwake kwa eyelashes, mtundu wa tsitsi lake, kaya ndi wodula kapena wonyezimira. Kapena kodi mumakonda redheads ... Kodi kutalika kwa "muyezo" wanu, ndi kilogalamu zolemera zolemera bwanji. Fotokozani maganizo ake, chilakolako chake, malo ake antchito, ngakhale kukula kwa malipiro ake. Mukhoza kuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi kuti mutenge chithunzi cha munthu woyenera m'mawa, masana ndi usiku (makamaka mosamala kwambiri musanagone). Ndipo ngakhale zingakhale zabwino ngati mutatenga pensulo kapena burashi ndikukoka pa pepala. Ikani chithunzi cha mwamuna yemwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi wanu, pamwamba pa bedi lanu. Ngati chithunzi sichiri kavalo wanu, ndiye kuti mujambula m'maganizo anu mobwerezabwereza. Kumbukirani, chilimbikitso ndi chipiriro ndi zofunika pa nkhaniyi. Choncho, kuti mufufuze kalonga wofuna, khama liyenera kupangidwa. Mukhozanso kuganiziranso ndikubwezeretsanso m'maganizo anu malo a msonkhano wanu. Muzichita mobwerezabwereza. Pangani mbiri yeniyeni ya momwe mungapezere chikondi chanu.
Tsopano pafupifupi palibe amene amakayikira zakuthupi za malingaliro, koma kuti akhale chuma, lingaliro liyenera kukhala lodziwika ndi lothandiza. Iyenera kulowa mkati mwa chikumbumtima chanu chonse, muyenera kuganizira izi kamodzi kapena kawiri - tsiku lililonse, mwinamwake kwa miyezi ingapo. Ndipo ganizirani pazowonjezera zokhazokha komanso makamaka pakali pano.
Mwachitsanzo: "Ndikumana ndi munthu wa maloto anga ...", koma palibe: "Ndikuyembekeza kuti tsiku lina ndidzatha kupeza chikondi changa ..." Njira yachiwiri imatsogolera kulikonse, ilibe tsogolo. Kotero, ife tadzera bwino chifukwa chachiwiri cha kusungulumwa kwanu.
- Simukudzidalira, mumadzikayikira
Ambiri aife mudakali anaphunzitsidwa kukhala atsikana abwino. Tinauzidwa kuti kuti tipeze chikondi cha wina, tiyenera kuchita izi ndi izi. Chimwemwe ndi chikondi kwa ife zinayamba kuwonedwa ngati mphotho ya ntchito yabwino. Zotsatira zake, malingaliro osamvetsetsa amachititsa kuti anthu azisonyeza chikondi chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa.
Ponyani malingaliro oipa awa kuchokera pamutu mwanu. Ndipo ngati icho chikagwera - chichotse icho kuchokera ku chikumbumtima, ngati namsongole, kamodzi. Simusowa kuchita zinthu zosatheka kuti mupeze chikondi. Ndiwe woyenera chikondi! Landirani lingaliro ili ngati chenicheni, khulupirirani mtengo wanu kwa anthu ena monga choncho, osati chifukwa cha chinachake. Ndipo chitani chimodzimodzi ndi ena - kungokhala anzanu, chikondi basi, khulupirirani. Kodi mumakhala m'dziko lino? Choncho, ndinu woyenera chikondi.
Musaganize kuti ngati mutachita chinachake cholakwika, mutaya mwayi kuti mupeze chikondi. Aliyense ali ndi mwayi umenewu, mosasamala kanthu za makhalidwe ake, msinkhu komanso chikhalidwe chake. Dzilemekezeni nokha, dzikondeni nokha, dzipindulitsani nokha. Mwa njira iyi mukhoza kukopa chikondi cha wina.
Palinso njira ina yodzidzimvera. Izi ndizochitika pamene mkazi, poyesera kubisa mantha ake ndi zovuta zamkati, amakhala wokwiya kwa ena. Amadziyesa yekha ngati mkazi-vamp, koma alibe chochita naye. Mkazi woteroyo ndi wamwano, wonyenga wokwanira, ndipo ndi mawonekedwe ake onse amawonekeratu kuti sakusowa chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Ngakhale kuti dziko lake lonse lapansi likunena zosiyana. Ife-akazi - tiyenera kukumbukira kuti anthu sangatenge nthawi yaitali kuti alowe m'maganizo athu ndikumasula zizindikiro zosadziwika. Iwo amawona zomwe iwo akuwona. Sindifuna chidwi cha anthu - musatero. Sadzatengedwera ndi inu ngati muwakakamiza kuchoka. Sadzawononge nthawi yomwe simungakwanitse - kodi mukufunikira? Ndipo, pambali, kodi mukusowa izi? Choncho dzidzile nokha kuyankhula mwano, chotsani malingaliro oipa kuchokera pamutu mwanu ndikukhala nokha-kukhala mkazi wofooka, wachikondi, wachikondi.
Lamulo la moyo limakhala ngati boomerang - ndi matope otani omwe mumatsanulira kudziko lakunja, mofanana ndi momwe mudzasinthire pambuyo pake. Musalole kuti mawu achisoni ndi oipa asokoneze mphamvu zanu zamkati. Simudzazindikiranso ndondomeko yokhayo, koma pamapeto pake mudzakana oimira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pamsinkhu wosadziwika, ndipo iwo adzatha kuchokera pomwepo.
Chifukwa chodzichepetsa, nthawi zambiri timakonda nsanje. Simunafunikire kudziganizira nokha kuti "tsitsi lake ndi lokwanira komanso lokongola kwambiri kuposa langa", "ali ndi imvi, ndipo watenga munthu wokongola" ... Sitiyenera kulola kuti mawuwa adziwe mwachinsinsi chathu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chodziwika cha kusakhutitsidwa kosavuta ndi iwe mwini. Dzikondeni nokha - musamasirire ena! Mwachibadwa, zonsezi ndizothandiza.
- Inu mulibe kulimba mtima
Izi ndizochokera ku gulu la "mwayi amakonda anthu olimbika mtima." Kapena, chomwe chimatchuka kwambiri - "chitetezo chabwino ndi kuukira". Sizowona kuti mkazi sayenera kukhala wolimba mtima. Ndani ali bwino kuposa momwe mumadziwira zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale osangalala? Mwinamwake kalonga wa maloto anu akuyima pafupi ndi inu ndipo sachita mantha kuti abwere. Bwanji osakhala wolimba mtima, woopsa kwambiri komanso osadzimangirira kuti muyambe chibwenzi?
Sikoyenera kuchitira amuna omwe mumakumana nawo monga okwatirana kapena ogonana nawo. Ndi ambiri a iwo, ubale wokhawokha ukhoza kukhalabe. Ndipo zindikirani, othandizira akazi ndi makhalidwe okhwima samapusitsa kwambiri amuna. Amuna ambiri samasonyeza chilakolako chowapusitsa. Ndikofunika kuti mantha ndi kubisala zolinga zanu kuti mudziwe bwino pamene amuna okhawo akubisika akuyembekezera izi?
- Ndiwe wamphamvu kwambiri
Inde, ndipo izi zingasokoneze chimwemwe chanu. Mwachitsanzo, kanizani munthu yemwe sakugwirizana ndi fanizo lokongola la mwamuna wanu wam'tsogolo. Izi siziyenera kuchitika mwanjira iliyonse. Lolani zozizwitsa ndi mphamvu zofooka za amai ziwoneke pozungulira inu. Ngakhale izi ziri zodabwitsa, koma ofooka omwe mkaziyo amachita, ndiye kuti iye amakhala wamphamvu pa amuna. Ndipo ichi ndi chowonadi chotsimikizirika.
- Inu muli ovuta kwambiri
Eya, nthawi zambiri amachimwira achinyamata. Koma nthawi zina manyazi amanyazi komanso manyazi amakhalanso akuluakulu. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti mwakhala munthu wokhwima ndipo mutha kusintha maganizo ndi zochita.
Nthawi zambiri munthu amakupatsani kanthu kena, koma mwamsanga mukuimitsa, poopa kuti izi zidzakuvutani. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zolakwika zazikulu za amayi omwe akufuna kukhala osangalala ndikukwatirana. Kuwongolera munthu ku zopempha zanu ndi kuthetsa mavuto anu sikuyamba ndi tsiku laukwati, koma kuyambira masiku oyambirira komanso maola ogonana. Wina wanzeru anati: "Amuna amakonda akazi molingana ndi kuchuluka kwa zomwe achitira akaziwa." Ngati mumasamala kwambiri za mwamuna ndipo musamusiye kuti azisamalira nokha, amayamba kuchizoloŵera ndikuyamba kukuthandizani ngati othandizira. Amatikonda chifukwa cha zomwe anatichitira - kumbukirani izi. Pamene akuika kwambiri chisamaliro, mphamvu, nthawi, chikondi, ndalama kwa mkazi wawo, amamudziwa kwambiri.
- Inu simuli okwanira zokha
Izi zimachokera ku ubwana wakhanda. Amayi anu ankangokhala nokha - osadziwa zofuna zanu. Inu mwasandulika tanthauzo la moyo wake, mwasungunuka mu icho. Kotero inu, motero, sungani mzanu watsopano, osakhala ndi moyo wanu. Iwe umakhala ndi zofuna zake, iwe umamusamalira iye mu chirichonse, iwe umayendetsa phazi lirilonse lomwe iye amapanga - iye mwadzidzidzi amalakwitsa ndipo amalowa mu vuto. Ndi amayi oterowo, amuna samakhala motalika. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ingozisiyani izo kupuma. Musati mulamulire mwamuna wanu, musamasewere nsanje, musamangoganizira kwambiri za ubale wanu. Yambani moyo wanu. Mwa njirayi, kuyankhulana ndi anzanu, kumanga ntchito, kukhala ndi zokondweretsa. Khalani okondweretsa kwa munthu, monga munthu. Ndipo kwa inenso, inenso.
Ndizowonjezeranso zina ...
Ngakhale zili choncho, amayi ambiri saona kuti ndi koyenera kumvetsera malangizo awa. Koma pachabe. Ndipotu, amuna amakopeka kwambiri ndi akazi anzeru. Choncho ndibwino kuti mukhale ndi anzanu odziwa bwino kuwerenga, kuwerenga mabuku oimirira, osati otengera otsika mtengo komanso zolemba za "romantic". Ndipo zingakhale bwino kukumbukira zazithunzi za TV zopusa zomwe zimapita pa TV popanda mapeto.
Ndipo kachiwiri: Palibe chifukwa choyesera kumamatira kwa mwamuna woyamba wamwamuna pa mtengo uliwonse. Ngati sakufuna kuti akhale ndi inu, ndiye kuti munthu uyu si inu. Muli ndi ufulu wosankha, ndipo ali ndi ufulu wosankha. Kumbukirani izi, zikhazikitseni. Azimayi ena amaopa kuti sangakumane ndi wina aliyense ndipo ali okonzeka kulekerera chirichonse.
Pamene akuvutika kwambiri ndi zomwe amayi amakumana nazo, kulemekeza kwake ndikumamudziwa ndi mwamuna. Ziri zomvetsa chisoni, koma ndizoona. Dzitenge wekha ndi ulemu, dzidzilemekeze wekha, usadzipunthwitse. Ngati mukuganiza kuti anthu onse ndi abambo, munthu wabwino sangawoneke pomwepo.
Zabwino ndi zoipa zilibe chiwerewere. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi mbali zakuda ndi zoyera, ndipo nthawi zambiri munthu amatembenukira kwa ife ndi mbali imodzi yokha. Musathamangire kuweruza. Mwinamwake mbali yachiwiri ikudodometsani inu ndi ukhondo wake.
Chotsani chaputala cha chitsiru chosaneneka kuti amuna ndi ochepa kuposa akazi ndipo motero amayenera kuthamangitsidwa. Kumbukirani - kwa wina aliyense. Ndipo khalani ndi chidaliro. Za zaka zanu akalonga mokwanira. Ndipo musayambe kudziganizira nokha ndi mawu awa: "Chifukwa chiyani sindingapeze chikondi changa m'dziko lino?" Ndi bwino kunena izi: "Ndine woyenera chikondi cha munthu wabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi!"