Amayi amatha bwanji kugonana ndi anyamata?

Si chinsinsi kuti amai omwe amalowa mu chiyanjano chilichonse ndi mwamuna ali ochepa kuposa iwowo, ena nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi maganizo oipa. Ngakhalenso cholinga chogonana cha ubale wotere sichimawonekera pa udindo waukulu. Kwa anyamata osadziŵa, monga lamulo, amai amawongolera mzake, osakhutira ndi anzawo a msinkhu wawo, amayi akuyesera kumanga maubwenzi ofanana (ndi amuna omwe ali okalamba - ndizovuta ndipo samagwira ntchito ndi anzako nthawi zonse) kapena akazi omwe akufunafuna atsopano zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Pambuyo pa zonse, amai amayamba bwanji kugonana ndi anyamata?

Kawirikawiri, achinyamata amayamba kukhala osayanjana. Akazi chifukwa cha maganizo awo a maganizo ndi osagwirizana kwambiri kuti agwirizane. Kawirikawiri mnyamata amatanthauza mkazi wachikulire komanso ngati mbuye, komanso monga bwenzi, komanso ngati mayi. Mkazi woteroyo ndi gwero lalikulu la kukopa kwa mnyamata. Kawirikawiri, anyamata amasankha akazi omwe ali achikulire, ngati alibe chidziwitso chokwanira chogonana kapena pamene alibe chiwopsezo chokwanira cha amayi. Mzimayi nayenso amamva ngati wamng'ono kwambiri kuposa zaka zake, pokhala pafupi ndi mnyamata wamng'ono. Pankhani yogonana pakati pa anthu osiyana zaka, ndiyenera kuzindikira kuti chiwerengero cha amuna ogonana chimafika zaka 20-25, ndi akazi - zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri kenako.

Ndi chifukwa chake kugonana komweku kumakhala kokwanira. Chinthu china chofunika ndikuti kuzindikira kuti malingaliro awo ogonana ndi enieni ndi ophweka kwambiri ndi mnyamata wamng'ono kusiyana ndi mnzako. Pambuyo pake, amuna a msinkhu umodzi kapena akulu sangathe kumvetsa izi. Kwa mwamuna, kwa iye izi zimakhalanso zoonekeratu, zomwe zimadalira kuti mkazi wodziwa zambiri adzamupatsa chimwemwe chochuluka kuposa msungwana wa msinkhu wofanana kapena wamng'ono. Kwa mkazi, mtsikana wamng'ono pazogonana ndi chisonyezero chabwino. Pambuyo pake, ziri ndi iye zomwe akuwoneka kuti akubwerera kuunyamata wake. Maubwenzi achikondi akuyenda pansi pa mwezi, akupsompsona - akhoza kupatsa mnyamata wamng'ono yekha, chifukwa munthu wa msinkhu wake amasonyeza moyo wongowonjezereka ndikuzindikira kuti ndi zenizeni. Kuwonetsa, kufotokoza kwa malingaliro, chilakolako - izi ndi zomwe mkazi amawona muzogonana komanso momwe sizodabwitsa kuti nthawi zonse amapeza. Kotero ziri pa kugonana ndi mnyamata wamng'ono yemwe mkazi amamverera ali wamng'ono. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mulibe maofesi ndi zoletsedwa, zomwe simungathe kuziyembekezera kuchokera kwa anzanu, zimapatsa mkazi mwayi wakuwona chinachake chatsopano komanso chosadziwika kale mu moyo wapamtima. Kotero, kugonana kumeneko ndi mnyamata yemwe ali wamng'ono ali ndi malonda ambiri poyankha funso la momwe akazi a msinkhu wawo amagwirizana ndi kugonana ndi anyamata.

Achinyamata, monga lamulo, samadziwa kutopa pankhaniyi, yomwe ndi yofunikira kwa mkazi. Kwa usiku umodzi amayi akhoza kugonana ndi wokondedwayo ngakhale kangapo. Ndipo nthawi zonse izi zimapereka zabwino zonse. Popeza iye, poganizira zochitika za wokondedwa wake, adzachita zonse mu bizinesi ili kuti amupatse chisangalalo chokwanira komanso osapanikizika m'maso mwake. Komanso, mnzako sangakane, ndipo ndi iye mukhoza kuyesa kugonana koopsa kulikonse. Mwachitsanzo, pagombe lomwelo, m'nkhalango. Kodi kachiwiri mkazi sangathe kukwanitsa ndi munthu wamsinkhu. Mwa njira, zimakhala zophweka kwambiri kwa mnzako kuti akhale ndi mkazi wokhwima, chifukwa zonse zomwe amadziwa komanso luso lake mu bizinesi ili zimapangitsa mkazi, ndithudi, kukhala ndi mphamvu. Iwo ali okonda kwambiri, owopsya, ndipo chifukwa cha izi mu bizinesi ili amachita mosalephereka kwambiri. Mwa mawu, chikhumbo chirichonse kwa iye ndi lamulo. Mkazi yemwe ali naye sakuopa kuyesa kukonda maseŵera a kugonana, amasulidwa kwathunthu, osati kupha mutu wake pokhapokha atamuweruza kapena kusamvetsetsa chilakolako chake. Nthawi zina, mkazi yemwe nthawi zonse amachita zogonana ndi anzako sapeza zomwe angapeze kuchokera usiku umodzi wokondana kwa achinyamata. Mwa njirayi, "zozizwitsa zake zomwe sizinkalamba" zimatha kubweretsa mkazi kumalo osokonezeka.

Choncho, tikamaganizira zonsezi, tikhoza kunena ndi mtima wonse kuti amayi ali ndi zaka zabwino komanso ogwirizana kwambiri ndi kugonana ndi anyamata. Ndi ndi wokondedwayo kuti akhoza kukhala wokondwa komanso wokhutira pazochitika zonse za moyo. Uyu ndi yemwe amanyadira ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kulankhula kwa maola ambiri, popeza ndi wokonda kwambiri. Iye nthawi zonse amakhala wokondwa, wokondwa - mkazi amakoka mphamvu kuchokera kwa chibwenzi chake. Ndipotu, pokhala ndi kugonana kwathunthu, osati amuna okha omwe amafunikira.

Mkazi wa msinkhu wake sali wosayenerera, koma khalidwe limene aliyense sangayamikire. Ambiri mwa anyamata omwe sanadzipezeke pa chiyanjano ndi anzawo adatha kulandira bwino ndi kuyamikira chiyanjano ndi mkazi wokhwima, ndipo choyamba kuti alowe mudziko lawo chilakolako chawo cha "kugwedeza" kugonana. Amayi okhwima ndi okongola komanso okondweretsa kugonana. Amayamikira wokondedwa ndipo sadzakhalabe ndi ngongole. Koma nthawi zonse ndibwino kukumbukira mfundo yakuti mkazi wa msinkhu sali wokondana naye, monga mkazi wake wachinyamata. Ndipo nkotheka kuti ubale wawo wa harmonic ukhoza kukula muukwati. Mwa njira, maukwati oterewa ndi amphamvu mokwanira. Pafupi ndi mwamuna wake wamng'ono, mkazi wake ndi wamng'ono. Amamva zambiri zogonana, zokondweretsa, okhudzidwa kwambiri - akuwoneka atakulungidwa muunyamata wake. Mnyamata molinganayo amadzikayikira, pakufunidwa ndi kukondedwa kwake. Ndipo nkoyenera kukumbukira kuti mibadwo yonse imagonjera chikondi. Ndipo chirichonse chimene anthu oyandikana nawo akunena, malingaliro awo onse ndi kutsutsa, izi zonse siziyenera kuziganizira. Chifukwa kuyesa chimwemwe palibe yemwe ali ndi ufulu wotsutsa. Ndikufuna kukhala wopenga, kulowerera m'dziko la chilakolako ndi chikondi, ndiye bwanji osatero pakalipano. Pambuyo pake, ngati simutayesa, simungatero. Komanso, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti mu ubale uliwonse, nkhani, zokonda, zofuna, malingaliro, zokonda, chifundo, chikondi, ndi msinkhu ndi chimodzimodzi.