Kodi mungatani kuti mwamuna wanu ayambe kukondana naye? Ili ndi funso lofunika, yankho limene liripobe. Chilichonse chikhoza kukhazikika m'moyo wa banja, ndipo chokopa choyambirira chikhoza kubwezedwa, ngati kuyesa kwambiri. Izi zimagwira ntchito kwa abambo ndi amai onse, koma lero tidzangoganizira mmene mkazi angabwerezerere chilakolako chogonana kwa mwamuna wake.
Choyamba, taganizirani za inu okondedwa. Kapena kani, nenani - ganizirani za awiri anu. Ndikofunika panthawiyi kuti tisiyanitse kuchoka ku zinthu zonse zakunja, zomwe zikhoza kukhala makolo, abwenzi, achibale komanso ana. Mbali yoyandikana nayo ya moyo imayenera kulipidwa chifukwa cha chidwi chachikulu. Achinyamata komanso achinyamata omwe alibe ana, alibe maudindo apadera, amasangalala ndi nthawi yomwe amakhala ndi wina ndi mnzake. Koma nthawi ikudutsa, maudindo ogwirizana ndi maudindo akuwuka. Nkhaŵa zapakhomo, zokhuza nthiti zowononga kugonana. Pali mavuto omwe amakumana nawo nthawi zonse, omwe amasiyana ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi. Timakonda kupereka chidwi kwambiri kwa anthu okondedwa, ndipo izi zimakhudza kwambiri ubwenzi wa banja! Ngati mukufuna kusintha zinthu, yesetsani kukhala nokha ndi mwamuna wanu. Ana akhoza kutengedwera kumapeto kwa mlungu wa agogo, ndipo misonkhano ndi mabwenzi ndi malonda a bizinesi akhoza kusinthidwa mpaka kugwira ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku. Khalani palimodzi, kumverana wina ndi mzake ngati kuti ndinu wamng'ono ndipo simunakhale nawo zaka zambiri zakhala pamodzi.
Samalani maonekedwe anu. Zilakolako za kugonana zimadalira makamaka dziko limene thupi, nkhope, tsitsi limakhala. Chithunzi chokongola, khungu losalala, kusowa kwa kupanda ungwiro ndi zofooka zimapatsa mkazi mwayi woti amve kuti sungatheke, mkazi wokongola. Mukamamvera chidwi ndi amuna ena, mudzakhala otsimikiza kuti mwamuna wanu sangakwanitse kukana. Iwe uyenera kukhala wokongola pa usinkhu uliwonse.
Komanso, musayambe thanzi lanu. Dokotala ayenera kulankhulana pa nthawi. Mwinamwake, simukufuna kugonana ndi mwamuna wanu, chifukwa muli ndi mavuto ndi njira yobereka kapena msana wanu umavulazidwa, kapena mukudwala migraines. Musachedwe kuyendera dokotala ngati pali zizindikiro zenizeni.
Kodi mungatani kuti mwamuna wanu ayambe kukondana naye? Sengani mwamuna wanu nokha! Ngakhale mutakhala m'banja kwa zaka 15, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mnzanuyo sasocheretsedwe. Mwamuna wanu adzakondwera ndi kuvina kwakummawa kwachilengedwe komwe munachita, kapena kuchokera kumagetsi atsopano, achigololo, achikulire, kuchokera ku chakudya chamakono chamakandulo. Mwa njira, zimatsimikiziridwa kuti njira yonyengerera ya munthu imakhudza kwambiri njira yodzutsa mkazi, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti phindu likhale lopweteka panthawi yogonana. Kuphatikizapo, kukondwa, kumayambitsa kugonana. Palibe munthu yemwe sangasinthane mkazi wake wonyenga kwa mbuye wamng'ono!
Zili zovuta pamene kugonana kwa mnzanu kumatayika chifukwa mwamuna ndi mkazi adaphunzira wina ndi mnzake ngati zala zawo zisanu. Choncho, yesetsani kuti mukhale osamvetseka, mulole mwamuna wanu amve ngati wopambana wamuyaya. Mwa munthu, nanunso, nthawi zonse mumatha kuona china chatsopano. Musayang'ane zinthu zolakwika mwa mwamuna wanu, mum'lemekeze momwe iye aliri ndi kumukonda ndi mtima wanu wonse. Dziwani kuti kusunga chikondi kuli m'manja mwanu.
Maubale apabanja amafunika kuyang'aniridwa nthawi zonse. Koma nthawi zambiri mwamuna ndi mkazi amakhala ndi zosiyana, zozoloŵera, zosangalatsa, ntchito, choncho amathera nthawi yokha ndi wina ndi mnzake, zomwe zimawasiyanitsa. Nthawi zina mumayamba kuganiza kuti mulibe chilichonse chokambirana ndi mwamuna wanu? Musaiwale za kuyenda, kuyenda, kuyenda mumaseŵera, cinema, chibonga. Nchifukwa chiyani sitingaphunzire pafupi ndi zokondweretsa za mwamuna kuti titha kuthera nthawi yambiri ndi iye? Yang'anani naye kamodzi kokha kockey kapena mupite naye nsomba. Mungathe kubwera ndi chizoloŵezi cha banja chimene chidzakunyengererani inu nonse. Palibe chomwe chimabweretsa pamodzi mwamuna ndi mkazi, monga bizinesi yogwirizana pamodzi ndi nthawi yogwirizana. Chinthu chachikulu - chitani mwamuna wanu ndi maganizo ndi mtima.
Moyo wathu suli wotanganidwa nthawi zonse, monga zikuwonekera kwa ife. Mukhoza kupeza nthawi yopuma ndikutsata zosangalatsa zazing'ono. Pali zambiri, ngati mumayang'ana mwatcheru. Kungakhale kosavuta kulankhulana ndi abwenzi, ana, kuwerenga mabuku, kusangalala ndi zakudya zokoma, kuganizira malo okongola, kuyang'ana kanema wabwino. Ndikofunika kupeza nthawi ya chisangalalo ndikusangalala nawo, kudya zakudya zabwino.
Achinyamata mosakayikira ndi nthawi yabwino. Koma musaganize kuti zosangalatsa zonse zaunyamata sizikugwirizana ndi inu, ngati mwakwatirana kwa kanthaŵi. Tangoganizani kuti mwangokumana dzulo! Ndi maso ati omwe inu mungayang'ane tsopano kwa mwamuna wanu? Nthawi ikupita, mwakula ndithu, mwanzeru, mwatsatanetsatane, kuphatikizapo mu ubale wanu ndi mnzanu. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti simusangalala kwambiri kusiyana ndi unyamata wanu. Moyo wapamtima komanso ukalamba ukhoza kupereka chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe chochuluka. Mungofunikira kudzutsa chidwi chanu chogonana ndi mwamuna wake. Kukhwima ndi nthawi yokongola, imene munthu angapindulitse nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe amachitira ndi diso. Choncho, funso la momwe mungakwaniritsire chilakolako chogonana kwa mwamuna wanu sayenera kukupangitsani kukayikira.
Chikoka chogonana chimabwerera pamene mutayang'ana moyo wanu ndi munthu wanu. Ndikukhumba iwe chimwemwe ndi ubale wabwino!