Mwamwayi, zenizeni nthawi zambiri zimasiyana kwambiri ndi malingaliro awo enieni komanso kumene mavuto omwe abwera kuchokera kwa alendo oitanidwa abwera kunyumba kwawo. Sindinakhale chinsinsi kwa wina aliyense kuti m'moyo wa munthu pali kusintha kwake, nthawi zina kumatchedwa mavuto ake, pamene kuli kofunika kuti aganizirenso zapitazo, kupanga zofunikira zatsopano, ndi kumenyana mkati mwayekha. Kusokonezeka kwa zaka za abambo kumafotokozedwa mowala kwambiri kuposa akazi ndipo ndi kovuta kwambiri ndi kovuta, kotero tiyeni tiyang'ane pa iwo mwatsatanetsatane.
Masautso oyamba omwe amatha msinkhu pakati pa amuna amachitika ali ndi zaka 14-16 , pamene anyamata akuwoneka mkati mwa kusowa kwawonetsere anthu omwe ali pafupi nawo, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, kwa iwo okha, kuti sali wamng'ono ndipo akhoza kuchita zonse pokha popanda kusamalidwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi akuluakulu. Ndipo zomwe makolo ambiri amawona ngati chikhalidwe chachinyengo ndi zachinyengo ndikungodzifufuza nokha ndi kuvomereza kwanu.
Mavuto achiwiri amapezeka zaka 21-23 . Mnyamatayo akufunikira kudziwonetsera yekha kuti ali wamkulu muzochitika zonse za moyo. Amayamba kukonzekera moyo wake wam'mbuyomu: poyamba - kutchuka, mwa njira zonse kukhala woyamba, galimoto, ndalama, mkazi wokongola, ana okondedwa omwe adzamuyamika. Chirichonse, monga lamulo, ndi chokongola, chachikulu, ndipo, ndithudi, sichiri chenicheni. Kawirikawiri ndi pa msinkhu uno omwe anyamata akulowa muukwati. Ndipo ndi chifukwa chakuti mwa kuchita chotero iwo amauka monga ngati malo angapo mpaka pamwamba pa mapulani awo aakulu.
Ali ndi zaka 28-30 amamvetsetsa bwino kuti maloto ake onse ali ochepa chabe, ndipo ali ndi tsamba lakuthwa lomwe limamulepheretsa cholinga cha moyo, choonadi chokhwima chotchedwa "palibe" chimavulaza malingaliro a munthuyo. Iye sadzakhala konse mu chinthu choyamba choyamba, sadzapeza zomwe adayamba kuthamangira ndi zomwe akufuna, palibe ... nkomwe ndizovuta komanso zopweteka osati kungodziwa izi, komanso kuvomereza. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti ndinu munthu wamba monga wina aliyense, kuti ntchito yanu si yosiyana ndi yonse, yophweka, komanso yosabweretsa kukhutira, banja silili losangalala, banja losangalala , koma moyo wamba, nthawizonse kusowa kwa chinachake, kudzudzulidwa ndi kusakhutira ... Tayamba kudyetsedwa ndi kuyesa kukhazikitsa chinachake mu moyo, ngakhale kupeza ubale ndi kukambirana momasuka ndi mkazi wake sakupatsani zotsatira zoyenera. Pamene munthu ali ndi vuto, amamvetsetsa kuti n'zosatheka kupitiliza moyo monga chonchi, popanda kusintha, ndikuyamba kufunafuna chikondi kumbali, kuti pang'onopang'ono athetse chisoni ndi kukhumudwa m'banja ndi zina zonse zomwe zikugwirizana nazo. Chifukwa chake kusudzulana ndi kusakhulupirika kosalekeza. Amuna ambiri, omwe mavuto awo ayamba kuyang'ana chisangalalo chauchidakwa.
Masautso otsirizawa amatha, pokhapokha ngati munthu ayamba kuzindikira bwino ndikuyamba moyo wake mokwanira. Kuntchito, amayamba kukhazikitsa zolinga zowonjezeka, mgwirizano wa mbeu umapita ku mgwirizano wokhudzana ndi mgwirizano. Achinyamata amapeza mtunda pakati pawo, womwe umagwirizanitsa aliyense, aliyense amakhala moyo wake ndipo amayesa kuti asasokoneze moyo wa wina. Ndipo chinthu chosasangalatsa kwambiri ndi chakuti izi zikuwoneka, mwatsoka, zowoneka bwino.
Zikuwoneka kuti zonse ziri bwino. Panopa mkazi akulira ndi mpumulo, komabe apa pakubwera mayesero ovuta kwambiri komanso ovuta - ichi ndi vuto pakati pa munthu wamkulu . Kawirikawiri, zaka 37-38 kwa amuna ambiri ndi nthawi yomweyo pamene ayamba kumverera kuti ali, mwachilendo mokwanira, akufa. Ayi, ndithudi, zonse zinamvetsedwa kale, koma ndi malingaliro, osadziŵa zambiri. Ndipo apa mwadzidzidzi zizindikiro zoyamba ndi zosaoneka zimayamba kuonekera kuti zidzakufikani mosavuta. Matendawa amapereka zolephera zazikulu, mapapo, chiwindi, mitsempha ya mimba, m'mimba, mtima ... Mwamunayo amadziwa mwamsanga kuti iye, mwatsoka, akulamba. "Kodi moyo wanga umatha? Ndipo palibe chirichonse chingabwerere mmbuyo ^ Ndiyeno kodi ndi chiyani choti muchite chinachake ngati chirichonse chitatha? Imfa sichithawika ... "
Mwamuna pa nthawi yovuta amayamba kuda nkhawa ndi "kugwedeza". Amatha kupita kumsewero ndi mutu, kuti abwezeretse thanzi labwino, ndipo mwamtheradi, nthawi zina samadzilamulira yekha, podzipweteka yekha. Ntchito ndi ndalama zake sizingasinthe, ndipo safuna kupita kuntchito yodalirika komanso yolemekezeka, koma zomwe zingamupangitse kukhala wokhutira pang'ono. Ndipo amuna ena amangotaya ntchito panthawi yamavuto. Ambiri mwa abambo, omwe ali ndi changu chapadera, ayamba kufotokozera ana awo okha, koma amathamanga ku "zovuta" achinyamata omwe ali ndi masomphenya osiyana kwambiri a moyo. Pokhala ndi nkhawa, amayamba kukokera kwa mkazi wake, koma ngakhale wokondedwa wake sangathe kupeza kumvetsetsa kumene akufunikira. Kuyambira pa msinkhu uwu, zonsezi zimayamba kusintha kosiyana kwa mahomoni. Azimayi ali ndi msinkhu wa m'mimba ya estrogen, ndipo mwa amuna, motero, testosterone, zomwe zimapangitsa amuna kukhala achimwemwe, ndi amayi mosiyana. Amuna amatha kukhala ndi misonzi mwadzidzidzi, nthawi zina amangofuna kumangokhalira kumudziwa kuti amvetsetse ndi kumvetsa chisoni, ndipo mkaziyo pakalipano amadziwika kale momveka bwino komanso mwachifundo ... Iye amaganiza kuti palibe amene amamvetsa, wopanda pake, wosungulumwa komanso wosadziwa kanthu - onse izi zimabweretsanso ku chiwonongeko ndi kuledzera.
Kuchita chiwembu pa nthawi imeneyi kumakhala kochititsa chidwi kuti, monga lamulo, mwamuna amagona ndi atsikana aang'ono, kuti adziwonetsere yekha kuti akhoza kuchita chinachake komanso oyambirira kuti alembe. Mwamwayi, mkazi samamvetsa mwamuna wake, choncho nthawi zambiri pali kusudzulana kwa kusintha koteroko. Amaganiza kuti wokhulupirika wake wangotsala pang'ono kunyoza. Ndipotu, mwamunayo amafunikira kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizidwa kwake, ndipo pobwezera amamva kuti akutsutsidwa komanso kunyalanyazidwa. Mu miniti imodzi munthu wokondeka kwambiri ndi wokondedwa amakhala mwadzidzidzi mdani woopsa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, zimabweretsa zovuta komanso zovuta kwa onse okwatirana.