Amayi ambiri ali ndi chifukwa chokhalira kudandaula za kusowa kwa chisamaliro. Kudziletsa mwa amayi mwa zifukwa zonse kumapangitsa kuti munthu ayambe kuzunzidwa mosiyana ndi iye. Komanso, ngati mkazi samamufotokozera chifukwa cha khalidwe lotere. Patapita nthawi, zotsatira zake zingakhale kuti munthuyo ayamba kufunafuna chitonthozo m'malo ena, makamaka ndi amayi ena. Ndipo ndithudi mumayamba kudabwa choti muchite pamene amai nthawi zambiri amasiya.
Mutu akudwala . Mawu oterewa ndi ofala kwambiri kwa amayi, pamene iwo, pogwirana dzanja kuchokera kwa munthu, amawafotokozera chinthu choyamba pazinthu zogonana. Ngakhale kupwetekedwa kumutu sikungakhale kwongopeka monga zikuwonekera poyamba. Zingatuluke pa mfundo yakuti mkazi wagwira ntchito mopitirira malire kapena akugwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Kuchokera pamalingaliro a zaumoyo, tinganene kuti mkaziyo mwa kufuna kwawo anakana mankhwala abwino komanso othandiza kwambiri. Ndizogonana zomwe zimatha kupweteka mwamsanga ndi kupweteka mutu chifukwa cha kumasulidwa kwa mahomoni, zomwe zimathandizanso kuchepetsa ululu. Ndipotu, asayansi akhala akufika pamapeto kuti kugonana sikungakhale kokondweretsa kokha, komabe kungalimbikitse chitetezo cha mthupi. Ndipo choyenera kudziwa ndi chakuti kusamalana kwa nthawi yaitali kumagonana kungayambitse osati kumutu, komabe ngakhale kumayambitsa migraine. Kotero, ngati mwamuna ali ndi chilakolako chonyengerera mkazi wake, musamusiye. Ndipotu, ngakhale popanda kugonana, kugonana kungakhale ndi zotsatira zokha, zomwe zidzakhala zofunikira pa umoyo wa amayi.
Ndikufuna kugona . Ena mwa amayi omwe amapewa kugonana amatanthauza mutu, ndipo ena amamva kuti ali otopa kwambiri ndipo amafunitsitsa kugona. Inde, kusowa tulo kungakhale chifukwa chabwino cha chikhalidwe choipa cha akazi, chomwe chimamveketsa kukana kuchita masewera pabedi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Koma izi zingathe kukhala phindu la mnzanuyo, adzatha kupumula ndi kukukondetsani ndi chisomo ndi chifundo, zomwe m'tsogolomu zingakhale zozizwitsa zakutchire m'mawiri onsewo. Mulole ngakhale, mwinamwake, mwamunayo ayenera kuyesetsa mwakhama kuti athandize kukongola kwake kugona. Koma zotsatira zomalizira ndi zoyenera zikuyenera kuyesayesa kotereku. Ndipotu, wokondedwa woyamikira adzasangalala ndi chisangalalo cha mkazi wake wokondedwa. Zotsatira zabwino zokhudzana ndi kugonana kumangokhala mapiritsi owonjezera ogona. Kotero, kugona kwabwino, kolimba ndi kotsekemera pambuyo pa usiku waukulu kwambiri, mungathe kunena, mumapatsidwa, komanso modzichepetsa.
Pali chifukwa chabwino . Madokotala pakali pano alibe malingaliro ofanana pankhani zogonana pa nthawi yovuta kwa theka la chiwerengero cha akazi. Ngakhale amayi ambiri amadzikana okha zosangalatsa za masiku ano. Ndipo udindo wotero ukhoza kumvedwa ndi kuvomerezedwa ngati wololera. Koma ndithudi palibe choletsedwa, ndipo izi mwa akazi ena amadzutsa chikhumbo ndi malingaliro pakupeza zina zomwe mungachite kuti mupeze zosangalatsa mwa njira yeniyeni yeniyeni. Palinso malingaliro abwino chifukwa chopewa kugonana m'masiku ovuta aakazi. Momwemonso, asayansi ena akufika pozindikira kuti kutsegulira kwa chifuwa chachikazi pa nthawi ya kusamba kungathandizire kuchepetsa zovuta zomwe zimapweteka. Choncho ndi bwino kulingalira ngati nkofunika kwambiri kuti musamachite zachiwerewere kwa akazi ndi chifukwa chabwino.
Kusangalala . Ndi chifukwa china chosafuna kugonana ndi atsikana. Kumbali imodzi, zimatsimikizirika kuti pakakhala mavuto ena kuntchito kapena kunyumba, mavuto a pakhomo kapena mavuto ang'onoang'ono, mkazi akhoza kuwononga maganizo ake. Atsikana ena ayamba kuyang'ana njira zothetsera mavutowa pakudya kokoma kapena kuwonera filimu yoimba. Kapena mwinamwake muyenera kuyesetsa kuthetsa vutoli ndikumva chisoni ndi mwamuna wanu wokondedwa ndi chithandizo cha misala yakugonana, kupusitsa ana kapena china chake? Zomwe mapeto angachititse kugonana ndipadera komanso mosayembekezera.
Mkazi yemwe amayamba kungodzimangira yekha wokondedwa wake ndi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana amayamba kumulekanitsa yekha. Makhalidwe oterewa amachititsa kuti mukhale otentha. Ndipo kuyandikira sikungopereka chitsimikizo cha chitetezo ndi kuthandizira, koma kungathe kupirira mavuto osiyanasiyana.
Kuchokera ku mkwiyo . Zimakhalanso kuti wokondedwa wakukhumudwitsani mwanjira ina, chifukwa palibe chokhumba chogawana naye pabedi. Kapena munthu wanuyo anachita chinachake cholakwika, momwe inu mungafunire. Koma mulimonsemo, mungapeze njira ina, ndipo zimangokhala zomveka kufotokozera kwa iye chifukwa chakukwiyira kwanu. Ndipotu, munthu sanaganizidwe kapena kumva mwachisomo, monga momwe akazi onse angathere, zomwe adachita kapena zolakwika. Ayenera kunena zenizeni, kupereka zitsanzo, kufotokoza zala zawo zonse zomwe sangathe kuzidziwa popanda chidziwitso. Chinsinsi chobisa zinsinsi ndi kusuta kwa wokondedwa. Ndipo potsiriza, mutatha kupeza kusamvana, mukhoza kusuta ndi chitoliro cha mtendere, dzina limene lingaganizidwe palimodzi, pamene mukukambirana mwamphamvu pabedi la banja.
Kugonana ndi amayi ayenera kukhala momwe angathere ndi onse awiri. Musadzipangire nokha pa chifukwa chimodzi, chifukwa njira yabwino yothetsera kusiyana ndi chikondi ndi munthu wofuna, sizingowonjezereka. Kondanani wina ndi mzake ziribe kanthu.