Nchifukwa chiani zonsezi zinachitika, iye akudzifunsa yekha? Mwinamwake uwu ndi moyo, nthawi zonse kuyesa mphamvu mwa njira zake zonyenga. Musaphedwe ndikuyesera kupita ku nyumba ya amonke. Ndikofunika kumvetsa nkhaniyi, yesani chirichonse, ndipo, motsutsana nazo! Ndipo ngati mulibe zotsatirapo, ndiye pokhapokha mutha kutero, mungayesedwe pamtendere, komabe sizingabwere izi.
Vuto la ubale ndi wakale sikuti ndilo vuto nthawi zonse. Inde, inde! Pali malingaliro ambiri onena kuti ngati ndikoyenera kuyanjana ndi chibwenzi choyambirira. Tidzakambirana zochitika zosiyanasiyana za tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zina zinalembedwa mapepala. Iwo anali abwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali, ndiye iwo anayamba kukumana, ndiye iwo anazindikira kuti iwo sanawusowe iwo mopitirira, chabwino, izo sizinatheke, ziribe kanthu zomwe aliyense wa iwo anali nazo zokhudzana nazo izo, mwinamwake amangomvetsa kuti iwo anali osiyana. Ndipo mwa chilakolako chofanana chigawidwa, popanda chiyero, mwamtendere, mwamtendere. Izi ndizochitika pamene anthu adziwa zomwe akufuna komanso vuto logawanitsa, chifukwa chazochita zokhazokha, zomwe zimakulolani kuika moyo wanu mnzanu.
Mu mawonekedwe awa, ubale wabwino ndi mnyamata wakale ukhoza kukula mosavuta kukhala bwenzi, ngakhale kuti nkokwanitsa kuti m'tsogolomu, ntchentche yomwe yawasonkhanitsa kwa nthawi yoyamba ikhoza kuyambiranso. Tsopano ganiziraninso chitsanzo china, chofala kwambiri, komanso kwinakwake pazifukwa zina panali banja lina, iwo ankakondana wina ndi mzake, ndipo adaganiza zokomana, pakapita kanthawi zikutembenukira kuti mnyamatayo anali chabe chilakolako, ndikumverera kwakukulu izo sizinachitike. Koma mtsikanayo anabadwa chimodzimodzi ngati chikondi, ngakhale kuti si chikondi, koma chikondi, chimene chimakhala chofala kwambiri, koma ngakhale izi, pali misonzi nthawi zonse chifukwa cha kuphulika, kusabvunda kumawoneka kukhala moyo, ndipo dziko lonse limakhala yofiira-rasipiberi mu bokosi.
Pachifukwa ichi, izo siziletsedwa kupeza chiyanjano ndi munthu uyu mosamalitsa! Ndipo sipangakhale padera! Chifukwa ngakhale ngati atakhala bwenzi lake, ndiye kuti sichidzawathandiza. Chabwino, bwanji? Mtsikana wachikondi ali wokonzeka kuchita chirichonse kwa "kalonga", ndipo sangathe kubwereza izi, ndipo ndizo zabwino! Ndipo poipa kwambiri, pukutsani mapazi anu, kapena kuchepetsani mtsikana wanu ulemu pansi pa ngalande yamadzi, ngakhale "zotupa" zoterezi sizodziwika, koma monga akunena, moyenera. Kotero, pakadali pano, ubale ndi bwenzi lakale lidayenera kuwombera mpango, ukhoza kusokonezeka, ndikuiwala ngati loto loopsya.
Mwachibadwidwe, sikutheka kukwanitsa kugwirizana konse pakati pa zitsanzo ziwiri izi, mkhalidwe uliwonse ndi munthu aliyense. Koma ichi si chifukwa chokhumudwitsa. Ngakhale kuti milandu ndi zosiyana, mfundo zomwe zili mmenemo n'zofanana. Sindifuna kukhala gudumu lachitatu, lotchedwanso (chopatsa kanthu). Ngati mukufuna chiyanjano, chabwino, ngati mukufunikiradi ndi munthu uyu, gwiritsani ntchito pamtunda wabwino, musapite m'munsimu kuti mudziwe nokha ndipo musadzigwetse pansi! Chimene sichingakhale chofikira komanso chodziimira, mukuwoneka, chidwi chomwe mudzachipeza.
Ndikofunikira kuzindikira chinthu chotsatirachi, ziribe kanthu kuti chiyanjano ndi mnyamata wakale, chikadalipo, ndipo chidzakhala chiyambire! Ndipo chifukwa chake, simusowa kuti mupachike, koma muyenera kusinthanso, moyo mwatsoka sikuti nthawi yayitali silingasinthe. Osati amodzi - ndi ena - "Malo opatulika sakhala opanda kanthu!".