Mwamuna yemwe ali pachibwenzi akutsogolera. Mzimayi amadziwikanso. Iye amadalira pa chirichonse pa mwamuna wake, amamukhulupirira iye, amamulola iye kupanga zosankha zofunika ndi kukhudza moyo wake. Pakapita nthawi, chikhulupiliro chimenechi chimakula kwambiri, kukulitsa ubale ndi chikondi ndi nzeru, kapena kumakhala kudalira kwathunthu kwa munthu wogwiritsira ntchito kudzimvera yekha, chiwawa ndi maganizo ake. Ndipo sikuti munthu ndi wosauka - ali chidakwa, wogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, wakuba. Makhalidwe abwino, kuti awononge ndi kuwononga angakhale abwino kwambiri, odalirika ndi okwanira ndi mtundu wa wokondedwa. Ndi zizindikiro ziti zomwe zimachitika m'makhalidwe a munthu zomwe zimasonyeza kuti mkaziyo amamukhumudwitsa kwambiri?
- Kuyerekeza. Kufananitsa, ngakhale zosasangalatsa kwambiri ndi zomwe zimaphimbidwa ndi kuseketsa, zimatanthauzira kuchititsidwa manyazi ndi chiwawa. Mwamuna akhoza kukufananitsani ndi amayi ake (amayi ake amamvetsera bwino, amayi ake ndi olemera kwambiri, amayi ake nthawi zonse amakhala otsika kwa papa), ndi akazi akale (mmodzi anali mbuye wanzeru, wina amamulola anzake) kapena akazi ena (mkazi wa mtsogoleri ndi zaka zanu, ndipo mnzako ndi wopepuka). Adzapeza nthawi zonse ndikukhala chitsanzo kuti mkazi yemwe khalidwe lake, khalidwe lake kapena kukongola, amasonyeza bwino kuti ndinu opanda ungwiro. Muyenera kuwerenga pakati pa mizere: "Sindikukondani inu! Inu simukuyimira chirichonse kuchokera kwa inueni, ndipo nthawizonse muyenera kumva ndi kudziwa malo anu, omwe ali pansi pa bolodi! "
- Kuletsa kulankhula ndi anzanu. Ichi si kanthu koma chiwawa ndi kuletsa ufulu wa kusankha. Mwamuna, ndithudi, angatchedwe chikondi, chomwe chili ndi malo awiri okha, kapena amatetezani kwa abwenzi amtima wapamtima ("Onse ndi opusa ndipo amakuphunzitsani zoipa!") Ndipo amada nkhawa abwenzi amuna ("Akusowa chinthu chimodzi chokha! "). Koma apa ndi bwino kulingalira. Kufuna kusagawaniza mkazi wake ndi anthu ena (makamaka makamaka kwa abwenzi, achibale kapena anzako) kumapereka mwa mwamuna wa mwiniwake amene adatenga ufulu wotsutsa moyo wa wina. Iwo amatsogoleredwa osati mwa chikondi, koma ndi chilakolako cholamulira, kulamulira ndi kuyendetsa mosasokonezedwa ndi anthu apamtima omwe angakhoze kuunikira mkazi za ukapolo wake wodzipereka.
- Kusokonezeka. Mwamunayo amachulukitsa ndi zero zonse zomwe wapindula ndi zoyenera. Ntchito yanu ikuwoneka ngati zosangalatsa kwa ana a sukulu, ndipo kupititsa patsogolo mwamsanga kunatheka kokha chifukwa chakuti makwerero anu a ntchito inali yowonongeka kwa aulesi. Iye amachepetsa luso lanu lachuma, akunyengerera pang'ono komanso akudzudzula kuti: "Ndi chiani chinanso chomwe mungayembekezere kuchokera kwa mayi yemwe ali ndi chiwombankhanga atafota!" Ndipo zomwe mumakonda zimawonetsanso kuti akuwononga nthawi, ndalama ndi ndondomeko yake ya mitsempha. Sangavomereze kuti ndiwe wabwino kwambiri pa bizinezi yanu, chifukwa panthawiyi adzayenera kukulolani kukhala munthu kapena kudziŵa nokha kuti ndinu wopanda pake pambuyo kwanu. Munthu amene amadziŵa yekha kukhala wovuta ndi ovuta kwambiri.
- Nsanje. Mafilimu omwe anthu amachititsa "munthu ndi nsanje, choncho, amakonda kapena amaopa kutaya" ndi nthabwala yoipa. Aliyense amene adachitidwa mantha ndi munthu wansanje sadzaika chikondi ndi nsanje pamodzi ndi iye. Mwamuna samamuchitira nsanje pamene amamukonda, koma pamene akuwopa kuti sakondedwa. Ndipo kusatsimikizika uku sikumupatsa iye kapena iwe mtendere. Choncho, ngati mwangoyamba kuchepetsa ntchito kuntchito ndikufanana ndi chiwonongeko, ndi msonkhano wamba ndi mnzanu pamsewu - chifukwa choti mwamuna atumize kwa woyimira bodza, mukudziwa, ichi si chikondi. Ndi chidani. Mwamuna amakudani inu chifukwa chokayikira nokha, chifukwa choopa mpikisano ndi zomwe mungaphunzire za kukhalapo kwa amuna ena achikondidi.
- Kukhala ndi mtima wodziimba mlandu. Kudziona kuti ndi wolakwa ndi chinthu chowononga kwambiri ndi chowononga padziko lapansi. Kukhala nthawizonse wolakwa, choncho, kuti nthawi zonse muwopsyezedwe, osatsimikizika ndi oyenera. Zoonadi, ndizovuta kuti munthu wotsogolera anthu azilamulira "wamuyaya" ndikukumana ndi kufunika kwake. Vinyo woperekedwa amatsutsa chifuniro ndipo amatembenuza mkazi kukhala mwanawankhosa, yemwe nthawi zonse amafuna chilango kuchokera m'manja mwa mbusa wake, chifukwa ndi momwe mtima wathu umakhalira - chifukwa cha kulakwa kulikonse kumayenera kulipira. Ndipo ziribe kanthu ngati muli ndi mlandu kapena ayi, mumayesedwa kupereka zifukwa pazochitika zanu zonse, kupempha chilolezo ndi kuyang'ana pamaso pa mbuyanga, kufunafuna kuvomereza ntchito zabwino ndi ngakhale maganizo. Ngati simungalephere kupereka zifukwa komanso osayesetsa kulondola, psychology ya ukapolo komanso kumvera mosagwirizana ndi malamulo.
- Iye nthawizonse amakhala wolondola. Munthu wotero ali ndi malingaliro awiri okha: iye ndi wolakwika. Choncho, kukambirana kokondweretsa (komanso kutsutsana kwakukulu chifukwa cha choonadi) sikugwira ntchito ndi iye. Chirichonse chimene chimachitika, ndi yekhayo amene ali wolondola. Ngakhale kuti zolakwitsa zake n'zoonekeratu, kuzindikira kuti ndizosalemekeza. Koma kodi ndi munthu amene amanyozetsa ofooka ndikugwiritsa ntchito izo kuti ziwoneke zamphamvu, zogwira mtima, zabwino? Munthu wotereyo ndi wovuta kusangalatsa. Chilichonse chimene amachichita chidzapangitsa kuti azidzudzula mwamphamvu, ndipo adzamukakamiza kuti asinthe: tsitsi lobwezeretsa, mapepala kuti abwererenso, mwanayo kuti aphunzitsenso, ndi zina zotero. Kuzunzika sikudzaloledwa ndi munthuyo. Ndizokwanira, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kusintha, kubwezeretsa, kubwezeretsanso, kumanganso kuti muyifanane nayo.