Apanso "pamodzimodzi."
Kawirikawiri pali vuto pamene anthu omwe akwatiwanso, amakumana ndi mavuto ofanana omwe adakumana nawo poyamba. Izi zikhoza kufotokozedwa mosavuta ndikuti kusankha kwa anthu kumagwa mosadziŵa kwa omwe ali ofanana ndi wokondedwa woyamba. Pali zofanana zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi maganizo a munthu, chifukwa chomwe chilakolako cha mtundu wina chimatsimikizika.
Malingaliro a akatswiri a maganizo akalowanso muukwati, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti sitikuchotseratu mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu wakale komanso kuti tidziwonetsetse kuti tidzamuyerekezera ndi wachiwiri. Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amalingalira kuti mwayi wopulumutsa ukwati uli nthawi zonse, koma, mwatsoka, okwatirana sazindikira nthawi zonse izi. Munthu amene amalowa muukwati kwa nthawi yoyamba amakhala okhumudwa kwambiri. Pokhala wopanda chidziwitso mu moyo wa banja, iye sakudziwabe kuti chofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale logwirizana ndi lolimba ndi luso lololera ndi kulekerera zolephera zirizonse za theka lanu.
Ndizoyenera kudziwa kuti poyerekeza ndi amayi, amuna amatha kulowa m'banja lachiwiri , chifukwa amayi ali osamala kwambiri, amasankha kukwatiranso kamodzi kokha kwa wina yemwe adzakhale ndi chidaliro chonse ndi omwe adzamasuka ndi . Kukhumba kwa mkazi kuti akwatirenso mu gawo kumatha kukhala chifukwa cha zolephera za anthu. Azimayi ambiri sakufuna kukwatiranso chifukwa safuna "kuthamangira kumalo omwewo."
Ndikofunika mtengo.
Deta kuchokera kumaphunziro a maganizo amasonyeza kuti maukwati obwerezabwereza ali amphamvu kuposa omwe apita kale. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, pafupifupi makumi anayi pa zana la amuna ndi makumi asanu ndi limodzi pa zana la amayi "amasiya" pa banja lachiwiri. Pali zifukwa zambiri za izi.
Banja likhoza kutchedwa mtundu wautali wa moyo wautali , chifukwa malinga ndi chiwerengero, anthu omwe ali okwatirana amakhala moŵirikaŵiri pokhapokha ngati anthu amakhala okha. Ali ndi zaka makumi anai, ngakhale atalimbikitsidwa kuti akwatirane, chifukwa zimathandiza kulimbana ndi matenda omwe adayamba, mavuto osiyanasiyana, komanso amadzidalira. Izi ndi zoona makamaka kwa akazi, chifukwa chikondi chosatha komanso chilakolako chofuna kusamalira munthu chimafunika kuchotsa.
Mulimonsemo, banja lachiwiri ndi lopambana komanso lokhazikika kuposa loyamba. Ndi mnzanu wachiwiri, munthu amayamba kumanga maubwenzi mosamalitsa, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti zikhale zofanana ndi zolakwika za mnzanuyo watsopano ndikuyesera kuthetsa mavuto omwe amayamba.
Zonse mu nthawi yabwino.
Anthu mosiyana amalowa m'banja lachiwiri. Chofunika koposa, muyenera kudzidzipatula nokha pa lingaliro lanu lopanda pake, ndipo ngati patapita nthawi yaitali mutatha kusudzulana simungamange ubale watsopano, musataye mtima. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti anthu omwe akulakalaka kuyamba chibwenzi chatsopano, akwatirana okha kuti asakhale okha ndipo amangomva kuti ndi wofunikira. Koma maukwati a mtundu uwu poyamba amadzikana okha kuti alephera.
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, akazi amayamba kukwatira chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri kapena zitatu atatha kusudzulana ndi mkazi wawo woyamba. Kwa amayi, nthawi yobwezeretsa chiwonongeko choyamba mutenga miyezi khumi ndi iwiri, pamene mwamuna amafunika chaka chimodzi ndi theka.
Musachedwe ndi kuyamba kwa banja latsopano. Ndipotu, monga akunena, chirichonse chili ndi nthawi yake. Muyenera kudziwa kuti chizindikiro cholondola kwambiri chokuuzani za kukonzekera kwanu kumanga ubale watsopano chidzakhala kuti maganizo anu a mkwatibwi pa chiyanjano chanu sichidzakhudza. Kukwatiranso, muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kwa banja lalitali komanso losangalala.
"Golden rules" kukwatiranso.
Pali malamulo omwe ayenera kutsatiridwa kuti banja lachiwiri likhale lopambana kuposa loyamba:
- Musamudziyereze mwamuna wachiwiri ndi zapitazo;
- Khalani oleza mtima kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo. Izi, ndithudi, ndizovuta zovuta zomwe zimafuna khama lalikulu kuchokera kwa inu;
- Munthu ayenera kuvomerezedwa monga momwe alili;
- Onetsetsani kuti muphunzire kusokoneza ndi kuyang'ana iwo;
- Yesetsani kusazindikira zolephera za theka lanu, nthawi zonse mukhale okoma mtima ndipo mutamandire mwamuna wanu mochokera pansi pa mtima pazochita zosiyanasiyana ndi zozizwitsa;
- Yesetsani kuseketsa ndi chisangalalo, monga kuseketsa kawirikawiri kumakhudza kwambiri maubwenzi.