Kodi maloto anu opusa amatanthauzanji?
Kugonana ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi munthu amene kale anali chibwenzi kapena mwamuna wake. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simukufuna kuiwala, kapena kuti mumamulakalaka kapena mumamukonda. Mwinamwake, pali mavuto ena osathetsedweratu pakati pa ine ndi ine. Mwinamwake mukumukwiyira iye atapachikidwa ndipo simunagwirizane nazo zodandaula. Ichi ndi kulakwitsa kosavuta polekanitsa ubale wanu - iwo ali, ngati kuti, sadafike kumapeto. Ndikofunika kuti tipeze kusiyana kwa msonkhano kuti potsiriza tipeze mafunso onse ndipo tisiyeni wina ndi mzake kamodzi.
Kugonana pamalo ammudzi kapena ngati mutagonana. Chidziwitso chachikulu cha maziko ngati amenewa ndi nkhawa. Izi zikhoza kuyambitsa mavuto mu ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu, kapena kuopa kugonana, kapena mantha ena. Ganizirani zomwe mukuwopa ponena za mtima. Inu mukhoza kuthana ndi mantha nokha, chitani izo, koma ayi_pite kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Kugonana ndi mkazi wosiyana. Azimayi ena amaopa kuti maloto amenewa ndi chizindikiro chodziwika bwino cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndipotu izi zimachitika kawirikawiri. Kawirikawiri mkazi yemwe anawonekera kwa inu m'maloto, amakuchititsani nsanje ndi maonekedwe ake, kukwaniritsa ntchito, mphamvu yokhala mwa anthu. Maloto anu "azimayi" amasonyeza chikhumbo chokwera pamwambamwamba wa "bwenzi" lanu, kuti akhale ngati iye.
Kugonana kwachangu ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu. Maloto otere sakutanthawuza chikoka chanu chobisika kwa munthu. Kawirikawiri, malingaliro oterewa amakankhidwa ndi banal chisoni, kapena simukukhutira ndi chinachake m'moyo wanu, kapena mumatopa ndi ntchito yanu (ngati muwona mnzanu mu maloto anu). Kugonana mu maloto ngati amenewa, ndi kotopetsa komanso ogwirizana.
Amuna azimayi amakonda kugonana
Mwamuna wanu (okwatirana ndi 45%). Nthawi zambiri izi zimakhala za akazi omwe atangokwatirana kumene omwe akhala pamodzi panthawi yochepa. Ngati mwakhala wokwatirana kwa nthawi yayitali, ndiye kuti kugonana ndi malingaliro a mwamuna kumatanthauza kuti mukuwamasula. Mukufuna zomwe mukufuna, koma simungathe kuwuza mwamuna wanu. Mwinamwake mumadzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa pamaso pa mwamuna wanu. Musaope, yesani! Ambiri (ngati si onse) a amunawo adzakhala okondwa ngati mutaya chiyero ndikupereka zina zogonana. Mulole kuti mudziwe nokha, malo amodzi mwa ufulu wamumtima ndi kumasulidwa.
Wokonda kale (amayi 23%) amawoneka m'maganizo a anthu omwe amamverera mwachikondi. Koma malingaliro oterowo sakutanthauza kuti mukufuna kubwezeretsa ubale wakale (musapange cholakwika!). Ndiyesa kuyesanso kumverera komwe mwakumana nawo nthawi zina. Ndi zabwino kuti mubwerere mu nthawi ya chilakolako cha chikondi - kotero musadzitsutse nokha ntchito ya manja.
Ambiri (akazi 15%) amalota ndi omwe amakonda chipatso choletsedwa. Mukufuna kukhala ndi chinachake chomwe simungachifikire pamoyo wanu. Ndipo, sizinso za amuna okha. Mwachidule, simunapezepo "mwamuna" wanu ndikumuika m'maganizo ndi malingaliro ake. Zomwezo nthawi zina zimasonyezanso mtundu wina wazinthu.
Mlendo (akazi 15%) mu malingaliro ogonana amapezeka mwa iwo omwe apanga malingaliro ndipo akufunafuna ulendo. Ikuwonetsanso kuti amayi omwe amawona malingaliro awo a alendo sakusangalatsa.
Ndi liti pamene mumakonda kupanga chikondi?
M'mawa, pokhapokha atatha. Mumasulidwa kwambiri, mumadzidalira nokha ndipo musazengereze deta yanu yakunja. Omasuka akakhala ogona amakhala odzaza mphamvu, koma amakhala osaganizira m'maganizo awo. Koma kugonana kumakhala okondwa komanso yogwira ntchito - mumaganizira credo yanu.
Asanagone. Ndiwe mkazi wothandiza, monga kutsatira miyambo. Mgonero wamadzulo umasonyeza ukwati wanu wofulumira, wokwatirana. Kumatanthauzanso kuti mumakonda moyo wodongosolo.
Pakati pa tsiku. Ndinu chikondi chapadera, chodziwika. Inu ndi mnzanuyo "mupite kukwera" kukasambira motsutsana ndi zamakono, kusokoneza zolakwika ndi kusamvera malamulo. Ndiwe mfulu, mwachangu ndipo muli ndi mzimu wopanduka. Anthu oterewa akutembenuzira dziko lathu lapansi, ngati chiganizo chachikulu cha maganizo.