Ngakhale odziwa bwino kwambiri komanso odziwa bwino nkhani za m'banja, akatswiri a zamaganizo sangathe kupereka yankho lenileni, limene, pambuyo pake, limapangitsa kuti mwamuna wake apereke. Zonse zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna ndizolakwa komanso kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi umunthu wake wapadera, kotero n'zosatheka kupereka yankho losavuta kufunso ili. Chofunika cha vutoli chachepetsedwa kukhala osiyana amuna, ngati tikuwafufuza mwatsatanetsatane, nkotheka kuti zinsinsi za amuna okhudza maganizo amatha kuwululidwa, chifukwa omwe akuyimira anthu ogonana molimba mtima amasintha akazi awo pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Ndi chifukwa chake kufunika kozindikira mtundu wa gawo lanu lachiwiri ndikofunikira kwambiri, ndiyeno muyenera kumanga khalidwe lanu molingana ndi chidziwitso ichi.
Amuna angathe kukhazikitsidwa m'magulu angapo omwe amasiyana maganizo awo pa moyo, khalidwe ndi zina. Ganizirani mtundu woyamba, "chikondi". Amuna amenewa nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuchita chinachake chatsopano, kusasintha kwa miyoyo yawo kumawapondereza ndikuwapangitsa kuyang'ana zachilendo. Amadziwa miyendo yochepa ya mkazi wosadziwika osati mwamuna, koma monga mpainiya wa chinthu chimene sakudziwabe.
Kuti "chikondi" chikhale chowonadi kwa inu, palibe chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwiratu, mwinamwake iye sadzakukondani ndikupita kukafunafuna chinachake chatsopano. Chovala ndi zovala za mkazi wokhala ndi "chikondi" zimayenera kumudabwa nthawi zonse. Ndikofunika kuti, ndikukuyang'anirani, nthawi zonse chinachake sichiyenera kuzindikira, ngakhale zochepa kwambiri. Mwamuna woteroyo nthawi zina angakhale ndi chifukwa chochitira nsanje, koma, poyanjanitsa kugonana ndi kuwabweretsa zinthu zodabwitsa, mkazi wa "chikondi" amalepheretsa kapena kusokoneza chiwembu.
Mtundu wina wa munthu - "macho", umafuna njira yosiyana. Apa vutoli ndi lovuta, chifukwa anthu oterewa ali ndi chidwi chofuna zosangalatsa, ngati chakudya chokoma, zakumwa zokoma komanso maubwenzi apamtima. Ndi "maso" ndi kosavuta kupanga chikondi, koma kukwatira kumatanthauza kutenga zoopsa. Ngati mudakali ndi mwamuna, yesetsani kufanana ndi zilakolako za munthu woteroyo. Makhalidwe, kumasuka, zosiyanasiyana zimakakamiza "maso" kukhala kunyumba ndi mkazi wokongola chotero osayang'ana china kumbali.
Zinsinsi zamaganizo a amuna ndizoti nthawi zambiri pamakhala zovuta. Mwachitsanzo, amuna omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri, akhoza kukhala "donzhuonyami involuntarily." Amuna amtundu uwu nthawi zambiri amasintha kwa akazi awo, komabe, sikuyenera kuwalanga mochuluka, chifukwa iwo amavutika ndi kulera ndi zochitika. Mavuto opezeka muubwana, khalani ndi amuna oterewa. Ngati adakali mwana analibe chikondi chokwanira, nthawi zonse ankanyozedwa ndi anza ake, akukhala okhwima, "Juan Juan willy-nilly" amafunafuna chikondi ndi chikondi. "Donjuan" nthawi zonse ayenera kukumbukira zomwe ali anzeru, aluso, komanso ambiri, ambiri. Njira imeneyi, mwinamwake, ikanikakamiza mwamuna kuti asayang'ane mbali.
Taganizirani mtundu wamwamuna wotsiriza - "homebody". Ngati muli ndi mnzako wotere m'moyo, nthawi zonse mupange malo okhalamo, odzitonthoza komanso okondana. "Domodedones" amayamikira moyo wam'nyumba wamtendere, chakudya chokoma, kugonana nthawi zonse, kukhazikika mu moyo. Kwa "homebody" anapita ku chiwembu, akufunikira kupanga nyumba zovuta kwambiri. Ndipo musayese kukakamiza mwamuna wotero kukhala wansanje - zikhoza kuwonongeka!
Kawirikawiri, yesetsani kusamalira mozama gawo lanu lachiwiri, muwasamalire, muyankhule mawu okondweretsa komanso zinsinsi zonse za kugonana kwa amuna.
Julia Sobolevskaya , makamaka pa malowa