Kodi mukuganiza kuti ndizosintha? Anaganiza kuti muchepetse thupi - ndipo tsopano mu mwezi umodzi kapena awiri muli ndi mawonekedwe abwino? Sizinali kumeneko! Ndipotu, timakonda kuganizira kwambiri zomwe timachita komanso zomwe zimatiteteza kukwaniritsa zolinga zathu.
Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri anthu amasiya mphindi imodzi ndipo amakhumudwa chifukwa cha kufuna kwawo. Pofuna kupewa izi, nkofunika kuti udziwe kuti sizingakhale zophweka, kulembetsa mndandanda wa zopinga zomwe zingatheke ndikupeza njira zothetsera mavutowa. Momwe angachitire, akunena katswiri wa chitukuko chaumwini Marshall Goldsmith m'buku lake "Triggers" (kusindikiza nyumba MIF).
Chotsani zosinthika
Zonsezi ndizolimbikitsa zomwe zingasinthe khalidwe lathu. Kutopa, kupsinjika maganizo ndi kusasamala, kumatikakamiza kuti tisiye maphunziro, ndizo zitsanzo za zomwe zimayambitsa mkati. Monga kutuluka kwadzidzidzi kwa changu, pambuyo pake timayamba kusewera masewera. Zowononga kunja zimatikhudza ife zochepa, ngakhale sitidziwa nthawi zonse izi. Kuwoneka kokha, kutayidwa pa keke yosangalatsa, kungamukakamize munthu kusiya zakudyazo. Msonkhano ndi mnzanu yemwe posachedwapa anayamba kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, akhoza kulimbikitsa zochitika zatsopano za masewera. Kotero, moyo wathu uli wodzaza ndi zizindikiro zosiyana kwambiri. Ndipo ndiyenera kuchita chiyani za izo? Monga momwe mwawonera kale, zina zimatiyambitsa zimatibweretsera ife ubwino, pamene ena - kusokoneza cholinga. Ntchito yanu ndiyomwe mumayambira poyamba ndikuphunzira momwe mungakanire yachiwiri. Ndipo tsopano uthenga wabwino ndi wakuti ngakhale zolimbikitsa zosabereka zingakhale zopindulitsa. Kawirikawiri timachita ndi zovuta basi: popanda kuganiza timayang'ana bokosi la maswiti; mmalo mwa maphunziro a madzulo timayang'ana limodzi ndi banja ndiwonetsero yosangalatsa; kutsegula imelo ngakhale musanadye chakudya cham'mawa ndipo nthawi yomweyo tilowe muntchito, ngakhale ife tinakonza kuti tichite mmawa. Gawo lofunika loyambirira ku cholinga ndicho kuchotsa zokhazokha. Yesani kuzindikira zisonyezo zomwe zikukugodolani panjira yoyenera. Kudziwa koteroko kudzakuthandizani kupita ku gawo lotsatira, kumene mumasintha zizoloŵezi zanu. Pambuyo pa izi, koma choyamba ganizirani za mtundu wina wa zovuta zomwe mungakumane nazo.
Dziwani zoyambitsa zanu ndi mitundu ya zizindikiro
Takhala tikuganiza kale kuti zokopazo zimapindulitsa komanso sizinabereke (izi mwina ndizofunikira kwambiri), komanso mkati ndi kunja. Pano pali njira zina zomwe mungayesere mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zolimbikitsa:
- Kutopetsa ndi kulimbikitsa. Zina zimatipangitsa ife kuti tichitepo: idyani maswiti, tumizani firiji ndi zinthu zothandiza, tulukani pabedi ndikupita kuntchito. Zina - zimakukakamizani kuti muchepetse pansi: kuchotsani dzanja lanu kutali ndi maswiti, kudutsa pa cafe mumakonda, kukana kuthamanga ndi kukhala pakhomo.
- Osadziŵa ndipo akudziwa. Zotsatira za zowawa zina timaziwona. Mwachitsanzo, n'zoonekeratu kuti fungo la amayi anga kuphika, lochokera kukhitchini, limapangitsa kulakalaka pang'ono kuiwala za zakudyazo. Komabe, pali zizindikiro zomwe zimatikhudza ife mopepuka. Makamaka, zimaphatikizapo nyengo. Monga momwe zowonetsera zasonyezera, mtima wathu umadalira kwambiri, koma anthu ochepa okha amazindikira izo.
- Yolunjika ndikuyenda m'njira yoyendayenda. Mukubwera kudzaona, mukuwona tebulo lodzaza ndi manja, ndipo manja anu amakuvulaza, koma chakudya chokoma. Ichi ndi chitsanzo cha kulumikiza kwachindunji. Koma izi zikhoza kukhala chizindikiro chosawonekera. Pa njira yopita kuntchito, mwangozi mwawona munthu wolemera kwambiri, ndiye ganizirani za moyo wanu, ndipo madzulo munagula zobwereza kuchipatala.
- Zosayembekezeka ndi zodziwika. Titha kumva mawu amodzi okha. Tidziwa kuti adzalandire bwanji, kuti tikonzekere kukonzekera nawo msonkhano. Ndipo zovuta zina zimatidabwitsa. Ndi chifukwa chake muyenera kuphunzira kuziwona ndikusintha khalidwe lanu.
Yesetsani kuchoka ku chizolowezichi
Ubongo wathu umasankha mosavuta njira yosavuta ndipo suyesera kukana pamene mukukumana ndi wina. Koma ngati mumaphunzira kusamala zosiyana siyana ndikugwirizanitsa mphamvu yanu mu nthawi, ndiye ngati mukufuna, musinthe mosavuta khalidwe lachikhalidwe. Zizoloŵezi zathu zonse zimakonzedwa mofanana. Zimaphatikizapo magawo atatu: kuyambitsa - kuchitapo - mphotho. Mwachitsanzo, kwa anthu okhala ndi kulemera kwakukulu, nthawi zambiri kuyambitsa, kupanikizika, kudzimva kusungulumwa kumawombera; Kuchitapo kanthu - ulendo wopita kudera lapafupi; ndipo mphotho ndi kumasulidwa kwa kanthaŵi kochepa. Pachifukwa ichi, mutha kusintha gawo loyamba ndi chinthu china. Mukungosankha zosankha zosiyana zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthetsa vutoli: kuyendetsa paki, kusewera ndi katchi kapena kuvina ku nyimbo zomwe mumakonda. Pali njira ina. Yesetsani kupewa zizindikiro zosabereka: sankhani njira yochokera kuntchito kuti musakumane ndi chakudya chofulumira; kudutsa m'masitolo ogulitsa ndi zina zotero. Inde, izi sizidzachitika ndi zovuta zonse, koma ndi zomwe tingathe kuzilosera.
Pezani zolinga zanu
Tsopano mumadziwa momwe mungagwirire ndi mavuto osabereka, koma mukhoza kuchita zina. Yambani ndi zizindikiro zothandiza zomwe zingakulimbikitseni kuti muzigwira ntchito nokha. Kodi mwazindikira kuti kuyankhulana ndi anzanu kumakupangitsani kusewera masewera? Pezani ndi munthuyu nthawi zambiri. Kodi nthawi zambiri mumasowa ntchito pa malo olimbitsa thupi? Pezani kulembetsa, ndiye mudzafuna kuyesetsa kulipira. Kodi mumalota kulowa m'zovala zanu zomwe mumakonda? Ndithudi muli ndi zithunzi kuyambira nthawi imeneyo pamene chiwerengero chanu chiloledwa kuvala. Ikani iwo pamalo otchuka kwambiri. Ngati cholinga chanu ndi kulemera, ndiye tsiku lirilonse, dzifunseni kuti: "Kodi ndakhala ndikuchita zonse lero kuti ndidye zakudya zabwino?", "Kodi ndachita zonse lero kuti ndipite ku masewera olimbitsa thupi?", "Kodi ndidachita lero? Zonse zotheka kukhala zochepa? "Yankhani mafunso awa mwa kulemba. Zolemba zoterezi zingakhale zowonjezera, zomwe zingakulimbikitseni kusintha.
Zowonjezera za zizindikiro zakunja ndi zamkati zomwe zimakhudza khalidwe lanu, mukhoza kuphunzira kuchokera m'buku lakuti "Otsogolera"