Zimene mungachite kuti musadandaule za mnyamata

Chikondi ndikumverera kokongola, kokongola kwambiri. Choncho amalembera m'maganizo a malemba komanso ma buku azimayi otchuka. Koma kwenikweni, siziri choncho. Ndipo nthawi zambiri zimachitika, pamene kumverera kwakukulu ndi kokongola uku kumakhala misonzi mu mtsamiro, amatsenga komanso amanjenje. Ndiyenera chiyani kuti ndisadandaule za mnyamatayu? Funso lofulumira, sichoncho?

Nchifukwa chiyani msungwanayo akudutsa chifukwa cha kugonana kolimba? Pali zifukwa zambiri, koma nthawi zambiri, komanso zopweteka kwambiri, timavutika pamene sitikumva yankho kwa onse omwe akuchoka pamtima. Koma choyenera kuchita chiyani kuti musadandaule za mnyamatayu? Ndi malingaliro ati omwe amakugwirani usana ndi usiku, kukulepheretsani kusaiwala tulo lanu ndikupumula ku mavuto onsewa?

Sindimakonda. MUSAKONDA. Zowopsya, simukuganiza? Zoonadi, izi ndi zopweteka komanso zosasangalatsa. Ndipo kukhala ndi iye ndi koopsa kwambiri komanso kosasimbika. Ubongo umamvetsetsa kuti ndi izi ndikofunika kuti mumenyane. Ndipo mtima sumafuna ndipo sungathe kusiya maganizo ake.

Kuti tikhale ndi moyo, munthu ayenera kudzigonjetsa yekha, mwinamwake ngakhale dzuwa lidzagwa mvula, ndipo mvula iyi idzakhala pamtima kwamuyaya.
Choncho, poyambira, tiyeni tiyese kuphatikizapo logic. Inde, mwa munthu wokondana, atrophies kwathunthu, komabe muyenera kusonkhanitsa chifunocho, ndikudzikakamiza kuganiza, kufufuza.

Pali choonadi chimodzi chosadziwika, chomwe chimati chikondi chenicheni sichimabweretsa ululu. Mwamuna weniweni sadzamupangitsa mkazi kulira. Choncho? ..

Ndiyeno ubongo umachoka kachiwiri. Chifukwa munthu wokondedwa sangakhale wopanda pake. Mulole iye akhale chidakwa, osagwira ntchito, ali ndi maonekedwe atatu osakwanira, chikhalidwe chochepa komanso kusowa kwathunthu kwa moyo, komabe iye ndi weniweni komanso wabwino.

Kapena, iye ndi wamphamvu kwambiri, wanzeru, wosayandikira, wamwano, wapadera ndi wosaiwalika, kuti mwa iye pamenepo sangathe kukhala kalikonse, palibe cholakwika chirichonse.

Mwachidule, pakhoza kukhala zambiri zomwe mungachite, koma zitsimikizo ndi chimodzi - chiwerengero cha mwamuna wokondana, nthawi zambiri chokhazikika, ndipo zinthu zabwino zomwe zimakondweretsa zimakhala zosavuta.

Chifukwa chake: kuyesedwa kwachiwiri kumaphatikizapo malingaliro. Inde. Mtima umalimbana kwambiri, chifukwa ngati ntchitoyo, iyenera kukayikira zoyenera. Mwachidule, ntchitoyo siyikuchokera m'mapapo. Koma ndikufunikabe kuyesa. Ndipo pamene mutu umatha kugwira ntchito, muyenera kuchita izi: kutenga pepala ndi kulemba makhalidwe onse oipa ndi abwino a wokondedwa wanu. Tawonani, zowonjezera: zabwino kapena zoipa. Kawirikawiri, palibe cholakwika chilichonse. Izi ndi zomveka. Zingatheke bwanji kuti pakhale choipa muyeso?

Chabwino, ife tikupitirira ku gawo lotsatirali la kuyang'ana. Zinthu izi ndi zovuta kwambiri, chifukwa tsopano tiyenera kumenyana ndi chinyengo chathu tokha. Zomwe sizodabwitsa komanso zowopsya, koma, zedi, makhalidwe abwino a wokondedwa wanu amakhala olakwika. Ndizofunika kuti mumvetsetse, musakane ndi kukhulupirira.

Ngati mukuganiza molimbika, zikhoza kutanthawuza kuti iye sakugwirizana, koma osasinthasintha, osati olota, koma osamvetsetsa, osati osayenerera, koma nkhanza zokhazokha. Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya. Inde, mkazi aliyense adzakhala ndi zosiyana zake, koma chomaliza ndi, pambuyo pa zonse, chimodzi_iye si wabwino, iye ndi munthu chabe. Ndipo chimodzimodzi monga iye anayikira. Ndipo palipo komanso bwino. Kuli bwino kwambiri. Ndikoyenera kuti aphedwe?

Mwa njira, ndikufuna kuzindikira nthawi yomweyo kuti zomwe zanenedwa pamwambazi sizikutanthauza kuti munthu wokondedwa wanu ndi wachibwibwi, woledzera wosawerengeka ndi schizophrenic ndi zizolowezi zamanyazi. Iye si mwamuna yekhayo. Osati amene mungathe kukhala ndi moyo wanu wonse. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mbali zake zonse zoipa, zomwe tsopano ziri zophweka kukwaniritsa, zidzawonekera kwambiri ndi nthawi, chifukwa moyo udzayamba, moyo wa banja. Ndipo yesani kuganiza wokondedwa wanu mnyumbamo. Pokhapokha popanda maganizo. Zoonadi. Pano iye akukhala ndi inu, akumwa mowa, yunivesite satha, palibe ntchito, ana samamvetsera, chifukwa papa ali malo okhala, kotero si ulamuliro. Ndipo mumakokera banja lonse payekha, gwiritsani ntchito ntchito zitatu ndipo tsiku lomwe adakukondani. Inde, pali kusiyana ndi anthu akusintha. Chabwino, ngati sichoncho. Kodi munganenensopo, akuluakulu, ozindikira ndi azimayi omwe amamenyana nawo: izo zikanakhala bwino ngati nditagwa chifukwa cha chikondi. Ndiye ndikanati ndikhale ndi chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri, koma tsopano ndakhala ndikukwera sutikesi yaying'ono moyo wanga wonse popanda pensulo.

Mwa njira, mutha kunena kuti wokondedwa wanu sikuti ndi wabwino komanso weniweni. Pepani, koma sindikhulupirira. Amuna enieni samalola akazi kuti azivutika, ngakhale kwa omwe sakonda. Amuna awa ali ndi nzeru yamwamuna wapadera komanso amatha kuonetsetsa kuti mayiyo sakuvutika. Inde, ndithudi, iwo amatha kufotokoza choonadi cha moyo, ndipo atatha mawu awo ululu umatha, ndipo pambuyo pake zimatha.

Ndiye ganizirani za akazi okwera mtengo, ganizirani mosamala.

Zimakhala zovuta kuti tipewe chikondi. Ndipo nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti n'zosatheka kupulumuka kupweteka uku, kuti uwu ndi chikondi chotsiriza m'moyo wathu. Kotero, kwenikweni, izo zikuwoneka basi. Chikondi Chamuyaya chimagwirizanitsa. Chikondi chosadziŵika posakhalitsa chimatha. Muyenera kupirira ndi kupeza mphamvu mwa inu nokha. Muyenera kuchoka pabedi, kutaya mtolo wonyezimira, kudziyika nokha ndikupita kumsewu. Simungachite mantha ndi anzanu atsopano ndi amuna atsopano. Chifukwa chikondi chenicheni chingakhale pakati pawo, kotero musakhale wodzipereka kotero kuti muteteze tsogolo lanu. Ngati nthawi zonse mumaganiza kuti wina sakundikonda, simungaphonye khumi ndi awiri, mwachikondi ndi makutu.

Chabwino, ngati pambuyo pake, mutaganizirapo ndi kusanthula chirichonse, pa zomwe zanenedwa pamwambapa, mutaganizira ndi kuvomereza kuti iye sali wamkulu wa kavalo woyera, inu mukufunabe kukhala naye. Chabwino, mfundo imodzi: mumakonda kuvutika. Choncho, simukusowa kufunsa choti muchite kuti musadandaule ndi munthuyo. Kupweteka kwanu ndi chikondi chanu zimakupatsani tanthauzo la moyo. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu munthu woipa, ndipo sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu ofooka. Ziri chabe kuti inu muli monga choncho. Kwa nyenyezi zonse zomwe mumadzera muminga, ngakhale kudutsa m'malo. Kotero mumangovomereza kuti mumadziwa chikondi mwa mawonekedwe awa ndikusangalala ndi zomwe muli nazo. Ndipo mwinamwake zaka makumi awiri pambuyo pake, kuchokera ku ntchito zake zitatu, inu mumayang'ana pa sing'anga wanu wosadziwika, ndipo iye akukumbatirani inu nkuti: "Ndimakukondani." Ndipo mudzazindikira kuti mwaufulu wa zonsezi, mukhala osangalala kwambiri.