Mkwiyo ukhoza kuuka ngati munthu sakuchita momwe ife timamuyembekezera. Bwenzi langa linasweka ndi mwamuna wake, yemwe anali, mwa lingaliro langa, munthu wabwino, chifukwa cha zinyalala. Icho chinkayenera kutulutsidwa pa nthawi inayake, ndiye panalibe zitsulo ndi matumba apulasitiki ndipo anthu mu zidebe anatulutsa zinyalala. Ndipo m'banja la makolo ake, mwamunayo anatulutsa zinyalala, inali ntchito yake. Mnzakoyo adatsimikiza kuti ngati sakuchotsa zinyalala, ndiye kuti sakonda, sazilemekeza, ndipo amachititsa manyazi. Mwachidziwikire, panali madandaulo ambiri pakati pa okwatirana, koma amakumbukira cholakwa ichi kwa zaka makumi anayi.
Njira zochotsera zifukwa
Amzanga nthawi zambiri amapereka uphungu kuti amulavule ndi kuiwala pamene tikuwawuza kachidandaulo zawo. Ndipo iwo amapereka uphungu woterewu mosavuta, chifukwa munthu yemwe anakhumudwitsidwa, ndi woyimira molakwika, amalankhula za momwe wina amamukhumudwira. Koma ngati tiyesera kukakamiza anthu kuti asamvekere, tikasiya kulankhula za izo, zidzasokoneza moyo wathu. Mmene mungathetsere chipongwe - kuzimitsa: kubwezera, kuponyera munthu wina. Chinthu chinanso chikanakhala momwe bwana adafunira kuti adzikhala pakhomo, atabwerera kunyumba, atathyola mwana wake wamwamuna, mwanayo agunda galuyo, ndipo galu yemwe adamukhumudwitsa adagwira mwendo wa bambo ake, choncho bwalolo linatseka.
Koma nsonga izi sizigwira ntchito, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Kuvutika ndi mkwiyo, nsanje, mkwiyo ndi mantha, uku ndiko kupanikizika ndi nkhawa, kutaya tanthauzo la moyo, ulesi, kulephera ndi matenda. Kuvutika maganizo, ichi ndi chipatso cha malingaliro oipa a moyo, chipatso cha kuganiza kolakwika. Njira yokhayo yothetsera kunyoza - muyenera kuganizira za izo. Tengani udindo pa malingaliro anu. Ndipo kuti apange izi pokonzekera ndi zosasinthasintha.
Gawo 1
Kuti adzipezere mkwiyo wake, bwererani kwa iwo, ndipo kumbukirani momwe khalidweli linasinthira, ndi malingaliro ati omwe adakumbukira. Zingakhale bwino kulemba zonse, mnzanga amalemba makalata kwa ozunza ake, koma samawatumizira nthawi zonse, tsopano ali ndi bukhu loti azigwira ntchito ndi zifukwa zake.
Gawo 2
Lembani mwatsatanetsatane momwe munthu amene wandichitira choipa ayenera kuchita, kuti ndisakhumudwe naye. Ndipo, mwinamwake, chisankho choyenera chikanakhala chakuti iye anandiitana ine kuti ndizisuta ndi kundifotokozera komwe ine ndinali kulakwitsa ndi zomwe ine ndachita molakwitsa.
Gawo 3
Yankhani funso chifukwa chake ayenera kuchita izi. Kuchokera kumene kumabwera miyambo yolandiridwa, miyambo, malamulo ndi zina zotero.
Gawo 4
Zingakhale zifukwa za khalidwe lake, sitifunikira zifukwa, koma kufotokozera. Ndipo kudzilemba nokha zosankha zosiyanasiyana.
Khwerero 5
Kodi amachita izi kwa aliyense, kapena wandichitira ine ndekha?
Gawo 6
Kodi munthu uyu angathe kukhala ndi zomwe ndikuyembekezera kuchokera kwa iye, ndipo kodi angakwanitse kukwaniritsa izi?
Khwerero 7
Kodi ndikunyoza bwanji? Kusakhulupirika? Kudana? Mantha? Mkwiyo? ndi zina zotero.
Gawo 8
Kukhululukidwa si chifukwa. Kuyanjana ndi kukhululukidwa ndi mawu a muzu umodzi. Kuchotsa malingaliro ake achisoni, kusagwirizana. Sindingathe kulamulira. Sindingathe kukakamiza wodwalayo kuti azichita monga momwe ndifunira. Ndimusiya kuti akakhale ndi moyo weniweni ndikukonza zolakwa zake mwiniwake. Muyenera kulenga fano lanu la chikhululukiro, chizindikiro. Mwachitsanzo, abwenzi anga ali ndi fano la birch, ndili ndi kuwala, winawake ali ndi fano la mlengalenga, ena ali ndi misewu. Chifundo chimathera kukhululukidwa, muyenera kunena kuti chikhululuko ndi mawu, muyenera kulingalira munthu amene wakukhumudwitsani, kugwirizana ndi chinyengo ichi ndikukambirana ndi wolakwirayo, pamene mukunena mawu awa:
1. Ndiwe wolakwa chifukwa chakuti ... ndipo zambiri zimanenedwa, ndibwino. Kunena kuti mu nkhani iyi ndondomeko ya mgwirizanoyi yaphwanyidwa, ndikuyang'anirani ngati munapereka chirichonse.
2. Kungakhale kolondola ngati atatero, pamene akuyankhula popanda tinthu ayi.
3. Mwinamwake, iye anali nacho chifukwa chotero kuti achite izo, monga momwe wochitira nkhanzayo anachitira. Fotokozani zonse zomwe zingayambitse.
4. Ndipo, ngakhale kuti mwina adali ndi zifukwa zake, ndikudzimva kuti ndikunyozedwa.
5. Ngakhale ndikukumana ndi zomwe munachita, ndikuganiza kuti ndikukhululukireni. Ndipo musiyeni.
6. Koma zonsezi sizikutanthauza kuti sizinali, ndikumasula. Tiyenera kutchula chithunzichi cha chikhululukiro, kugwirizanitsa nawo, ndi kutumiza mtsinje wa chikondi kwa wolakwira.
Chifukwa cha njira zomwe tazitchulazi, mutha kuchotsa mkwiyo ndikukhululukira mnzanuyo. Mchitidwe wokhululuka uli wopweteka. Koma ngati simukuchotsa cholakwa, ndiye kuti ikhoza kuwononga munthu.