Anthu amalingalira izi pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo, pa msinkhu wosadziwika. Koma izi ndi zofunika bwanji? Aliyense amadziwa kuti chidwi choyamba cha munthu chimakhudza kwambiri kukula kwa ubale pakati pa anthu awa mtsogolomu. Chiwonetsero choyamba chikhoza kupangidwa kamodzi kokha, kotero timayesetsa kwambiri kuti tiwone bwino pamaphwando, maphwando a magulu ndi malo ena kumene mungathe kukumana ndi alendo. Zikuwoneka bwino kuti tiwoneke makamaka amayi, ngakhale kuti izi si lamulo, koma mkhalidwe. Ndi akazi okha omwe akuwonetsa izi zinthu zochepa. Pambuyo pazinthu zonse, amayi akhala nthawizonse a muses, ndipo amuna ndi amisiri ndi osaka. Kotero, kodi kuoneka kwa msinkhu ndi kofunika kwambiri ndi kotani kuoneka kwa nthawi yathu?
Tiyeni tiyambe ndi ana pakati pa zaka zitatu ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi. Iyi ndi nthawi yopanda malire komanso yopanda malire m'moyo. Panthawi ino, ayi, palibe mavuto ndi nkhawa, mumapeza chilichonse chomwe mukufuna m'moyo. Mwanayo saganizira za malingaliro a anthu payekha. Amasankha mafano ake osati maonekedwe, koma mwa ubale weniweni wa munthu kapena munthu wina. Ngati tiyesa kuchuluka kwa maonekedwe a mwana wa msinkhu uwu pa mlingo wa mfundo khumi, adzalandira chiwerengero cha 1.
Kenaka akubwera zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri mpaka 13. Pa nthawiyi mwanayo amapita koyamba kusukulu. Panthawi imeneyi, kuyamba kwa munthu wamkulu komanso wosadziimira. Tsopano ali ndi abwenzi ake oyambirira-anzanga a amuna ndi akazi, amamvetsetsa tanthauzo la maonekedwe ake. Kwa nthawi yoyamba amayamba kudziganizira yekha ngati munthu wodziimira yekha. Maonekedwe akuyamba kumukondweretsa kwambiri, chifukwa ali pakati pa anthu ndipo ayenera kuyang'ana bwino. Koma tsopano makamaka chifukwa cha mphamvu ya makolo pa mwanayo. Amayesetsa kuphunzitsa ana awo molondola, ukhondo, chikondi cha dongosolo. Mapu a mfundo 4.
Ndiye pali nthawi yayitali ya moyo wa zaka 14-25. Panthawi imeneyi imalowa muunyamata, komanso achinyamata. Izi mwina ndizovuta kwambiri pa moyo waumunthu, ngakhale zowala kwambiri, zosakumbukika, zosayembekezereka. Panthawi imeneyi, munthu amawongolera maganizo ake payekha, amafufuza anthu omwe amamuzungulira, amapanga mfundo za moyo wake kapena amawakana ngakhale pang'ono, pali kusintha kwa makhalidwe, makamaka, kusintha kwa munthu, monga munthu. Panthawi imeneyi, maonekedwe ndi ofunika kwambiri. Mwanayo amalipira nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu kuoneka kwake, amayesera kuyang'ana bwino. Chikhumbochi ndi chachilendo, chifukwa tsopano akuyamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Pakutha pa nthawiyi, monga lamulo, munthu wapangidwa kale ndi munthu wodziimira, koma chidwi cha maonekedwe sichicheperachepera. Ndipo chidwi ichi ndichidziwikiratu, munthu amadziwonetsera yekha, akufuna kuti aziwoneka bwino. Masiku ano, anyamata ndi achiwawa kwambiri, choncho amalingaliro apadera amaperekedwa kwa maonekedwe. Gawo 9 mfundo.
Nthawi yotsatira ndi zaka 26-45. Panthawi ino, munthu amakhala wodziimira yekha ndi wodziimira. Monga lamulo, panthawi imeneyi, kutha kwa maukwati ndi kubadwa kwa ana. Amuna ndi akazi sakhala okhudzidwa ndi maonekedwe awo ndipo amasankha kudziko la pansi. Mofananamo, chidwi cha maonekedwe chikuchepetsedwa chifukwa chakuti munthu amadziwa kuti sikuyenera kumanga aliyense ndikuyamba kukhala yekha, monga ntchito ndi banja zakhazikitsidwa kale. Pamapeto pa siteji iyi, kachiwiri, pang'onopang'ono, chidwi chenicheni pa maonekedwe ake (vuto la midlife), koma limatha msanga. Ndemanga 4-5 mfundo.
Ndipo nthawi yotsiriza ikuchokera zaka 45 mpaka kumapeto kwa moyo. Kusamala kwa kunja kuli kochepa, popeza anthu ambiri ali ndi banja lalikulu, ntchito yabwino, ayambiranso kukhala okha. Amasiya kukopa okha, chifukwa adalandira ulemu wochuluka. Chiŵerengero cha 2 mfundo.
Choncho, mawonekedwe ofunika kwambiri m'nthawi yathu ino kwa achinyamata ndi achinyamata chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mahomoni m'thupi, komanso nthawi ya mapangidwe a umunthu.
Maonekedwe ochepetsetsa amasangalatsa ana ang'onoang'ono, chifukwa chosowa chidziwitso. Ndiponso anthu achikulire musakonzekere.