Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mnyamata amangokhalira kuledzera kwa amayi ake. Iye ndi chitsanzo cha mkazi kwa iye. Ndiwo mapepala ake okoma kwambiri ndi borsch. Adzapereka malangizo abwino kwambiri. Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti mkaziyu ali ndi inu nthawi zonse.
Izi, nthawi zambiri, zimawonedwa ngati mnyamatayo anakulira wopanda bambo.
Kawirikawiri, amayi anga, akuyesera kuchita zonse kuti mnyamatayo asaone kuti ndi wosalakwa, amamupweteka kwambiri ndi kumumanga iye. Kuonjezera apo, chifukwa cha kusowa kwa maphunziro a amuna, mnyamatayo sadziwa nthawi zonse kukhala wodziimira yekha. Amadziwika kuti ali ndi chakudya, zovala zoyera, zovala, ndalama, komanso nthawi yomweyo safunikira kuchita chilichonse. Amayi nthawi zonse amamvetsa ndi kukhululukira, kuti asatero.
Patapita nthawi, iye ndi mkazi wake wokondedwa akuyamba kuzindikira chimodzimodzi. Koma inu si amayi ake. Mukufuna mpumulo ndi zopatsa, osati infantilism ndi whims.
Kodi mungakhumudwitse bwanji mnyamata kuthamangira kwa amayi ake nthawi zonse? Choyamba, yesetsani kulankhula naye. Fotokozani kuti mumalemekeza kwambiri mayi yemwe anamuberekera ndipo amamukomera mtima, komabe ali wamkulu kwambiri kuti athetse mavuto ake mothandizidwa ndi amayi. Kumumbutseni kuti iye, monga mwamuna weniweni, nthawi zambiri amakana ngakhale thandizo lanu, chifukwa si ntchito ya munthu kudandaula kwa amayi. Ndipo amayi ake ndi akazi. Kotero mwinamwake musamamukhumudwitse iye ndi mavuto anu. Mayiyo pambuyo pa munthu aliyense akadakali wamng'ono ndipo ngati mwamunayo amamukonda kwambiri, ayenera kuteteza ku mavuto. Fotokozani kwa iye kuti amaiwala za vutoli m'maola angapo, ndipo amayi nthawi zonse amaganizira za izo ndipo amakhumudwitsidwa.
Kuonjezera apo, muyenera kufotokoza mofatsa kuti inu nokha simuli omasuka ndi maganizo awa. Inu, ndithudi, simunakhale ndi moyo wotere monga amayi ake, koma mumayesetsa kuphunzira. Choncho, kuchokera kwa munthuyu kuyembekezera kuyerekezera ndi kutamanda, osati kuyerekeza ndi amayi. Ndiyeneranso kutchula kuti mavuto onse omwe amabwera m'banja ayenera kuthetsedwa pamodzi. Pambuyo pake, ndizo, poyamba, moyo wanu komanso inu nokha mumadziwa zonse ndi maonekedwe. Choncho, musamapemphe thandizo kwa anzanu, achibale, kapena amayi. Iye ndi wamkulu komanso wanzeru, choncho ayenera kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli.
Ngati mwamuna sakhala ndi zokambirana ndipo samatha kuyamwa kuti athamange kwa amayi ake nthawi zonse, yesetsani kulankhula ndi amayi ake nokha. Izi zimachitika kuti mkazi nayenso sakondwera ndi izi. Pankhaniyi, afotokozereni maganizo anu ndikupempha thandizo. Popeza mayiyo ndi wokondedwa wanu, akhoza kumuthandiza kuti asiye chifukwa cha zinthu zina zomwe zimayendetsa kunyumba kwake.
Choipa kwambiri, pamene amayi a mwamuna wake amatsutsa mpongozi wake ndipo amasangalala kuti mwana wake amamuyamikira kwambiri kuposa mkazi wake. Apa simungakhoze kuyembekezera thandizo. Choncho, m'pofunika kuchita zomwezo. Mukudziwa kuti ndi zinthu zotani zomwe mnyamata amapita kwa amayi ake. Choncho, yesani kuwapewa. Chitani chilichonse chimene akuchita, koma kangapo bwino. Sungani mbale zake zomwe amakonda kwambiri, zitsulo zitsulo, patronize ndi cherish. Zoonadi, izi sizili mgwirizano wathanzi, koma nthawi zina mungakhale moyo mwanjira iyi kapena ayi.
Koma osati mkazi aliyense akhoza kuima motalika chotere. Choncho, yesetsani kuika funsoli moyenera. Inde, musagwiritse ntchito mawu akuti "kaya ine, kapena amayi anga. Palibe munthu wokwanira kukana kubereka amayi ake. Inu nokha mumadziwa izi bwino ndikuzimvetsa. Koma ponena kuti panalibe kuchoka panyumba potsutsana ndi mikangano yazing'ono, ndibwinobe kukambirana. Fotokozani kwa chibwenzi chanu kuti moyo wotere sukugwirizana ndi inu. Inu mumakhala limodzi ndipo, chotero, kumanga ubale weniweni. Choncho, khalidwe la mwana wamng'ono limakukhumudwitsani ndikukukhumudwitsani. Nthawi zonse mumakhala munthu wamphamvu yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri, ndipo tsopano wasanduka mnyamata wamng'ono. Choncho, muyenera kusintha chinachake mwamsanga. Mukuyesera kuti muchite zonse zomwe zingatheke, nanga bwanji osayang'ana maganizo ake kumoyo ndi maubwenzi.
Pankhaniyi, amuna ena amaganizira, chifukwa akuopa kutaya mkazi wawo wokondedwa. Mwachidule, mantha a ana ndi makompyuta amakhala mkati ndipo samasiya mpaka nthawi yovuta. Ngati zonse zikuchitika motero, wokondedwa wanu amusiya amayi anu okha, ndipo mudzatha kumanga maubwenzi anu popanda chigawo chachitatu chosavuta, makamaka pa izi.
Koma zikhoza kukhala kuti mnyamatayo adzasonkhanitsa zinthu ndikuchoka. Kwa amayi. Mukhoza, ndithudi, kubwezeretsani ndikugwirizana ndi khalidwe ili. Koma, mwinamwake, ndi zofanana kuti muganizire. Dzifunseni nokha, kodi mungamve kupezeka kwa amayi ake kumbuyo kwanu? Pambuyo pake, zikutanthauza kuti chibwenzi chanu ndi chosowa chosowa komanso chopanda pake. Iye sakudziwa momwe angayankhire pa zochita zake ndi kuthetsa mavuto. Ndiphweka kubisala kumbuyo kwa onse omwe amapita kumoto, ndi m'madzi, chifukwa cha mwana wamng'ono wokondedwa. Anthu oterewa amagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti aliyense aziwateteza ndi kuwathandiza. Koma iwo okha satha kuchita chirichonse chonga ichi kwa winawake. Ngakhale kwa amayi anu okondedwa. Dziwani kuti munthu uyu sangakhale konse khoma lanu lamwala. Iwe sumangopeza pa izo kudalira. Ngati pali mavuto omwe simungawathetse popanda iye, amangothamangira kwa amayi ake. Ndipo iye sadzasamala zomwe zimachitika kumeneko. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuteteza. Anthu oterewa ndi achichepere komanso amatsenga. Iwo sangathe kupanga zisankho zazikulu, kutenga maudindo, ndi ambiri, kukhala ngati munthu wamkulu.
Fufuzani zochita zake ndi malingaliro ake kwa inu, musanapite kukachotsa pansi pa malaya a amayi anga. Mwina ndi bwino kungosiya ndikupita nokha, kupatulapo. Pambuyo pake, mkazi aliyense nthawi zonse amalota kukhala dona wa munthu, yosungirako zinthu zakale, mfumukazi, osati mwana wamphongo, wophika ndi namwino wonyontho. Nchifukwa chiyani mumasowa munthu wamkulu m'nyumba? Kodi mungachite chiyani pamene ana anu akuwonekera, chifukwa munthu wotero angachite nsanje ndi mwana wake wamwamuna, chifukwa tsopano sakusamalira mokwanira.
Choncho ganizirani mosamala kuti mudziwe mtundu wanji wa munthu amene mumamufuna. Ndiyeno pitani kale kuti mubwezeretse kapena mutenge zinthu zina.