Makhalidwe athu, pali anthu ambiri omwe timawasamala. Koma pakati pawo pali makamaka omwe sitingathe kulingalira miyoyo yawo. Kwa anthu awa, ndife okonzeka kupatsa zonse, popanda kuganiza. Timawakonda kwambiri kuposa ifeyo. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika?
Ubale wa Banja
Banja ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo kwa pafupifupi munthu aliyense. Anthu ambiri amakonda kunena kuti: Banja liri pamwamba pa zonse. Komabe, si onse omwe amadziwa kuti banja silingakhale mwazi, koma ndi moyo. Ponena za achibale athu, nthawi zambiri sitingathe kukhala opanda makolo komanso opanda ana. Nchifukwa chiyani izo zimachitika? Choyamba, makolo ali pafupi ndi ife kuchokera pa kubadwa. Timamva mawu awo, timawazoloŵera ngakhale pamene sitingathe kuzizindikira. Makolo athu ndi anthu amene timakhala nawo nthawi yochuluka kufikira nthawi inayake. Ndipo ngati makolo ali abwino kwambiri, ngati ataya zonse zabwino mwa ana awo, kuwazindikira ndi kuwathandiza, ndiye kuti timamva kuti timawakonda koposa ifeyo. Ndi kwa iwo omwe timapita ku komiti ndi kuthandizira, komabe iwo amatha kumvetsa chisoni ndi kuvomereza, monga palibe wina aliyense. Pankhaniyi, timalimbikitsidwa ndi chiyamiko, chikondi, chizolowezi, chikhulupiliro. Ndipotu, popanda anthu awa, sitingathe kulingalira za moyo wathu. Ndipotu, kumverera kuti timakonda munthu kuposa ifeyo, mwina n'chakuti ndife odzikonda. Chowonadi ndi chakuti kuganiza: "Ndipereka moyo wanga chifukwa cha munthu uyu," pakuganiza, tikuganiza kuti: "Sindidzakhala ndi moyo popanda munthu uyu. Mulole izo zikhale zabwino kwa ine kuposa moyo wonse, kuyesera kukhala moyo popanda izo. "
Pa chikondi chathu chosalekerera ana, apa tikutsogoleredwa ndi malingaliro osiyana. Ana ndi gawo lathu. Iwo ali ngati ife kapena anthu omwe timawakonda. Kuchokera pa kubadwa komweku timayika zidziwitso ndi luso lathu mwa iwo, timapereka zabwino zonse, timayesa kupeza zomwe sitingathe kudzipeza tokha. Mu ana athu timawona kuti ifeyo tawoneka bwino. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mwanayo kwa ife nthawizonse amakhalabe ndi chidziwitso cha chopanda chitetezo chimene ife takhala nacho m'manja mwathu. Choncho, moyo wonse timamva kuti tili ndi udindo pa moyo wake. Tidziwa mosamala komanso mosamalitsa kuti tifuna kuteteza mwanayo, chikumbumtima chathu ndi zathu sizikutithandiza kuti tisagwirizane ndi ntchito zathu. Komanso, mwanayo timadziwona tokha, koma bwino. Choncho, zikuwoneka kuti ndi bwino kudzipereka nokha, kuti tipeze zomwe ife sitinapindule nazo.
Zizolowezi ndi chikhulupiliro
Komabe ife tikhoza kuwakonda kwambiri iwo, omwe ife timawadziwa moyo wonse ndipo omwe amatimvetsa ife monga wina aliyense. Munthu wotereyo akhoza kukhala m'bale kapena mlongo amene mwakhala naye pamodzi moyo wanu wonse. Koma sikofunikira kuti pali mgwirizano wapabanja pakati pa inu ndi munthu uyu. Mwachitsanzo, chikhoza kukhala chibwenzi chimene munayamba kuona mutakwanitsa miyezi inayi. Munakulira m'bwalo limodzi, munali ndi zokonda komanso zofanana. Munakulira, munalandira zatsopano ndi chidziwitso, munakweza bwalo la anzanu. Koma ichi si chiyanjano cha portico nkomwe. M'malo mwake, chaka chilichonse mumakhala pafupi kwambiri. Vitoge anabwera nthawi pamene, pofufuza moyo wanu, munazindikira kuti pafupifupi nthawi iliyonse ya moyo wake mukhoza kumva kukhalapo kwa bwenzi lanu. Ngakhale kuti sali pazochitikazo, mumayankhula za iye kapena mumamuuza zomwe zinachitika. Ndi munthu uyu, mumayang'ana kukhala ndi mphamvu. Mungathe kulankhulana popanda mawu, chifukwa mumadziwana bwino ndipo nthawi zina mawu sali oyenera kwa inu. Ponena za ubwenzi woterewu iwo amanena kuti uwu ndi moyo umodzi, umene umakhala mu matupi awiri. Ndipo mumavomerezana ndi maganizo awa, chifukwa ngakhale mutakhala osiyana kwambiri, mwa munthuyu mumadziona nokha ngati ulendo. Timakonda mnzathu kuposa ifeyo, chifukwa sitigwirizana kwambiri ndi anthu ambiri, timagwirizana ndi chirichonse. Uku ndikumverera kwapamwamba kwa chizolowezi kwa munthu, popanda yemwe ife sitingathe kulingalira za moyo wathu, chifukwa iwo sanakhalepo nawo. Tikungoopa mantha kuganizira dziko limene palibe chibwenzi, chifukwa iye adzakhala wosiyana, iye ataya hafu ya mitundu, chifukwa palibe amene adzamvetsetse momwe akumvera. Timakonda kwambiri anthu omwe amatidziŵa kwathunthu, kuyambira A mpaka Z. Zomwe sizingakhale makolo, chifukwa sitingakonde bwanji iwo, koma kuyambira m'badwo wakale, sikungatheke kuyembekezera kumvetsa komwe kulipo pakati pa anzanu.
Amene anakwaniritsa malotowo
Chikondi chopanda malire choterocho chingakhale kwa munthu yemwe anakwaniritsa maloto athu. Kodi tikukamba za chiyani? Mwachitsanzo, nthawizonse mumalota za munthu, mumawona malingaliro anu ndi maloto, chomwe chiyenera kukhala. Ndipo apa mumakumana ndi wokondedwa wanu, yemwe amakhaladi ngati choncho. Iye samasewera kapena kusintha, iye ndi wosavuta, monga momwe zilili. Ndipo izi ndizo zomwe tikusowa. Uku ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa malotowo, omwe takhala tikuyembekezera kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo tsopano, tikuopa kwambiri kutaya mphatso yoteroyo. Mwa njira, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu wotereyo angakhale wokonda yekha, koma izi si choncho. Osati aliyense amatchulidwa ndendende mwamuna (mwamuna). Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zonse mumalota za m'bale, ndipo mumakumana ndi munthu amene anakhala mmodzi. Ndi m'bale yemwe inu mumamufuna nthawizonse. Zili ndi zovuta zake ndipo sizingwiro, koma izi ndizo zomwe mwakhala mukuyang'ana pa moyo wanu wonse, banja lanu, mchirikizano ndi mtundu umenewo umene uyenera kukhala anthu amitundu yonse, zomwe inu simunachite. Ndipo musamulole kuti asatenge magazi, koma akutcha iwe mlongo, akunena zomwe akuganiza. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi abale khumi a magazi, ndizo zomwe mumaganiza kuti ndi zachilengedwe, chifukwa ndi amene mumalota. Ndipo iye anakhala kwa iwo osati chifukwa chakuti banja linanena choncho, osati chifukwa chakuti inu mumafuna, koma chifukwa iyemwini amamva choncho. Uyu ndi munthu amene anakwaniritsa malotowa. Ndipo kupeza chimwemwe choterocho, tikuopa kwambiri kutaya, chifukwa timamva kuti sitinakondwere ndi mphatso yomwe tinali kuyembekezera. Inde, ndipo osasangalala konse. Ndichifukwa chake timakonda munthu wotero kuposa ifeyo. Pambuyo pake, takhala tikuwayembekezera kwa nthawi yayitali, kuyembekezera, ndipo ngati sichikutha, ndiye kuti gawo lake silidzafa ndi moyo, lidzasweka pakati ndipo silidzatha kulimbitsa chilichonse.Pakuti kutaya zomwe talota moyo wanga ndizoopsa kwambiri.