Ndondomeko: chidani, chikondi

Ife, mosakayikira, tingavomereze kuti chikondi ndi chidani sizibwera modzidzimutsa, mwadzidzidzi, mwamsanga. Zina mwaziganizozi zili ndi ndondomeko yake, ndipo ikukula pang'onopang'ono, nthawi iliyonse kukhala yoonekera kwambiri. Pa mutu uwu, tiyesera kufotokoza mfundo ndi magawo: chidani, chikondi. Koma ziyenera kuzindikila kuti kuyimira ndi kusankha malingaliro otere monga chidani ndi chikondi ndichabechabe, monga munthu aliyense wophunzira amapanga njira yake, ndipo tikhoza kupeza ntchito zambiri pa nkhaniyi pamene chiwerengero cha magawo a chidani ndi chikondi chingakhale chosiyana, monga ndi dzina lawo. Chinthu chokha chimene chosasinthika ndizofunika kwambiri pa kujambula komweko, kumene kuli. Ndondomeko za mfundo izi zimalongosola zomwe zimayambira komanso zikhalidwe zina, zimawalola kuti aphunzire zambiri za chikondi ndi udani, kulowa mkati mwa mtima wawo ndipo zikufunika kuziwerenga ndikuzimvetsa.

Mwinamwake, ife tonse timadziwa mawu akuti "kuchokera ku chikondi kudana ndi sitepe imodzi". Zili choncho, osati zokhudzana ndi sayansi, koma zokhudzana ndi dziko, koma ngakhale izi, pafupifupi aliyense wa ife amavomereza naye, kapena ngakhale atagwirizana ndi zochita zake kuchokera pa zochitika zake. Kumbali imodzi, mwambi uwu uyenera kutifotokozera zambiri kuposa kusokoneza, koma zimakhala zosiyana: kodi zimapita bwanji? Zotheka bwanji? Chifukwa chiyani kusintha kosavuta kotereku kuchokera kumbali yosiyana ndi malingaliro enieni? Kodi izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwo ndi osiyana kwambiri? Aliyense wa ife amadzifunsa yekha za chikondi ndi chidani. Koma powagawa iwo mu magawo, tikhoza kumvetsetsa bwino momwe timakhalira ndi kudziwa momwe zimakhalira zofanana, kapena mosiyana zimasiyana.

Choyamba, tiyeni tiyang'ane pazigawo za chikondi. Gawo loyamba ndilo, chikondi. Gawo ili palokha lingagawidwe muzinthu zingapo, molondola kwambiri ndi pang'onopang'ono, koma izi siziri zofunikira kwenikweni. Ndikofunikira kudziŵa khalidwe lomweli pa sitejiyi, yomwe imadziwikiratu pafupifupi anthu onse omwe adayamba kugwidwa ndi chikondi, chifukwa ndi gawo ili aliyense amachitira. Izi ndizo nthawi ya malingaliro okwezeka, chilakolako ndi chidwi. Simukuganiziranso zolakwitsa za mnzanu, yang'anani chirichonse mwa magalasi obiriwira ndi chophimba cha maximalism ndi malingaliro. Iyi ndi nthawi yokonda kwambiri komanso yosangalatsa pamene thupi lathu limapanga mahomoni omwe amachititsa mtima wathu kugunda mofulumira, kumwetulira kwambiri ndi kusangalala. Ino ndi nthawi yomwe anthu sakudziwa mavuto ndi moyo. Gawoli ndi lalifupi koma lofunika.

Gawo lachiwiri ndi nthawi yomwe mikangano, mbali zoipa, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku wayamba kudziwonetsera okha. Zowonongeka kwambiri ndi zovuta za magawo onse, chifukwa pakali pano banjali liri ndi mayesero enieni achikondi. Choncho, othandizira, onetsetsani ngati akugwirizanadi panthawi ino. Kotero kuti tilankhule, chirichonse chimadziwonetsera pamene pakubwera chisoni ndi moyo, koma osati kukhudzika ndi kusangalatsa. Ngati banjali likumana ndi zochitika ndikudutsa pamtunda uwu, lachitatu limabwera - kugwirizana kwathunthu kwa moyo ndi chikondi. Tsopano hormoni ikuyamba kukula, osati chikondi ndi chilakolako, koma chikondi ndi chikondi. Mabanjawa amadzimva okha, amathandizana, amawathandiza komanso amamvetsa. Kumabwera chiyanjano ndipo chimene chingatchulidwe kwenikweni chikondi. Anthu amazindikira ndikukondana kwathunthu, ndi zizoloŵezi zonse ndi zovuta, kuphunzira ndi kukondana wina ndi mzake, kukonzekera pamodzi tsogolo ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yeniyeni. Amayang'ana mbali imodzi, ndikudutsa mu moyo, kugwira manja, pafupi ndi cholinga chawo. Iyi ndi siteji yotsiriza ya chikondi.

Ngati inu mumachita magawo a chidani, ndiye pali mitundu iwiri ya magawo - udani pambuyo pa chikondi, kapena omwe amabwera mwamsanga pambuyo podziwa. Ngati mumadziwa magawo onse, ndiye kuti oyamba a iwo adzakhala okwiya kapena oipa. Mumamva wokwiya mukamawona kapena kumumva munthu uyu, mumakhala ndi mantha mukamachita naye ndipo zonsezi ndi zosasangalatsa kwambiri kwa inu. Mumachepetsa kukhudzana ndi iye komanso mavuto onse okhudzana ndi munthu uyu amayamba kukhala okha, ndipo amayamba kuwonjezereka, kuwonjezeka kwambiri ...

Gawo lachiwiri ndi pamene kuwira kukufika pamapeto, ndipo mukuyamba kumverera kuti mumadana ndi munthu uyu, ndipo nokha muzindikire izi. Koma ndibwino kuti tizindikire kuti magawo a chidani, mosiyana ndi magawo a chikondi, ali osiyana kwambiri ndi olakwika, popeza chidani ndikumverera kwa munthu aliyense, ndipo magawo ake amasiyana kuchokera ku zifukwa ndi mtundu wa chiyanjano chimene chinayamba chidani, munthu mwiniyo, zochitika. Mungadane ndi munthu yemwe mudamukonda, koma mudakhumudwa ndi iye, mumamva mosiyana, ndipo anayamba kukukhumudwitsani, ndipo patapita nthawi, makangano akuluakulu adayamba. Komanso, udani ukhoza kubwera kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi mlandu pamaso panu, kapena chinachake chakukhumudwitsani, chosintha kapena chakulepheretsani inu. Udani ukhoza kukhazikitsidwa kuchokera pa kubadwa, mwachitsanzo, pamene pali anthu oipa kapena mabanja, kotero ife sitingakhoze nthawizonse kukambirana za chidani monga kumverera komwe kumafika pa magawo.

Sikuti anthu onse ali ndi njira zowona chikondi chenicheni, monga chidani, kupyola muyeso yawo yonse. Kuti mudziwe chikondi kwa munthu wina, muyenera kudzidziwa nokha, kudziyesa nokha ndikuyesera kudziwa munthu wina, kuphunzira chikondi, monga luso. Timaphunzira luso limeneli kuyambira tili ana, pamene timavomereza chikondi cha makolo ndikukumana ndi mnyamata kapena mtsikana ali mwana. Chikondi, mosiyana ndi chidani, ndi chokongola, ndipo ndi luso lapamwamba lochita ndi munthu. Malingaliro a psychology, mukhoza kuwonjezera magawo a chikondi, kupatsidwa momwe timaphunzirira kumvetsetsa, timadwala ndikugonjetsedwa. Sichimangoyamba kuchokera pang'onopang'ono, kapena mwadzidzidzi kwinakwake kumawonekera - zimatengera nthawi kudutsa muzigawo zina ndipo, motero, zimapindula mosalekeza pamoyo wa anthu awiri, kuwapatsa chimwemwe, bata, mphamvu ndi chithandizo.