Mkazi aliyense weniweni, kaya ali ndi zaka khumi kapena makumi asanu ndi anayi, ali ndi zinsinsi zake zazing'ono zazikazi. Amayi ambiri amadzifunsa mafunso omwewo tsiku ndi tsiku: momwe angakonde wokondedwa wanu? Kodi mungakwatire bwanji wosakwatiwa ndipo simukulakwitsa?
Zinsinsi zogwirizanitsa maubwenzi, maganizo a banja komanso mayankho a mafunso okalamba a amayi - izi ndi zomwe zingathandize mkazi aliyense kuti adzikhulupirire yekha ndi maluso ake, kumvetsetsa bwino anthu omwe sali amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chimodzi mwa zinsinsi zazikulu za "amai" ndi chakuti amuna amakonda atsikana okha omwe amadzikonda okha.
Mapulogalamu a pa televizioni, malemba ambiri ophwanyika komanso mabuku akuluakulu pa psychology ali ndi mutu wakuti: "Kumene mungapeze chimwemwe?", "Mungatani kuti banja likhale losangalala ?". Pofunafuna chimwemwe, munthu sayenera kuiwala kuti wina akusowa denga pamutu pake ndi dzuwa kumwambako kuti amve chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo, ndipo wina akufuna kuti maloto akwaniritsidwe mu ntchito yowonekera, kuchuluka kwa ndalama, zodzikongoletsera ndi zinthu zina. Monga munthu wanzeru kwambiri adanena, ngati mukufuna kukhala osangalala - zikhale! Sitampu mu pasipoti sizowonjezereka kwachisoni, chisoni ndi kusakhutira mu moyo. Amayi ambiri amanena kuti, "Ndikufuna kukwatira," ndikukhulupirira kuti mwamuna wokhulupirika komanso chikondi chake chachikulu, adzawapatsa moyo wabwino wautali. Kuti mukhale osangalala, komanso chikondi, nkofunika kulimbana. Kumene kuli chisangalalo, pali chikondi, chimaganizira amayi ambiri amakono, kuyembekezera choyamba pa nkhaniyi kuyambira theka lawo lachiwiri. Koma ngati simungathe kudzipatsa nokha chimwemwe, musamangokondweretsa munthu wokondeka wanu, ndipo maloto onse omwe akuyembekezeredwa kwa banja angakhalepo maloto chabe. Yankho lolondola kwambiri pafunsoli: "Ali kuti chimwemwe?" Akuwerenga motere: "Chimwemwe chiri mkati mwathu."
Ndimakonda nthabwala. Mwana wamkazi amabwera kunyumba m'mawa. Mayi wokwiya amamufunsa kuti ndi usiku uti? Ndipo akuyankha mosamala kuti: "Kodi mukukumbukira, amayi, munandiwuza kuti njira ya kumtima ya munthu imakhala m'mimba mwake? Kotero, ine ndinapeza njira yayifupi. "
Ena amakhulupirira kuti mwa chikondi, monga mu nkhondo, njira zonse ndi zabwino. Mwinamwake, izi siziri choncho. Chikondi sichidziwa maunyolo. Ndikulankhula za mitundu yonse ya zamatsenga, ziphuphu ndi ena alchimy otherworld. Kungakhale kupusa kunena kuti sikugwira ntchito. Ndinawerenga makalata ambiri ochokera kwa amayi omwe anali olapa, omwe nthawi ina ankapita kukachita nawo maulesi kapena opanga. Pamapeto pake, palibe amai omwe analemba chikondi sali okondwa. Patapita nthawi, moyo wawo unasanduka gehena.
Kodi izi zikutsogolera chiani? Mwinamwake, choyamba, tiyenera kukhulupirira mwa ife tokha, mu mphamvu zathu, zokopa zathu ndi umunthu wathu. Ndipo chozizwitsa chidzachitika! Chifukwa moyo ndi mphamvu zozizwitsa zogwirizana, ngakhale nthawi zina sizikugwirizana ndi malingaliro a anthu.
Dmitry Krivitsky