Chimwemwe ndi malingaliro okongola kwambiri omwe munthu angathe kuwona. Komabe, zingakhale zoopsa kwa ena? Kawirikawiri, mawu oti "chimwemwe" amatanthauzanji?
Ngozi ya Chimwemwe cha Akazi
Ndipotu, si aliyense amene angathe kufotokozera kuopsa kwa chisangalalo cha amai. Ndipotu, pokhapokha, ngati mkazi ali wokondwa, nthawi zonse amakhala wokondwa, amawoneka bwino ndipo amamva bwino. Ndiye ndi chiyani chomwe chingakhale chowopsya chachikazi chakazi, ngati chimabweretsa chisangalalo chokha? Ndipotu, chisangalalo cha amai, choyamba, chingakhale choopsa kwa amuna, chifukwa kuti mupange wokondwa wanu, muyenera kuyesetsa mwakhama. Atsikana samvetsa nthawi zonse kuti ndizovuta kwa amuna. Ngakhale ntchito zazing'ono, zopangidwa zokha zokondweretsa wokondedwa, koma sizibweretsa chimwemwe chochuluka kwa achinyamatawo, ndipo pamapeto pake zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Choncho, chilakolako cha mkaziyo kuti apange munthu pafupi kwambiri ndi choyenera ndi choopsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati wachinyamata ali chete mu moyo, koma akuyesera kukhala moyo wa kampani kwa mtsikana, pamapeto pake amasiya kuzindikira kuti amayesetsa kukwaniritsa zofunikira zake. Pamapeto pake, ngati mnyamata, kwa mphindi imodzi, amatsitsimutsa ndi kukhala chomwe iye ali, msungwana angayambe kukwiya ndi kuzindikira kuti khalidwe lake limangokhala ngati akunyozedwa, akuiwala kuti kulimbikitsa mkazi wake kumakhala kotani. Ndipo izi ndi zoopsa kwambiri pa ubalewu, chifukwa mkazi amagwiritsa ntchito bwino zomwe analenga ndi ntchito yosatsutsika ndipo safuna kuvomereza munthu monga momwe aliri. Ndichifukwa chake, chisangalalo cha mkazi, chimene munthu apindula, kudzipunthwitsa yekha, pamapeto pake chingathe kuwononga chiyanjanocho. Mofananamo, osati chimwemwe chenichenicho, koma kulibe.
Zinthu zakuthupi
Komanso, chisangalalo cha amai chikhoza kutanthawuza komanso kulandira chisangalalo kuchokera ku chuma. Ndipo izi ndizoopsa, potsata ubale, komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino wachinyamata. Ngakhale iwo akunena kuti "iwe sungakhoze kugula chisangalalo cha ndalama", pali amayi ambiri amakono omwe amawona kwenikweni chisangalalo mu zokongoletsera zokwera ndi zinthu zodziwika. Amayi awa akhoza kukhala okondwa kokha pa vuto limodzilo, ngati muli ndi mwayi wodabwitsa wokwaniritsa zosowa zawo panthawi yoyamba. Inde, munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha mkazi yemwe angasankhe ndi momwe angamukondweretse, koma ubale wokhudzana ndi ubwino wa amayi nthawi zambiri umatha pamene mnyamata sangathe kapena sakufuna kupereka msungwana wachimwemwe pogwiritsa ntchito mitengo yamtengo wapatali ndi madiresi apamwamba .
Ngozi ya Chimwemwe cha Akazi Akazi
Mwa njira, ngati tikulankhula za ngozi ya chisangalalo cha amai, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kukumbukira za amayi omwe. Kodi ndi chimwemwe chotani chomwe chingasokoneze iwo? Ndipotu chisangalalo cha amayi chimachepetsanso kukhala maso. Pokhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokhazikika, asungwana amamasuka ndikusiya kuyang'ana mokwanira zomwe zikuchitika kuzungulira. Inde, kukondwa ndi kusangalala ndi zabwino kwambiri. Komabe, mwatsoka, moyo wathu sungakhale wosangalatsa monga momwe tikufunira. Choncho, zonse zikhoza kuchitika ndipo chimwemwe chidzatha. Ndiye mayiyo, yemwe anali wokondwa kwa nthawi yayitali komanso osasunthika, adzakumana ndi mavuto aakulu kwambiri kwa iye. Iye, wozoloŵera kuti chirichonse chili chabwino ndi kusamalidwa, akhoza kutaya chilakolako ndipo amatha kuyesa mchitidwewo mofulumira, mwamsanga ayang'ane njira zothetsera mavuto ndipo asamaope kusintha chinachake. Chimwemwe chimatipanga ife tizilombo tochepa. Ndicho chifukwa chake akazi sayenera kuloledwa kupumula ndi kuperekedwa kwathunthu kuchisangalalo cha chimwemwe. Mwachibadwa, palibe amene akunena kuti muyenera kukhala wokwiya nthawi zonse komanso wokwiya. Mwachidule, ngakhale kukhala osangalala, nkofunika, monga akunena, "khalani omasuka".
Choncho, tinganene kuti chilichonse chimene tikufuna, chisangalalo chachikazi chonse sichili chabwino komanso choipa. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndibwino, pamene madontho okhumudwa amamveka ku zakumwa zabwino, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muzisunga bwino.