M'nkhani ino, sizingakhale za mantha zomwe zimaphatikizapo kutulutsidwa kwa adrenaline m'magazi ndikupangitsa mtima kugunda kawirikawiri. Ndizo zokhudza complexes ndi phobias, zomwe, ndithudi, munthu aliyense angakane. Komabe, iwo ali mwa onse oimira amuna. Kotero, amuna akuwopa ...
1. Kutaya ufulu. Komabe kuchokera ku mabuku a mbiriyakale wina amatha kuzindikira kuti ufulu ndi chinthu chifukwa cha nkhondo ndi mikangano zomwe zimayambira. Ngati anthu amakondana kwambiri, maubwenzi akuluakulu pakati pawo sangawonedwe ngati kutayika ufulu. Amuna ndi akazi, izi zikugwira ntchito.
Izi zimachokera ku kutanthauzira molakwika mau oti "ufulu". Choncho, kuti tithetse manthawa, ndikwanira kuganiziranso za ufulu. Muyenera kuganiza mozama komanso kumvetsetsa kuti ngati wina akufuna kupita, ndiye kuti achoka, ndipo palibe amene angamupatse. Ndipo mofulumira mwamunayo ndiye, zidzakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi ubale wokhalitsa.
2. Kusonyeza malingaliro. Ambiri dameznayut osati kumvetsera kokha, komanso kuyang'anitsitsa zochitika zawo - pafupifupi anthu onse samaonetsa kawirikawiri mmene amamvera (chisamaliro, chikondi, chifundo) pagulu. Inde, osati nthawi zonse yokha ndi wokondedwa munthu akhoza kufotokoza chirichonse ndikupitiriza kusewera mopanda chifundo.
Kaŵirikaŵiri izi zimachokera kukuti munthu sakufuna kuoneka ngati wofewa, wolemekezeka, wofooketsa ndi zina zotero. Zonsezi zidawuziridwa ndi amayi. Inde, ife, asungwana, tinapanga amuna kuchokera mwa amuna omwe sangathe kuwonetsa maganizo awo.
Nthawi zina kuopa kusonyeza maganizo kumabwera chifukwa chodzikayikira. Zinthu izi ndizovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa choyamba ndikofunika kuchotsa ma complexes, osamvetsera maganizo a wina. Ngati wina akuganiza kuti ali ndi mtima wofewa kapena wothandizidwa, ndiye lolani kuti akhale malingaliro awo, ndipo muyenera kukhala pamwamba pake. Pamapeto pake, ziri kwa inu kusankha momwe mungagwirire ndi chibwenzi chanu komanso momwe mungasonyezere kumverera kwanu.
3. Osatchulidwa. Chofunikanso pano chikutanthauza chikhalidwe cha anthu chomwe sichidodometsedwa ndi munthu (ntchito yosagwira ntchito, ndalama zochepa komanso zochepa). Nthawi zambiri, mantha oterowo amachokera kukuti munthu wasankha yekha kukhala wapadera kwambiri, sali wophunzira mokwanira kapena akufuna kuti agwire ntchito.
Kulimbana ndi vutoli kuli kovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa imafuna mphamvu ndipo idzakwaniritsa chinachake. Ngati munthu akufuna-adzalandira mipata, njira ndi zina zotero. Monga akunena - mapiri adzatembenuka.
4. Kupanda mphamvu. Izi ndizovuta kwambiri kwa munthu. Mawu amodzi okha akhoza kuwopsya iwo. Kwa amuna, ndizoopsa kwambiri kukhala opanda mphamvu kuposa kufa kapena kutaya miyendo. Zochita zoterezi zingakhale zomveka. Pambuyo pake, ndi matenda otero munthu sangathe kukwaniritsa udindo wake wapadera. Nthawi zina mantha amenewa amayamba kukula chifukwa cha mphindi imodzi yovuta kwambiri. Koma nthawi zambiri zimagwirizana ndi kuopa zaka. Ndipotu, kusowa mphamvu kumabwera chifukwa cha ukalamba wa zamoyo.
Kuchotsa phobia ichi n'kovuta, koma n'zotheka. Koma kachiwiri, izi n'zotheka ngati mwamunayo mwiniyo atsimikiza kuchita zimenezo. Choyamba, muyenera kusiya makhalidwe oipa ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi. Chachiwiri, muyenera kuyesetsa kupewa nkhawa. Atsogoleredwe ndi kusimidwa kwa chimfine mu zovuta, amuna okondedwa, ndiyeno zonse zidzakhala bwino. Pazovuta kwambiri, mukhoza kudziletsa komanso kuti mankhwala sakuyenera, ndipo ngakhale matenda oopsya ngati operewera angathe kuchiritsidwa.
5. ukalamba. Monga mukuonera, asungwana okondedwa, sikuti tikuopa kuti tidzakalamba. Cholondola, amuna sali oopa kwambiri izi, koma osati onse omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana amatha kulekerera kuti izi zitha kupezeka m'magazi ozizira. Ndipotu, ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe amasangalala kuona thupi lopanda mimba ndi lopumphuka kuchokera kusamba. Kapena, kuvala mathalauza omwe mumawakonda kuti apeze kuti sakugwirizana nawo. Koma kuchepa kwa ukalamba sikukondweretsanso.
Kawirikawiri, mantha a ukalamba amadza chifukwa chozindikira kuti izi sizingapewe. Tonsefe timakhala osangalala tikamadziwa kuti zonse zimakhala zovuta. Ndipo pamene chinachake chikutuluka pansi pa icho, ndiye ife timayamba kudandaula.
6. Kuipa. Amuna enieni amayesa nthawi zonse pewani thandizo lililonse kuchokera kunja. Kupatulapo ndi mphamvu majeure. Palinso zosankha pakati pa theka lachimuna, ndipo ena akulandira mosangalala thandizo lililonse kwa onse. Koma izi zimachitika kawirikawiri. Monga lamulo, lingaliro la kutambasula dzanja likuwachititsa kuwopsya pang'ono pakhungu.
Nthawi zambiri, zomwe zimayambitsa mantha ndizopanda malipiro a malipiro kapena kukhalapo pamphepete mwa bankruptcy.
Kuti muchotse mantha awa, muyenera kuyesa kuyembekezera zochitika zomwe zimakhudza mkhalidwe wanu, ndikuwonanso ndi kuwerengera mapazi anu, kupewa zinthu zovuta, kudzipatsanso nokha, ndi zina zotero.
7. Kutonza. Amuna sakonda kuseka. Kusiyanitsa kumangokhala njira zokha, pamene iwowo akufuna. Izi zimachokera ku kusinthana kwa malingaliro, kutsutsa mfundo zomwe ine sindiri kutsimikiza, pandekha, ndi zina zotero.
Pofuna kupewa zochitika zoterezi, muyenera kulankhula mochepa, kumvetsera zambiri, osagwirizana popanda kungokhulupirira kapena pa nkhani zomwe sizikudziwika bwino. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musapereke "pakhosi" kwa anthu ena ndipo ambiri samatero.
8. Kusungulumwa . Onse akuopa izi. Ndipo zilizonse zomwe mabakiteriya amatha kunena poyera, amakhalabe akukhalabe okha moyo wawo wonse. Amuna amafunikira chisamaliro.
Pali mantha a kusungulumwa chifukwa cha kudzichepetsa kwachilengedwe, kusakhoza kulankhula ndi theka lokongola ndi zovuta zina. Ndipo ngati mkazi samatenga nkhani m'manja mwake, ndiye kuti mwinamwake mwamuna adzakhala yekha.
Kuti mugonjetse mantha awa, muyenera kutsimikiziridwa ndikupeza chinthu chokumvera chisoni. Kenaka, muyenera kumanga ubale ndi iye ndikukhala moyo wautali komanso wosangalala. Ndipotu, zonse ndi zophweka, ngati mumagonjetsa mantha anu.
Potsiriza ine ndikufuna kuwonjezera nthawi zambiri mantha onse ndi mavuto omwe timabwere nawo. Chifukwa chake, simukusowa kukakamiza zinthu, koma khalani mosangalala, chikondi ndi kuiwala okondedwa anu.