Mayi wolemera ndi wosauka

Kodi nkhani yamatsenga ya Cinderella ingakwaniritsidwe m'nthawi yathu ino? Kodi n'zotheka kuti msungwana yemwe alibe udindo wapamwamba, wopanda makolo olemera, osakhala, mwachitsanzo, chitsanzo, kukakumana ndi kalonga wokongola pa kavalo woyera? Osati kukomana kokha, koma kuti akhale mfumukazi yake. Tsopano akalonga okha, motero, amanena kuti ambiri a iwo amatengera kwa akazi awo kapena akufuna kutenga mtsikana wa mtundu uwu, monga Cinderella. Ndipo iyi si nthano chabe. Inde, sikuti anthu onse olemera amaganiza choncho, koma akadalidi zoona. Amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi atsikana ndi amayi osavuta kuti chiyero ichi ndi kuwona mtima mu ubale ndi moyo wawo wonse zinsinsi. Iwo sagwidwa ndi ndalama zambiri ndi kusamalidwa, amayamikira banja lawo ndi kukonda mwamuna wawo, osati ndalama zake. Ndipotu, mtsikana wochokera ku banja lolemera amaleredwa kukhala wokhulupirika, wokhulupirika, wachikondi, wosakhudzidwa, wanzeru ndi wopatsa, komanso osakwatira mkazi. Mkazi woteroyo adzathokoza wokondedwa wake chifukwa chakuti wapangitsa moyo wake kukhala nthano, ndipo sudzayambitsa wokonda, ngati atsikana owonongeka ku bwalo lake. Ndipo kwa atsikana-majors ali ndi makhalidwe monga chinyengo, chinyengo, kuphatikiza, kusayera, kudzikonda, ndi zina zotero. Pa nthawi yomweyi, onse, pokhala ndi makolo osauka, aganizire amuna olemera kuti akhale "matumba agolide". Kodi n'zotheka kuti munthu wolemera ndi mkazi wosawuka akumane ndi kukwatira?

Inde, inde! N'chifukwa chiyani amuna olemera safunanso chidwi ndi atsikana okongola? Yankho ndi lophweka. Akazi oterewa sadziwa kudikira. Iwo adzika chidaliro kuti pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba ayenera kupereka mphatso, osati zophweka komanso zosakwera. Pang'onopang'ono atembenuka kukhala msaki, amawopseza amuna, chifukwa amamva kuti akuwombedwa ngati chofunkha, chofunikirako chofuna kudzikonda. Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, chinthu chachikulu pakati pa banja chiyenera kukhala mwamuna, makamaka ngati ali ndi udindo wapamwamba. Kuchokera pazifukwa izi, amuna oterewa adzisankha okha, omwe adzakhale nawo, komanso omwe sangakhale nawo ndi chiweto chotere, mwamuna sangakonde kupitiriza chiyanjano. Koma, kuti akhale ndi iye anali mkazi wokongola, wosavuta, ndi nkhani ina. Muzochitika zotero iye adzalamulira ndi kupanga zosankha. Adzakhala munthu wokondedwa ndi wachikondi. Ngakhale, ngakhale, sikuti anthu onse olemera ali ndi lingaliro loterolo. Ndipotu, msungwana wodzichepetsa adzasankha yekha mabizinesi wamkulu, kutali ndi moyo wa anthu onse, yemwe adakwanitsa zonse, ndipo alibe chidwi ndi "mazhorki." Koma "ambuye" omwewo ali ndi nzeru zochepa, pali kusowa kwa msungwana kuchokera pachivundikiro, komwe angapite ku magulu ndi maphwando kotero kuti akhoza kudzitamandira ndi kuonjezera kudzidalira kwake pamaso pa anthu ambiri ozungulira.

Ambiri olemera ndi amuna ogwiriridwa akuyang'ana mkazi kuti asawonongeke, yemwe "amakhala" m'malesitilanti, mkazi wophweka amene angathe kukonda moona mtima. Kusakonda chikondi cha chikwama cha mafuta, osati chifukwa cha mwayi umene wosankhidwayo angamupatse, osati kwa odziwa nawo komanso kugwirizana kwake, koma chifukwa chake. Chifukwa chakuti amamukonda, amayamikira, amamukumbatira ndi kumpsompsona, chifukwa chakuya kwa maso ake ndi kumwetulira. Mafashoni kwa "atsikana a chitsanzo" akuwotopetsa kale. Ndipotu, palibe zovala ndi zodzikongoletsera zomwe zimatha kukongoletsa moyo ndi malingaliro ake. Ndipo amunawa akufuna kuti pambali pawo pali imodzi yomwe ingathe kuthandizira kukambirana ndi zomwe mungakhale monga inu, popanda masks ndi tizilombo toyambitsa matenda. Ndipo atsikana ochokera ku mabanja olemera amakhala ndi chilolezo chololedwa, samvetsa mbali yeniyeni ya ukwati ndi maubwenzi. Sindimvetsetsa kuti kukhala "wokwatira" kumatanthauza kukhala "kwa mwamuna"! Amuna ogwira ntchito muzamalonda amafuna akazi odzichepetsa ndi anzeru omwe angakhale mabwenzi, osati kuwayang'ana, koma mofanana ndi iwo.

Ukwati wa mwamuna wolemera ndi mkazi wosauka n'zotheka. Ndizowona kuti nthawi zambiri sakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira kupeza zomwe akulota. Inde, ndithudi, misonkhano yoteroyo siidakwaniritsidwe ndi zochitika, koma mwachizolowezi. Zitha kuchitika pamene simukuziyembekezera. Mwachitsanzo, mu kanyumba kakang'ono, pamsewu, mu ofesi kapena kuchipatala. Kawirikawiri, izi zingachitike kulikonse.

Koma mgwirizano waukwati wotere uli ndi vuto limodzi - ichi ndi kusagwirizana kwaukwati. Pambuyo pa zonse, munthu yemwe anafunafuna yekha, adziwonetsa kuti ayenera kuyendetsa chirichonse, kulamulira ndikulamulira chirichonse. Izi angathe kuzibweretsa ku banja. Kuti izi zisadzachitike, akatswiri a maganizo amavomereza kuti maubwenzi oterewa amangidwe pamtunda wofanana. Pangani mgwirizano wa anthu ofanana. Simuyenera kukhala wamanyazi potsutsa malingaliro anu, ndipo muyenera kuchita izi mofatsa komanso mosagwirizana. Pambuyo pake, amuna oterewa amakhala osiyana, ndipo safuna kuvomereza zotsutsana ndi wina aliyense. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti pazochitika zoterezi, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mfundo iyi yomanga mawu anu, pamene mtsutso wanu umayamba ndi mawu akuti "I", koma osati "inu." Pankhaniyi, mumalankhula za momwe mumamvera, osati kusintha mavuto anu pamapewa a mnzanuyo. Simungakhoze kuyembekezera nthawi yomwe zokhumudwitsa zanu kapena zosakhutira zanu zidzasungunula mkati mwanu ndikufikira malo otentha. Yesetsani kuyankhula za iwo ndi wokondedwa wanu pamene akuwonekera.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti ngati mukufuna kupanga ubale wolimba ndi munthu wolemera, ndiye kuti muyenera kukula ngati munthu. Munthu wamalonda wanzeru ndi wopambana sasowa chidole kuti ayambe kuyang'ana mkati. Mukuyenera kudzichita nokha, kupeza maphunziro abwino, kudziwa zomwe zikuchitika m'dziko ndi dziko lapansi, khalani ndi chidwi ndi zofuna za osankhidwa anu.

Mnyamata wolemera ndi mtsikana wosauka angathenso kusudzulana. Ndipo nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti mkazi atatha kusudzulana amakhala wopanda njira yokhala ndi moyo. Chifukwa chake, amayi okondeka, muyenera kukhala ndi moyo komanso osadalira mwamuna wanu. Muyenera kukhala ndi chidaliro m'tsogolomu, kuti mudzatha kudyetsa nokha ndi kuvala, ngati choncho.