Choncho, kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chake mnyamata samakonda amayi ake, muyenera kumvetsa zolinga zake. Kungodziwa zifukwa zosakondwera, mukhoza kusankha chinachake ndi kuchita, ngati munthu akukonzekeretsani m'zinthu zonse, muyenera kumenyana kuti mayi ake avomereze. Inde, simungathe kuchita chilichonse ndipo mumangonyalanyaza mayiyo, koma izi zidzangowonjezera vutoli. Kumbukirani kuti amayi alionse ndi ofunika kwambiri ndi chimwemwe cha mwana wawo. Mwinamwake munthuyo samamukonda iye chifukwa chakuti iye samamuwona iye ngati mwamuna wodalirika. Mbadwo wokalamba nthawi zambiri samawakonda achinyamata amakono, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti achinyamata sangakwanitse kuchita chilichonse ndikupanga banja lokhazikika.
Inde, ichi si chifukwa chokha. Choncho, kuti mudziwe zoyenera kuchita ngati anyamata sakonda amayi anu, yesani kukhala pansi ndi kumacheza naye momasuka za vutoli. Kumbukirani kuti munthu uyu ndi wamkulu komanso wanzeru kuposa inu. Kotero, mwinamwake iye ali wolondola. Kawirikawiri, pamene timakonda, timayesa kulingalira zolakalaka zathu, ndipo sitidziwa zolephera zake zambiri. Pamene wina amamuyang'ana panja, amangoona zambiri ndikuyesera kutichenjeza ku zolakwa ndi zolakwika. Choncho, ngati mwamuna sakonda amayi anu, komanso anthu ena apamtima, adzalingalira za mawu ake. Mwinamwake, kwa iye sikunenedwa ndi nsanje ya amayi, koma mwa nzeru, zomwe sizikwanira kwa inu tsopano. Choncho yesetsani kulingalira momveka bwino ndikuyesera kumvetsa chifukwa chake Amayi akunena mwanjira imeneyi. Mwina mungavomereze naye ndipo muganizirenso za ubale ndi chibwenzi chanu.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti amayi anga adakali olakwika, yesetsani kumutsimikizira. Musangothetse mavuto mwa kuthandizana ndi kufuula ndi zopweteka. Kumbukirani kuti kwa mayi iwe akadali mwana. Ndipo, popanda kupereka zifukwa, mwanayo akuyamba kunyengerera, amayi ake amadziwanso kuti sakukula, choncho sangathe kupanga zisankho zabwino. Zotsatira zake ndi chikhumbo cha mayi kuti asankhe chilichonse, chifukwa ndi wanzeru komanso wamkulu.
Kotero, mmalo mobwerezabwereza ngati parrot kuti chibwenzi chanu ndi chabwino kwambiri, ndipo iye samvetsa chirichonse, fufuzani chomwe kwenikweni sichimafanana ndi amayi anu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati amakhulupirira kuti mnyamatayo sakufuna kukwanitsa kuchita chilichonse, ndiye kuti amuwonetsetse kuti maganizo amenewa ndi olakwika. Kuti muchite izi, auzeni amayi anu za zomwe mwana wanu apindula mu maphunziro ndi ntchito, zolinga zake, komanso chofunika kwambiri, kukhazikitsa kwawo. Muloleni iye amvetse zomwe mnyamata akufuna ndikuzikhala ndi moyo ndi wina, ndipo simudzasowa konse.
Ngati amayi sakonda maonekedwe a mnyamatayo (mwachitsanzo, iye ndi woimira chikhalidwe chilichonse), mum'fotokozere momveka bwino kuti chovalacho sichimakhudza maganizo ake komanso chitukuko chake. Ngati mayiyo amvetsetsa kuti, ngakhale kuti mnyamata wanu akuyesedwa, amagwira ntchito ziwiri ndipo amalandira zizindikiro zabwino kwambiri ku yunivesite, maganizo ake adzasintha kwambiri.
Kuwonjezera apo, mnyamata ayenera atha kukondweretsa makolo ake. Inde, musamukakamize munthuyo kuti ayende pa chingwe ndikuchita mwanjira yake. Komabe, pamene ali mu bwalo la banja lanu, muloleni akhale ndi chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe. Ngati mnyamata nthawi ndi nthawi amabwera ndi maluwa kwa mayi ake ndi botolo la njoka yam'kamwa kwa bambo ake, posachedwa makolo amadziwa zizindikiro zake za chidwi.
Komanso mayi anga ayenera kuona kuti munthuyo amakulemekezani komanso akutetezani. Choncho, yesetsani kuchita zinthu mndandanda wa banja lanu ngati mwamuna weniweni. Mwa njira, ndi zabwino, ngati kwa iye ndi khalidwe lachizolowezi, chifukwa pa nkhani ya masewero kwa makolo, mukufunikabe kuganizira ngati amayi ali olakwika monga momwe mukuganizira.
Kuonjezera apo, siziyenera kukonzedwa ndi makolo kuti afotokoze mgwirizano. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti, poyamba, mawu onse opanda pake, amayi amadziona ngati akunyoza. Inde, kumbali imodzi, amamvetsetsa kuti mu ubale wonse, zinthu sizili bwino nthawi zonse. Koma, komano, makamaka ndi mayi yemwe sangalole kuti mlendoyo asakhumudwitse obadwa komanso wokondedwa kwambiri kukhala - inu. Choncho yesetsani kudzipereka kwa amayi anu pazitsutsana zanu ndi mnyamata. Kumbukirani kuti mawu alionse oipa omwe akulankhulidwa, amatha kuwoloka khumi ndi awiri abwino. Mukamalongosola kuti mnyamata wanu ndi woipa bwanji, amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi ufulu.
Musaiwale kuti tikakhumudwitsidwa, timakonda kuchita zambiri. Choncho, zomwe mumauza amayi anu, zingawoneke bwino kuchokera m'mawu anu kuposa momwe zilili.
Musagwiritse ntchito nsalu zodetsedwa m'nyumba zanu ndikuzibalalitsa kwa abwenzi ndi abambo. Inde, mukakhumudwa, mukufuna kufotokozera ululu wanu. Koma kanthawi kochepa mumakhala chete ndikuiwala zomwe zinachitika, koma makolo anu amakumbukira chilichonse ndikuyamba kuchitira mwana wanu nkhawa zambiri. Ndipo izi siziri zolakwa zawo monga zanu. Choncho, yesetsani kudziletsa nokha, kambiranani za mnyamata wabwino, koma musagwedeze ndodoyo. A. Chofunika kwambiri, kumbukirani kuti ngakhale mayiyo sali wolondola, akadali amayi omwe amachita zonse chifukwa amakukondani koposa moyo.