Mimba ndi imodzi mwa nthawi zabwino kwambiri pa moyo wa mkazi. Koma ngakhale apa pali "ntchentche mu mafuta": nthawizina mayi wamtsogolo amayamba kugonjetsa malingaliro a kukana kotheka kwa wokondedwa.
Tiyeni tiyesere kuyankha mafunso ofunika kwambiri: kodi ndizotheka komanso kuti "malo okondweretsa" azikhala okongola kwa wokondedwa ndi momwe kusintha kwa moyo kumakhudzira ukwati?
Monga lamulo, kusintha pa nthawi yomwe ali ndi mimba ndiwopedwa makamaka ndi amayi akuyembekeza mwana woyamba. Kuopa kwawo ndi chifukwa chakuti banja lachichepere liri pachikhalidwe chawo, ndipo ndi kovuta kufotokoza momwe mwamuna amachitira zinthu pazeng'onong'ono zapakati pa kugonana. Pambuyo pake, usanalowe ubalewu, banjali silinadziwe zolepheretsa - iwo anali odzipereka kwa wina ndi mzake. Komanso, mayi wodwala nthawi zambiri amayamba kuda nkhaŵa, kuyang'ana momwe chiwerengero chake chikusiya kugwirizana ndi miyezo yoyenera tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwatsoka, vuto lachinyengo pa nthawi ya mimba liripo. Poyamba, zikhoza kuwoneka kuti chifukwa chake ndi chakuti mwamuna alibe zokwanira zogonana zisanachitike. Koma yankho lotero ndilo nsonga yachinyumba ...
ZINTHU ZOFUNIKA KUSINTHA
Ngakhale kuti maanja ambiri sagwirizana ndi kupitiriza kugonana pamene ali ndi mimba, sikutheka kuti okwatirana azidziyerekezera kuti zonse ziri ngati kale. Potsutsana ndi kusintha kwa mahomoni, ntchito yoyamba ya moyo wapamtima ikhoza kuchepa. Ndipo ngati chirichonse chiri chachibadwa ndi mahomoni, ndiye pali vuto la maganizo - mantha ovulaza mwana amene akutukuka. Ndipo mantha awa akhoza kuwonekera mwa onse okondedwa. Kuonjezera apo, mkazi chifukwa cha kulemera kwake amatha kusamuka kwawo ndipo amachepetsa kumasulidwa - ziyeso sizomwezo. Zonsezi zimachitika pang'onopang'ono, ndipo ngakhale pali chikondi chochepa m'banja, mu kuya kwa moyo wa mkazi, kukayikira kumachitika: kodi kugonana kumakhala koyenera kwa mwamuna, kodi akufuna kukhala ndi thupi labwino kwambiri komanso lopambana kuposa mkazi wokwatiwa ... Chifukwa cha Mantha awa (makamaka opangidwa) a amayi apakati akuyamba kusintha maganizo a maganizo. Pali zokayikitsa, nsanje, ndi ambiri ngakhale amapita "kumenyana", kukonza zachiwawa ndi zoopsa kwa mwamuna wake. Pa zovuta zotero, ngakhale munthu wolimbikira kwambiri adzaganiza mozama za mwayi woti amasulire, monga lamulo, zokayikitsa zopanda pake za mkazi mu moyo.
Palinso chifukwa china chimene chingayambitse kusakhulupirika pamene ali ndi pakati - kusakhutira kukhala ndi ana. Kuti mukhale okalamba muyenera kukhala okhwima - komanso pokhapokha: nkhani yobereka iyenera kuganiziridwa mosamala. Pamene anthu akwatira, ayenera kukambirana mofulumira kuti "tsatanetsatane", monga kupitilira kwa banja. Mwinamwake nkhaniyi inakhudzidwapo, koma pakudutsa: mkaziyu anaganiza kuti zokambiranazo zinali za "ana" mofulumira, ndipo munthuyo - wam'tsogolo wamtsogolo. Ngakhale kuti chikhumbo chofuna kuti abambo akhale ndi ana, kukhazikitsidwa kwa chisankho ndi kuyang'anira mwana kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, chifukwa sichikugula kugula galimoto kapena kugula nsomba, koma ndi gawo loyenera, lofunika kwambiri ndi losasinthika m'moyo. Akazi amakumana ndi vutoli mosavuta, chifukwa chilengedwe palokha chili pambali pawo, kukakamiza kwambiri kukonda mwana wosabadwa kuti mantha alionse angakhale chotchinga. Ndili ndi amuna, zinthu ndi zosiyana ...
YAM'MBUYO YOTSATIRA
Njira yothetsera vuto lililonse imayamba ndi kukambirana momasuka. Popanda kuwona mtima ndi kukhulupilira, bwato la banja limakhala loopsya posachedwa kuti liwonongeke pa miyala yodandaula ndi miyala yodalirika mtsogolomu. Yesetsani kufika pakumvetsetsa kwathunthu mu zokambirana. Funsani mwamuna wanu kawirikawiri m'maganizo kuti alowe m'malo mwanu: ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti tsopano mukusowa kosavuta ndi kuyamikira koposa nthawi ya misonkhano yachikondi. Panopa mumakhala osatetezeka komanso omasuka: ntchito ya wokwatirana ndi kukuthandizani kupirira mwana wathanzi komanso wodekha. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musaiwale kuti popanda thandizo mungapeze zovuta kuyendetsa. Ndi malingaliro omwe ali chikhalidwe cha akazi, thandizani mwamuna wake kumverera ndi kudzizindikira yekha monga mutu weniweni wa banja. Ndipo, ndithudi, yesetsani kukana zonyansa zomwe iye sakukufunirani inu, samalipira mosamala, ndipo ngakhale amayang'ana akazi. Iye, ndithudi, amayesa, koma mwa njira yake, ndipo amakhumudwa kwambiri kuti zoyesayesa zake sizikuyamikiridwa. Apo ayi, mwamunayo amasiya kuyesera, ndipo poipa kwambiri - adzayamba kumvetsera za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
ZITSOPANO ZATSOPANO
Asanayambe kutenga mimba, kufunika kwa moyo wa banja kunali kosiyana - kawirikawiri kugonana. Ndipo tsopano nthawi yafika pamene n'zotheka kulemetsa njira yakale ya moyo. Khalani oyamikira chifukwa cha "kuchepa" kochepa, chifukwa kumalimbikitsa mbali ina yofunikira ya moyo - chikondi cha Plato. Dziwani nthawi iyi yoperewera ngati chinthu china chofunika kwambiri mu ubalewu, kumbukirani kuti muli ndi zofuna zina, kupatula pabedi, ndipo ngati mulibe ambiri, yesetsani kuzipeza. Kugonana mosagwirizana ndi kugonana kumaphatikizapo kuti anthu ayandikana kwambiri ndi wina ndi mzake ndikudzimva okha mbadwa, choncho kuthetsa kugonana kwapakati pa mimba muzu sikulakwa. M'malo mwake, panthawiyi okwatirana amafunika kuthandizana wina ndi mzake nthawi zonse, kuti azikhala osangalala, kuti asawononge ulusi wa chiyanjano chomwe chimawagwirizanitsa. Mayi wam'tsogolo ndi wofunika kukumbukira kuti ngakhale mu "malo okondweretsa," akadakali mkazi. Kusamalira thupi lanu - tsopano likusowa kuposa kale lonse.
THANDIZANI MKAZI WANU
Inde, amakondwera tsiku lililonse ndikukula, komabe samamva zomwe zikuchitika malinga ndi momwe mkaziyo angathere. Ali ndi nthawi yochepa, chifukwa ayenera kugwira ntchito kuti apindule ndi banja. Ngakhale mwamunayo sakulola kuti manja anu apite miyezi isanu ndi iwiri, adakali kutali ndi zomwe mukukumana nazo, chifukwa palibe yemwe akumukakamiza mkati mwake. Kotero, imodzi mwa ntchito zofunika kwambiri kwa mayi wam'mbuyo ndi kukhazikitsa chikondi kwa mwanayo asanakwane mwanayo kuwala. Kukonzekera mwamuna mumayenera pang'onopang'ono komanso mopanda kupanikizika, kuti musakhumudwitse changu chake ... Lankhulani za tsogolo la ana anu. Osati za zomwe mwanayo angakhale, koma za zomwe mungamuchitire. Mwa njira, ngakhale m'mimba mwa mayi, mwanayo amasiyanitsa bwino mawu a achibale. Uzani mwamuna wanu za momwe mwanayo akumvera: ndizosiyana kwambiri - zabwino komanso zoipa. Ikani dzanja la mwamuna wanu m'mimba mwako ndikukhala ngati mkhalapakati pakati pa achibale awiri, powafotokozerana wina ndi mnzake. Inde, chigololo chimachitika panthawi yoyembekezera, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti nkhani yofananayo idzachitika nanu.
Kudikira kukhala mayi ndi nthawi yozizwitsa pamoyo wa mkazi aliyense, ndipo kuwukantha ndi chisangalalo kumangokhala wopusa. Kugonjetsa mavuto onse kwa okwatirana kumathandizira kukhulupirirana ndi chikhumbo chofanana cha tsogolo losangalatsa la banja.