Munthu akakhala wosakhulupirika komanso wamantha, wosawopa, samva bwino, amakumana ndi mavuto alionse polankhulana ndi anthu oyandikana naye, amanenedwa kuti ndi wamanyazi. Kuti mumvetsetse chiyambi cha mawu awa sizimavuta konse. Kotero ndi manyazi ndi momwe mungachitire nacho? Ndithudi, anthu ambiri amafunsa funso ili, koma kuthana ndi vutoli kungakhale kovuta kwambiri.
Makhalidwe a anthu amanyazi
Kawirikawiri, anthu amanyazi amawopa kwambiri maganizo a wina. Iwo nthawi zonse amaganiza kuti izi ndizovuta kwambiri pamene simukukonda wina, zimapangitsa kuti munthu asakuvomerezeni, kusakondwa kapena kunyoza. Anthu oterewa, sangathe kuikapo chidwi, amaopa kufotokoza maganizo awo kapena kuteteza ufulu wawo. Amayesetsa kupeŵa nthawi iliyonse yomwe angasankhe zochita, kulankhula momasuka ndi kupanga zosankha. Chifukwa cha ichi, ambiri amanyazi amaopa kuchita zinthu ndipo samapindula m'moyo. Anthu oterewa sangathe kudziwana ndi alendo ena atsopano, amaopa kulankhulana, kutenga bizinesi yatsopano kuti asalephere.
Kunyada kumavulaza anthu
Nthawi zambiri munthu amachita manyazi komanso amadzidera nkhaŵa zomwe amalingalira za iye, za khalidwe lake. Komabe, izi zonse zimagwira ntchito potsutsana naye. Sizichitika kawirikawiri kuti anthu amayang'anitsitsa mokwanira matalente ndi luso la munthu, nthawi zambiri mosiyana, ndipo munthuyo amasiya kufotokoza kwake konse. Muzochitika zoterozo, zovuta zilizonse zosasangalatsa komanso zosasangalatsa zikuwoneka mofulumira kwambiri, nkhawa, chisangalalo, ndi kuvutika maganizo zimaonekera. Zonsezi zimachitika kwa anthu amanyazi.
Ndi manyazi, kumenyana ndikofunikira. Vutoli ndilofala kwa anthu nthawi zambiri. Koma kwa munthu aliyense izi zimawonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana, nthawi zina munthu akhoza kukhala ndi vuto, amakwiya, amachepetsa maso, samatha kulankhula komanso amanjenjemera.
Zifukwa za manyazi
Tonse timadziwa kuti ana aang'ono amakhala okondwa komanso osangalala. Amakonda kukhala pamaso, kufotokozera momasuka maganizo awo. Ndipo sizikudziwika bwino kuti chikhalidwe chonse ndi chikhalidwe chimatha ndi zaka. Akatswiri pa nkhaniyi ali ndi malingaliro ambiri ndi malingaliro. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti manyazi ndi achilendo, ndipo ena amakhulupirira kuti manyazi amapezeka m'moyo wonse, monga momwe amachitira zinthu zosautsa zomwe zinachitika kale. Pambuyo pa zonse, munthu aliyense ali ndi zovuta pamoyo wake, zomwe zimakhudzana ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana za moyo. Kungakhale vuto la maganizo, kapena ngati munthu wakulakwitsa kwambiri pa kulankhulana, zonsezi ndi zokwanira kuti manyazi asinthe maganizo a munthu. Zitha kuchitika ngakhale pamene munthu alibe chidziwitso choyankhulana ndi anthu, luso lolankhulana, komanso wodandaula za momwe zochita zake zingayamikiridwe ndi anthu ena omwe amamuzungulira. Ndi nthawi zovuta kuti munthu ayambe kudzichepetsa yekha ndikudziona kuti ndi wosafunika komanso wosatheka.
Malinga ndi a psychoanalysts, manyazi amapezeka chifukwa cha mikangano iliyonse yamkati. Izi zimachitika kuti mwana akhale wamanyazi, zokwanira kuti makolo aziyankhula naye. Kawirikawiri makolo amauza mwana wawo kuti ali wamanyazi, izi zimagwiranso ntchito kwa osamalira m'kalasi. Mwanayo akamakula, amayamba kudziyerekezera ndi anzake.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi manyazi
Kulimbana ndi manyazi ndi kotheka. Koma pofuna kulimbana nawo, muyenera kupeza chifukwa chenicheni chomwe chikuchitikira. Nthawi zina munthu samamvetsa mmene anthu omwe amamuzungulira amachitira. Amayamba kuganiza kuti amatsutsidwa kapena sakondwa, koma sadadabwe, chifukwa amadziona kuti ndi woipitsitsa kwambiri kuposa wina aliyense, choncho zotsatira zake sizidabwitsidwa.
Kawirikawiri, kuyembekezera kwakukulu ndi kuyembekezera kumachitika. Anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi anthu oterowo amayamba kuwayang'ana ngati otaika, kuwapatsa mayina awo ndi kuyesa kukonzekera pa mavuto a mtundu wina. Mungathe kuchotsa manyazi ngati mutayesetsa kwambiri. Ndi wamanyazi mungathe kumenyana m'njira zambiri, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire ndi anthu osiyana kwambiri kuti mukhale omasuka komanso omasuka muzochitika zilizonse. Tengani nokha chisankho chosintha moyo wanu, mukhoza kutembenukira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti akuthandizeni, zidzakuchitirani zabwino.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa nokha kuti ndi zopusa kwambiri kudandaula ndikudandaula za zomwe anthu ena amaganiza za inu. Ndipo pambali pake, anthu omwe amakukondani, amakuyang'anirani ndi makhalidwe anu, osati ndi zizindikiro zakunja.
Yesetsani kuganizira nthawi zonse, makamaka ngati nthawi zambiri mumaganizira za anthu oyandikana nawo. Ngakhale anthu sakugwirizana ndi inu, kapena muli ndi maganizo osiyana, musataye mtima, ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kuti akuyesera kukutsutsani. Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulirane, ngakhale ziri zovuta, yesetsani nokha. Kawirikawiri kumwetulira kwa anthu, yesetsani kukhala achifundo ndi okondweretsa.
Musadziweruze nokha, yesani kudzutsa chisangalalo. Musadzidandaule nokha, ngati munena chinachake cholakwika, khalani nokha ndikupitiriza kulankhula mwa mzimu womwewo.
Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga, ziyenera kukhala zothandiza kwa inu, mwinamwake chikhumbo chochikwaniritsa chidzatha.